My boyfriend accuses me of cheating and I'm not...

I'm at a lost! My boyfriend constantly accuses me of cheating and I'm not, never have, and do even think about it because I love him and want only him. I haven't even came close to cheating, don't talk to other men, and again I don't want anyone else. He actually convinces himself that things are happening and they aren't. When he's not being consumed with these crazy notions, he is the most loving, caring, sharing men I've ever known. But once he convinces himself that I'm seeing someone else, he changes to the most distant and mean person that won't listen to reason until he cools off. He breaks up with me, or I don't hear from him for a week, he won't even answer his phone. We've been dating for 2 years and when he's not acting up we have a very close and loving relationship. And as far as I can tell, he's not seeing anyone else. I fear that it is time to really end the madness. What should I do? Is there help for a person like this?

he seems crazy and outof his mind

I got an idea as a guy, go and tell him, 'baby,lock the doors and keep 911 on stand by, were going to bust some furniture in here( not fighting, rough sex is what I mean) it would snap me into reality and it should work, but if he stills raves on and on, then tell him 'why are you still with then, if youre for sure'

wait,scratch that first peice of advice(the sex) and save it for an occasion . best o luck

I had a relationship with this girl. I loved her, still do... but we're no longer even friends. I was so in love that I always convinced myself she flirted with other guys. I couldnt stand her smiling at other guys just in good conversation.
we must have broke up 15 times (seriously). whats funny was I ended up flirting .. lots/ which ruined my relationship. I didnt realize what I had until it was gone...FOR GOOD.. like she wouldnt even LOOK at me. even though she once said she loved me.

maybe if you smack some sense into him.. leave him.. talk to him... I dont know... just make sure hes not cheating.

I know my ex is incredibly happier then she was with me and our fights and my accusations. shes happier, im not. maybe you should end it.. up to you. hope it somewhat helped. -joe

oh God, you have no idea how happy I am to have found this post. My boyfriend does the EXACT same thing. He has even went as far as to tell me that people he works with have seen me in his car with another guy, funny thing is, I was by myself. He also even went as far as to tell me once that HE saw me, well, once again, you guessed it, I was by myself so I feel your pain. I thought I was a sorry girl friend and was making him feel unwanted, then I thought maybe he's insecure and I should tolerate it because I love him and I want to be with him and only him, the sex is the BEST BY FAR that I have ever had. I fear losing him and I do not know what to do. Like I said, I ALWAYS trusted him, however, this past friday night he told me he was going to hang out with his guy-friends and play guitar, well he was actually watching a movie at the local theater, not just any movie, the one movie that WE had been wanting to see TOGETHER since we found out it was coming out so I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but well....I'll let you know when I find out just exactly WHO the person was he went to the movie with, may be a post from an in-mate but well, we will see

well I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and september and I go through the same thing he always accuses me of cheatin but the only difference in you and me we live 2getther so we will go back and fourth for hours about how I cheat on myspace and a bunch of other stuff but not to go on and on but I think you should just sit him down and try to keep pounding in his head that your not like that and pray he gets the picture

I am going through this right now - and BAD. I live with my boyfriend as well and I am finally figuring out something. As bad as it hurts, and as much as you think it will get better, I am starting to learn that it won't. I thought it would be they will never change. Even if you think they are and it seems good for a while, it will always pop up again. You need to quit making your life miserable and move on - unless you want to spend your life with someone that does not trust you and fighting. They make you feel like you are a bad person when you are not at all. Relationships are supossed to be fun, loving and trusting. It should be like you are with your best friend - and does your best friend try to control you? Does your best friend trust you? You should NEVER settle for anything less. You deserve a happy, healthy relationship. And trust me that is not healthy.

