My girlfriend wont go down on me.

My girlfriend and a I have been dating for about 6 months. shortly before I met her, she had a fling with this guy, and though she claims to have never had any real feelings for him, she got drunk one night and went down on him twice. early in our relationship I mentioned that I would like her to go down on me, I didnt make her or get mad, I just mentioned that it would be nice. I have gone down on her before and she used to hate it, but I told her to give me a chance and that maybe she would like it. she told me that she enjoyed it, and wouldnt mind me doing it again if I wanted to, but if I didnt want to then she would be ok with that and she said that the sex was more than enough for her. im not a big fan of going down on girls but I love my girlfriend and wanted to do something that is solely for her pleasure, and I thought that it might make her less nervous about going down on me. shortly after this she began to tell me that she was working herself up to going down on me. her parents were going to be gone for a week so I was going to spend the weekend at her place, for the 2 weeks leading up to the friday I was going over, she built up that she was ready to go down on me almost excited about it, naturally I was about it too. when the day came all we did was have sex, that night I asked her what happened to her preparedness, she said that she had forgotten but that she would do it the next night, so I dropped the subject. next day was the same, nothing. I asked her again and she said that once again she had forgotten, and that the next time we had a chance she would. this was a couple of months ago. and it was kind of a dead subject until recently, when I mentioned it again. then the other night she was drunk and I was in a meeting, and she sent me a text message reading 'hurry up I want to give you head'. I got out of the meeting picked her up to come spend the night at my place, and when we got there we got into bed and she kissed me and said good night and went to sleep. when I showed her the text message the next day she said that she would have if she hadnt been so tired but that if she got drunk enough at our party that weekend that she would. at the party we were dancing, and she told me that she wanted to give me head, I said I wasnt sure if I would let her do it drunk, because she wouldnt be doing it becuase she wanted to, she would be doing only because she was drunk enough. her reply was 'I dont care, im going to tie you to the head board so you cant stop me.' to me it sounded like she was serious. once again after the party though, we got back to my place, and she fell asleep as soon as we were in bed. I am starting to get mad. she is just teasing me, getting me worked up about it then deciding not to do it. it would be different if she wasnt bringing it up and telling me she will and then not doing it. also I feel like what is different between me and the fling, why was he good enough or hot enough or whatever that she OFFERED to do it and she wont do it for me. she always has an excuse for why she didnt, like 'I was tired', 'what if im bad', 'I forgot', and 'its gross'. I cant remind her because I will feel like im forcing her. I dont care if it isnt great, im willing to work with her, it wont make me love her any less. am I being unreasonable? what should I do, remind her, forget about it or what?

This is a nice story, maybe you can take her into bed with some beer or vine, and wait for the moment when she is in good mood but not tired yet.

that's kind of stupid, she will have sex with you but won't give you head? if she thinks it is gross then why did she do it 2 times with another guy! I think you hooked up with a tease.

I don't think she's trying to tease you, she probly just doesn't like it.. it sounds like she's avoiding it because she doesn't want to do it and its difficult for her.. if you care about her, you shouldnt get angry about it... with my girlfriend, I'm completely in love with her and its very similar... I know how confusing it is.. she's tried a couple times, but it didn't last long, but she also has trouble breathing while doing it, so thats part of it... the longest she did it for was when she was drunk, but I felt the same way as you, like I was taking advantage, but she just did it without me asking her.. but that only happened once and I dont expect to happen again.. if thats the easiest way for your girlfriend to do it, then let her if she wants to.. I think it would only be a problem if she's getting drunk all the time just to give you head, then I would back off..

as for the other guy she gave head to.. this may sound weird, but maybe his d*ck size is a lot smaller then yours and it was easier for her... or maybe she was just making it up because she just met you at the time and was afraid you would lose interest if you knew she didn't like it ... it could also be that she had a bad experience before and that she's afraid to tell you.... im not too experienced with relationships, so I hope my advice isn't way off.. but even if its none of those things, try to be understanding... it sounds like she cares a lot about you and wants to try even though its hard for her... maybe one day it'll get easier for her, or maybe not... but theres nothing wrong with jerking off when your by yourself and dreaming about it.. maybe thats all you have, and I know it sucks.... but if you love this girl, then theres more to your relationship then just giving and recieving oral .. I dont know how im saying all this because I have a lot of trouble sometimes too, but hang in there...

