My boyfriend has changed, should i stay with him? :(

my name is dan Asked by dan41790 about 1 year ago, 8 answers.

Okay... so my boyfriends completely and totally changed. He used to be funny, and easy-going. And I loved being with him because I could trust him and didn't have to worry about him cheating on me and he was interested in me as a person... and didn't...

only think of me as someone to fool around with. Like most guys I've been with have. And I really liked that he treated me good.

Lately, I really don't know whats been going on.. but I'm just not happy right nowsad

We've gotten more sexual within the last couple months, nothing really big though. I mean, we haven't had sex or oral sex or anything. But I feel like he's only nice to me when we talk about sex, and doesn't really talk to me about anything else now. All he cares about is getting in shape, and getting a six pack for some reason... and just stupid things he wouldn't normally care about. He's gotten taller over the summer, and I'm thinking that it just might be his horomones. But that makes me really worried that he'll cheat on me, and I don't know what to do.

I've been happy with our relationship for a long time, but now that things feel so different between us... I've been thinking about taking a break or something. He's become everything that I never wanted in a guy. And he used to be someone that meant so much to me. sad It's really sad.

I know I'd be so sad without him, but things just aren't working out for us right now. I know the right thing to do would be to talk to him about it... but I'm not sure what to say. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. sad

fallen angel :) (studio pic) Answered by butterfly_kiss3z on Sep 06, 2008, 01:20PM
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awww... I've been in your situation and I've recently had a longgg @ss talk with my boyfriend a several days ago about something similar to your situation. top question is, do you still love him? eventhough he's changed? if so, talk it out with him! communication is key! - simply tell him what you've explained in this question, how it feels like he's changed, that the two of you don't share enough time together, you're scared you're losing your spark between him... ect. if you love him still... there should be a bunch of things you want to say to him to keep the relationship going! just keep in mind that everyone changes hon!... what matters most is if he still has the same feelings for you when the two of you started going out! think it over first... think especially of the past and all the momeries you two have shared... then share it with him and see if he remembers thoes special moments too and if it still means something too him! just keep in mind, that if you still have feelings for him and still love him - and he dose too, then stay with him! but if you think the relationship is drifting apart... I hope you don't just stay with him cause you'll feel lonely and lost without him! - don't feel too attached! cause if you do... that'll just cause heartache!

hope this helped =]

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elevator Answered by captainassassin on Sep 06, 2008, 11:59AM
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How long have you been together?

elevator Answered by captainassassin on Sep 12, 2008, 08:03PM
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I see...

So what will you do then?

(: Answered by marrxo on Sep 06, 2008, 12:00PM
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well about should you stay with him it all depends if you are happy with still if not dont brake up with him but if you r still happy with with him stay with him
and dont wrry guys change a lot it can be good for him but bad for you but you have to change too or just dump him but let him go easy
hope you like what I told u
p.s follow your heart but use your brain happy

elevator Answered by captainassassin on Sep 06, 2008, 01:25PM
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***I've known him for a year, and we've been together for about that time. Kind of off and on.***

And... as far as the 'sexual' stuff is concerned... are you waiting until marriage?

elevator Answered by captainassassin on Sep 06, 2008, 02:08PM
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Because of this...

***We've gotten more sexual within the last couple months, nothing really big though. I mean, we haven't had sex or oral sex or anything. But I feel like he's only nice to me when we talk about sex, and doesn't really talk to me about anything else now.***

From reading this, it seems like he wants your sexual relationship to progress. Maybe he's getting tired of waiting, or something like that... that's why I asked.

elevator Answered by captainassassin on Sep 06, 2008, 02:42PM
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***Oh okay, I see what you mean... but I don't know what to do about it. Are you saying that we should make our sexual relationship progress more ?***

NO...

If that IS the reason why he's losing interest, you should drop him... but we don't know that for sure... yet. I need more details about it first. Did you discuss the 'sex' issue during the time you've been together?

Answered by angelfire2708 on Sep 06, 2008, 02:34PM
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Sex isnt going to make a relationship, nor will it save one!

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