How can I get my mom to relax?

Kay. My Mum is going PSYCHO. We've recently moved house and she cries every day because she hates it and thinks there is so much to do when there really isn't. She loads herself down with unnecessary housework and when I say "I'll do it" she refuses to let me do it. This sounds so selfish but it's getting annoying and it's distracting me from homework or whatever I'm trying to do. I do help out around the house but its never good enough for her; she just cleans, then manages to use it against me saying I haven't done anything! Do any of you know anything I can do to calm her down and de-stress her?! Thanks.

Hi,

I think there are one of two things you can do.

#1: Just give her space. Do your homework in your room and just let her clean and be and hope that she'll relax on her own.

#2: Be proactive about it. Make coupons that say "Free bath", "Free hug", "Free vacuum" and give them to her. Then she can give them to you whenever she wants to use one, and you'll run her a bath, hug her, vacuum the house, etc. for her.

okay heres what you do
1.)stay out of her way
2.)when she cries hug her and dont let go
3.)whne she's not home clean as much as you can she doesnt have to do it and then when she does get home make her sit down while you get her somthing to drink then tell her what you need to say 'good luck

Dear strychnine,
Your mother sounds like she is suffering from depression. It sure would be nice if we could fix such things but she needs to see a counsellor and a doctor. Is there a trusted relative you can speak with? Don't be afraid to talk with someone...you could be a great help just by speaking to someone who is able to help. Find out about clinics in your areas and go see what type of information booklets they have there. Read them yourself so you are able to speak with others in your family with knowledge.
Sue...good luck

Why did she move if she hated it? Did she have to move or something?

Your mom is having a hard time adjusting to a new enviroment. Obviously you can do things before she asks to help destress. I don't know what you do around the house, but I know you can do more. If something needs done DO IT, don't ask if you can help. Just do it. Yes, she may come along and fix it again anyway to her liking but at least you tried

She thought the house was great when she saw it.
Then she moved and suddenly hated it.

I do do my homework in the room I try to stay out of her way its like she comes INTO my room and purposely does things... starts tidying things that dont need tidying.

I guess I can try to do more.
She's just a verrry stubborn woman.

okay this is about my friends mom not mine but I want to give her advie on what to do when her mom freaks out on her and her sister...this really isnt an answer but I need help!