This is so interesting because I am also going through the same situation with my boyfriend. We've been together for almost a year now and it's just really getting out of control. I feel like I can't do anything right. I'll just be sitting at home and my cell phone will be in my room and I'll be somewhere else in the house and if I don't pick up or call him back within the next 20 minutes, it turns into a big issue. I love him so much and as someone else said before. When he's not accusing me or being overly jealous.. ITS GREAT! I feel like I need to leave him, but I guess I just don't want to be alone. I truly feel for you because I know exactly what you're going through. Even though we are in the same position as it stands, I will offer the best advice that I can in which I've recieved from people who care about me. I would say that NO ONE deserves to be unhappy in a relationship (you, me, or anyone else for that matter) so follow your heart. I'm not sure if you're are a religious person or not, but the best advice I've heard is just to pray on it and god will help you through your struggle and if he leads you to leave him; you'll know that it wasn't meant to be and that was just a lesson for you to learn. I wish you the best of luck along with everyone else who is living through this painful and stressful situation.

well its difficult to say but you might have to buy something guys like if that dose not work just talk to other guys dont hook up just talk and see if he does anything if not find another guy ofr begg him to start talking to you.

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I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years now..living together for the last 3 of them..and during the past 3 years and even before, he has suspected that I have cheated on him and am currently cheating on him, and have even lied about the number of past sexual partners (which is actually zero)..I am not cheating on him, and I don't want to..I know every relationship is different, and there may be something for someone to have suspicions like this..but I fell completely in love with him, would do anything for him..things were good, then things were okay for a while, but not the best, we both were a little distant from each other, we each were not sure of the other's feelings..then things seemed to get better..then came the suspicions, then the accussations, then the complete off-the-wall crazy accusations about men I worked with, his friends, his brothers, random men at places we shop..then the horrible, horrible name-calling..it has progressiviely become worse and worse..it has turned me into a person I don't like, full of so much frustration and fear and anger and solitude..sometimes things are good, and when they're good, they're really good..but when they're bad, it's ugly..really ugly..I had hopes and desires of a future with this person..marriage, family, fulfilling our dreams together..but all the good and hopes are overshadowed by all the negativity and mistrust and they way it makes us both feel..I don't know where his ideas and suspicisons are coming from..it seems like everything I do has to be picked apart by him and analyzed and suspicions are found in everything..my advice to anyone going through a similar situation in a relationship of 1,2,3 years is stay with the person if you want to keep feeling the way you are and probably keep feeling even worse as times goes..I think it is becoming more and more clear by my experience and from what I've read here that if you're in a situation like this, then your partner not only does not know you, but he also does not see you as the person that you are and so the two of you just should not be together..even if you don't belive in fate and people being 'meant for each other' you can still observe when two people should just plain not be together..I know it's hard when we have such strong hopes and feelings, but we all must face the truth and come to reality

why are there so many guys that doesn't trust us? I am going through the same situation. It's been two years now and it feels like there is no improvement. I tried my best to make him trust me but he always comes up with stories on how I cheated on him. He would always get so angry and worked up when he questions me about if there's a guy at my place when he isn't there. I am just so drained and tired. I really do love him but I JUST don't know what I should do anymore.

My boyfriend and I have been together for five years and have a four year old daughter, he is exactly the same way. Accussing and sneaking around looking at my cell phone numbers and watching behind me while I am on the computer etc,,, I have never cheated on him and NEVER would. He is a great father and is everything I want in a partner and lover yet his trust issues are destroying everything. He has these delusions about who, what and when I have cheated on him, etc.. So much he lets it consume him and he starts to drink which just snowballs the issue. Last week he had one of his episodes and started drinking and I ultimately said to him, you need help with your not being able to trust, its destroying us. I asked him to leave and get help somewhere and I was done with him. For years I had been telling him to stop punishing me for the wrongs that were done to him by other people and that I loved him. Very long story short, he was soo distraught and admitted that he knew I was not unfaithful but confessed he couldnt help thinking that I was. He ended up committing himself to a mental health center for depression, trust and abandonement issues from his childhood, and dependent personality disorder. I love him and hope he can get the help he needs but years of defending my INTEGRITY is exhausting and I yearn for a normal life and a love that just isnt soo hard.I have prayed and prayed for guidance for our sake but mostly for the sake of our daughter who adores her DADDY, perhaps him getting help in this manner is an answer to our prayers. My advice to those of you who are in the early stages of dating these men is to address the issue early and see if it changes if not ,move on and pray they find the help they need.