IF YOU THINK IT IS SO UNFARE AND THAT SHES A TEASE DO THE SAME THING TO HER THAT SHES DOING TO YOU

dude if she is having sex with you but wont suck you off just start eating her out all the time and refuse to have sex with her till she gives you head. your not completly cuttin her off but it will pay off in the end.

ever think that she was ashamed of what she did and do you think that you pressured her into sex.plus she was drunk. I think you should tke a whileto think this out÷(

Hey
I feel for you man, I am in a similar situation... my girl will do a little licky licky but thas about it. I think that its probably not because she doesn't like you, and like others said she was drunk with that guy. It seems to me that she's probably just not comfortable with it. Think about it... would you want to stick a dlck in your mouth?? I wouldn't . . .it's one thing to lick some ice cream.. but another to lick a lollipop. I think this is relatively common. Maybe she was raised Catholic.. and she's afraid the holy trinity will pop out of your dlck... who knows? What I would suggest is that you give her lots and lots of oral. Tell her how you love to make her feel good, and I mean *love!* Don't say it with the tone of voice like you're trying to suggest to her that she should do it... this is counter -productive and she'll likely resent it. Show that you genuinely love to make her climax with your tongue, and eventually she'll want to do it to you too. So stick it my man, and start doing tongue pushups because it can be a lot of work!

Huh? what do you mean by 'going down'???

Your question sounds like something my boyfriend would have wrote. He really wants me to give him head but I really don't like too.

I am one of those girls who doesn't like to give head but for some reason I too go all crazy when I'm drunk, I hardly ever go out drinking anymore and I'm not going to get drunk all the time just so I can give my boyfriend head but it does help. Another thing that helps me to get in the mood for head is a romantic night of pleasure. It's a date where all you do is please eachother. Valentines Day is a great time for that. Also add some fun to it, try using ice cubes and have a glass of water next to you so she can keep her mouth wet. Also you could try using some chocolate body paint. I have some it's real chocolate that you melt in the microwave, then it's just like licking an icecream and you have to keep going till it's all gone. For someone who doesn't like giving head these are someways to make it more enjoyable for both of you.

Hope my advice helps and you can try it out sometime.

Uhh... this isn't hard... say you want to eat her out but from the 69 position...

Once she's in that position and you start eating her out, and your d*ck will be right there for her to return the favor...

But yea, the comment about fact that that other guy she gave head to might have had a small pen*s... Its true... My pen*s is larger than average and my girl doesn't like giving me head... cause its too much work moving the head up and down in coordination with her hand... doesn't matter anyway, I hate blowjobs... no girl has been able to do it right for me so far...

My God... Can't You Tell She Probably Only Says Shes Gunna Do It Because You Wunt Her To Sooo Bad And You Keep asking Hurr..and Because Your Making Hurr Feel Guiltyy. For Goodness Sake Yaw Above Me Aree Stupid
He Didn't Hook Up With No Tease. She Just Don't Wunt To Do It Yet. and Helloeee Genious She Whuz Drunkk when She Gave The Other Dude Head. People Do a lot Of Stupid Things When There Drunk My Bestfriend Stripped On Tha Table When She Whuz Drunk. Anyways It Seems More Like Your Tryna Force Hurr To Do Something She Just Don't Want To Do Yet. and Tryna Make Hurr Feel Guiltyy For Giving Just Some Guy With A Fling Head and Not You. Mayby There Whuz More To That Story That She Ain't Tell You. Like Mayby It Whuz Gross and Regretting To Hurr...All Im Saying Is If Youu Really Love That girl Like Youu 'SUPPOSIBLYYY' Sayyy Youu Do, Then You Wouldn't Keep Questionin Hurr About That. and Let Hurr Do Stuff When She's Ready. Because If She Does It Now And Ain't Ready Just Does It Tah Make You Happy and Shut Up, She Might End Up Regrettin YOUUU and What She Did With YOUUU. and You Don't Want To Be The Boy She Regrets If You Really So Called Love Hurr.!

-Shaylin Niyee Soulliard

Hey sad story try telling her to use flavored condoms she might not like the taste in her mouth. I think that sucks for you that's one of the favorite things I like to do when I have sex.

stop asking her to do it. Yah, she forgot but you should remember next time when you get into bed. Don't ask, just work it down. Asking just breaks the feeling dude. If she doesn't like it, then she doesn't like it. People are all different. At least she had the sense to txt you when you really felt like it.