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Love at first sight, or just some big pupils?

Most Recent Asked by ashyharris about 1 year ago, 2 answers.

Why do people seem more attractive when you are gazing into their eyes?

Many years ago the behavioral psychologist Arthur Aron put opposite-sex college students in a room and asked them to reveal intimate details of their lives: their most embarrassing...

moments, what they'd do if their parents died, and so on. Then he paired them up, man and woman, and told them to lock eyeballs for four minutes. No talking, no smiling—just gazing. Deep gazing, like lovers. Later, Aron quizzed the students on how they felt about their partners. Deeply attracted, most said. So deeply that a couple that were strangers on the day of the experiment allegedly got married six months later. You might open the heart by sharing intimacies, but, evidently, you reach it through the eyes.

Looking directly into a lover's eyes is like looking into fire. As Nietzsche put it, If you gaze for long into an abyss, the abyss gazes also into you. Thanks to a shot of adrenaline, your palms sweat, your breathing gets shallow, your skin feels hot, and your pupils dilate. Your amygdala, the center of the brain that processes emotion, blazes with activity. At the same time you produce dopamine, a _feel-good neurotransmitter that is associated with passion and addiction, and oxytocin, a hormone related to bonding. So intense is the mutual gaze that there's only one way to amp it up: deeply penetrate your partner's eyes during slow rhythmic sex, as prescribed in the Kama Sutra (not recommended with a stranger).

The most fascinating theory about eye gaze is that just the act of doing it can enhance, or even initiate, a feeling of love. Most of the time we think that our faces reflect what's going on inside our heads, but, for at least some people, the expression on their face becomes a genuine feeling. Psychologists call this facial feedback, and Darwin was among its first believers.

Assuming you are a romantic, gazing into another person's eyes makes that person appear more attractive to you, and just might help you fall in love. But is it real love? That remains to be seen.

I found this off a website. Its really interesting and amazing to think about. Tell me what you think. :D

meeee!!!! Answered by cutiebooty on Oct 28, 2008, 08:41PM
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SWEET! and actually very true!

Just me. Answered by amanwithalotofanswers on Oct 28, 2008, 09:38PM
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Nietzsche? Wow. Andromeda reference! I've seen that quote on the show! lol Love that show!

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