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My friend is being molested by her dad?

Asked by fau 11 months ago, 12 answers.

my friend came to me asking me what she should do her dad is molesting her and her sister and their mom is in the hospital. her little sister already told her teacher that her dad was doing this and they got put into a foster home and later the two...

sister told the judge that the one sister lied now there back with there dad and he cheaps on doing it. she told me that the judge said if anything happens again that she and her sister will be taken away from her parents for good and she dosent want that. what should I do or say?

kat von d Answered by blindedwithin on Nov 30, 2008, 10:08PM
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they wont take the kid away,they will take the dad away

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35 weeks pregnant (Yes, I have a sports-bra on) Answered by stephanief987 on Nov 30, 2008, 09:02PM
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There is no way they'll take them from there mother, she's in the hospital obviously doing nothing wrong. They will end up keeping them somewhere till the mother is okay enough to support them, the father needs to be punished for this, they need to tell the police right away. There is no other way around this, something needs to be done.

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Ah. Answered by akumo on Nov 30, 2008, 09:17PM
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Exactly as Steph put it. Tell her to contact the right people, maybe give her some information on Child Abuse hotlines.

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me Answered by foxracing on Nov 30, 2008, 09:19PM

her mom also has a tumor in her brain!!!

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35 weeks pregnant (Yes, I have a sports-bra on) Answered by stephanief987 on Nov 30, 2008, 09:24PM
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Then they'll most likely get sent to other family member.

Answered by uniquekiki on Nov 30, 2008, 10:39PM
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We would like to all believe that your friend will be sent to live with the mother and that the father will get arrested, but that does not mean it will happen. I know in CA it doesn't always happen like that. I was in pretty much the same situation as your friend is in and I have known many other people in that situation. We got taken from our home and we were put into the foster care system. Our dads did not get any punishments besides having his kids taken away. She needs to chose whether she wants to deal with this or if she needs to get out. Even if she doesn't want to leave she has to consider whats best for her and her sister.

mynxy Answered by jayjaymynx on Nov 30, 2008, 11:32PM
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When I was little my friend confided in me the same exact thing.You need to tell your parents immediately so they will contact the police. If you don't feel comfortable doing that you must tell someone at your school so they will do it ( they are mandated by law to report abuse) or you yourself can can police or the state DCYF agency. You can call anonymously but make sure you give them your friend's home address tell them you don't want to be questioned beyond that one call. Please don't ignore this. That pig will not stop.Be extra supportive to your friend try to keep in contact when if she does get placed in foster care. Another accusation means a better chance the pedophile will get locked up for a bit or at least get a no contact order from his daughters they will not have to move permanently, but he will. Good luck.

Friend and Me Answered by boombox on Dec 01, 2008, 07:21AM
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I was molested when I was younger, and when it happens to you, you always think your in fault. she needs to tell someone before it gets worse. No one should put up with that. They will not take her from her mother for no reason, the dad will be punished. The best thing to do right now is to be there for her, and let her know that things will work out. After I told my mom what was happening things only improved. I hope this helped.

me Answered by foxracing on Dec 01, 2008, 09:35AM

shes is on anti depressents because she is suicidal if she gets put into a foster home shes going to kill herself and if shes put with her mom she wont be with her long because her mom has a brain tomer.

Answered by leslie23 on Dec 01, 2008, 08:48PM
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Oh my goodness! Well, if your friend doesn't want to be put into foster care, would there be another relative she could live with?
Her father needs to be locked up for good. He's nothing but perverted and sick! Either you or your friend need to tell the police before things get worse. Your friend and her sister shouldn't have to go through this since their mother is in the hospital suffering from a brain tumor and such. It would be better to live with either another relative or maybe hope and pray that the mother will feel better enough to take care of both daughters.
Your friend can't commit suicide! if she does end up in foster care along with her sister, then she needs to talk to someone about her depression and suicide. You know, I've been there done that when it came to depression. I had my moments with my father when I was 20 21 having him doing his share of touching, and fondling me inappropriately. All you can do at the moment is support your friend and try your best giving her advice and continue to counsel her and give her advice the best you can.
I know it's no fun being molested by a parent especially the father. Like I mentioned, he needs to be put away off the streets before something happens.

imma gangster...well i try :) Answered by ilovechelsi on Feb 01, 2009, 01:41PM
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they wont take the kid away,they will take the dad away

yes they will, they take any child under the age
of 18 (or 17 depending on where you live) away
if they think that the environment is unsafe.
if their mother is in the hospital with a tumor, they
will send the child to be person your parents have
chosen to be the people to send them to incase they
die or something.
if someone in the family can't take them in only THEN
will the kids go to a foster home.

trust me, I was almost taken away because someone lied.

Me Answered by baby19942008 on Jun 20, 2009, 10:22AM
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Wait so why did her sister tell the judge the other sister lied? Did she know they would be sent back to the father? If she did, she must like being molested. Not trying to be mean. If I was put in a foster home, I would want to stay there. If the police and judge did nothing and If I was being molested by my father, I would beat the sh*t out of him or kill him for touching me or my other family members.

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