My husband says I treat him like a peice of meat

My husband told me he feels like a peice of meat when we have sex. I don't do anything different from anyone else except sometimes I think dirty thoughts in my head to help me to have an org**m. He thinks I should be able to have an orgasmn by thinking about how much I love him while we are having sex. Is it ok I am thinking about how good it feels and how sexy he is to make me orgasmn?
Also he loses part of his erection after I orgasmn. He says its because he can tell I am not feeling loving towards him. I love him but I can't think about love when trying to climax. Very irritated to the point I don't want to have sex with him.

He sounds kinda selfish! Giving your partner an org**m is a kinda ultimate connection (except for having a child together) that you two can share in my opinion. If you are thinking about how sexy he is, you're thinking about how attractive he is and how much you love him. You wouldn't have sex with him if you didn't feel that way. It's a natural response we have, otherwise our species wouldn't reproduce!

I think you 2 just do not fit to each other in the bed.
Healthy woman will not climax by the thoughts of her husband's love.
She will need bumping and banging.