My 4 year old wont listen!

Ok. I have a 4 year old girl. She has recently gotten so bad. I tell her to do something and she ignores me or tells me no. I spank(not beat her, but pop her enough for her to feel it) her and it is like it does not phase her. When we were in a store yesterday she pitched an awful fit because I would not buy her a toy. I spanked her but she would not stop. Does anyone have any special ways they discipline their children? A corner does not work for her. It has just gotten like this the past couple of months. I think it has to do with her Nanny(my mother in law). But it would help if someone had some advice for me. I dont want to make anyone angry but I do believe in spanking and my mind wont be changed about that. It just does not seem to be working anymore with her. So thanks in advance for the advice! God bless!

YOU GOTTA BE MORE AGRESSIVE SHOW HER YOUR NOT PLAYING AND YOUR SERIOUS . .

Ok. I watch my aunts 3 kids, my cousins. They are 6,4 and 3. And, have the same problem. They will ignore you when told to do something, you hit them, they laugh.
When your in the store with her and she throws a fit, walk away from her and say bye (obviously dont go out of sight) but, she will get up and follow you. Hitting doesn't work with my cousins, so we take things they like away from them when they are being bad. The 4 year old loves to watch tv, so when she is bad, she gets no more tv for the day. Thats the only way she is going to get better. Start taking things she enjoys to do away. I think you should also talk to your mother in law and tell her your rules.. so that way your not doing it for nothing.

I wish you all the luck!
=)

1. if you think its the nanny's fault, dont let her babysit her for about 2 months or so, and see if theres any difference in her attitude.
2. after you spank her and she is still throwing a fit, pop her again. tell her more aggresively 'no' or w/e the problem is.
3. if you are at home and this happens, spank her, send her to the corner, and make her sit there. no tv. no games. no nothing. then, ask her about 10 minutes later if she will do it again. if she says no, yet does it again, do the same treatment but longer. if she says yes, make her sit there until she says that she wont.
4. if she backtalks you, gently pop her in the mouth and tell her not to ever talk back to you again. then spank her.

hope this works, it did on me... lolz
God Bless

Thank you all for the advice! I am going to use it!

BUST HER DAMN ASSS that will make her mind it does mee

tell her that if she gets nicer then ull give her candy. if you dont want her to have sugar, then give her sugar free candy. my neice loves candy and shes 2. well, all of my neices love candy, but with kaylee we reward her with candy with every thing she does, and it helps her get better. when she is a brat, I usually tell her to take a nap, or put her on time out, and if she goes on time out I ask her if shes done being a brat, and if she says no then I turn off the light and shut the door, then she cries, and says shes sorry and that shell be nicer. candy or time out usually works. but mostly candy