How to get my dad to stop drinking?

my dad is constanly getting drunk and taking all his anger out on my and my older brother korey... last night he threated to beat me with a metal pole and said I was a worthless pice of shi* and that he wouldnt cared if I were to die and told my brother the same and that we ruined his life and he hates us and wished he would have put us up for adoption... I love my dad in all but this is realy getting old ...he is fine when he is not drunk (but anymore more he is drunk 99 % of the time) what should I do ??

Go to a relatives and I really think you should get your dad counseling!

you really should go to some one that you are close with and try and get your dad counceling so it doesnt get any worse for anyone.

my b/f is trying to get me to move in with my grandmother

Tell someone, even if you have no family, call one of those hot lines. Or even the police if you need to.Child services will do what they can to keep the family together with counciling. What your Dad is saying is just BS probably. When guys are drunk they are irrational. They get mad about stuff and say stuff that they normally would never say. Most of the time they don't act on what they are saying. But they might. And if it's coming down to threats of violence that is where I would draw the line and take action, for both you and your brother. I know it's scary but getting help can sometimes be that way. Make sure when you do call or tell someone that he doesn't know about it. That you are in a safe place, that way if he finds out you have said something to someone about it you won't be near him when he gets angry. We wouldn't want you calling a friend or neighbor and then that friend or neighbor just calls your Dad and says 'the kids are concerned you are drinking too much' and then that wouldn't get you anywhere at all. Not everyone knows how to deal with that kind of situation. Please tell someone grown up and in a authoritative position like a teacher or doctor or police officer. I hope I helped.

I know he raley hits me ... but I just want him to quit he used to be so nice and kind and happy and easy to talk to now all he does is yell and throw stuff

He's upset b/c he's going through divorce and your mom hurt him GET HIM HELP he can be helped.

talk to him about it when he's not drunk!!
and if it's because of your mom, tell him to forget about her, and tell him that this is how life goes, good people win, bad people lose!
good luck and a lot of succes

Stereotyping is not good for society. Angry people can become irrational when they drink excessively. People with problems take their frustrations out usually on weaker people when they are angry, anger is the deadly sin as identified by Catholic teachings, not drinking alcoholic beverages, although drinking can and does have long-term health effects and short term risks. The combination of drunkenness and anger is apparently what your problem is with your abusive parent.

Drinking is often the only form of social involvement alone or in company of others that many people find suitable to treat stress and medical conditions, and perhaps to provide some feeling of contentment. Prohibition was dismissed as being necessary due to such general consensus. Obviously in your case there is extroversion that find blame in you for perceived or real hardship and you are not obviously to be blamed, you are an excuse for venting ill feelings.

The guy who went up into he woods and shouted at the tree while naked was charged with indecent exposure and disturbing the peace when someone heard him and investigated. Presumably he was trying to prevent his wife from such abuse, was he sober I wonder?

The problem of verbal abuse and threatening behaviour can be solved by involving your governmental social services, or moving to your grandmother's until your father finds his lonliness to warrant his ceasation of drunkenness to permit you to return home. Social services can deem that a psychological assessment is warranted, that could involve the police for forced restraint and delivery.

If physical assault or property damage occurs, the police can intervene in your domestic situation as that would be within their call of duty. You would make a statement and the police and perhaps the Crown would determine to lay charges as deemed to be warranted, perhaps in combination with the assessment of mental health issues. The court would probably require a recognizance and perhaps find favour in his commitment to attending Alcoholics Anonymous if the problem is long-term.

Alateen is for teens with alcoholic parents...kids in the exact place you're at with your dad...You're not going to get him to quit drinking by telling him to, or hiding his booze...but to go out and DO something FOR YOURSELF, to give you the support you need to 'handle' his drinking...well, that may very well open the door for him to take an honest look at himself, see what it's doing to his kids, and give it up...

You need support...one thing you'll find at Alateen is the 'truth'...about why he drinks...and you'll be surprised...really...Even HE doesn't truly understand why...

phrannie

yeah he still is upset about my mom but she got re-married 6 years ago ... he had girlfriends that were pretty cool and they left cause of his drinkin' ... I am going to try to talk to him about it