Why do I lose interest in the guy once I have them?

The problem is your not liking the guy your liking the thrill of the chase and capturing your target. The only way to get past this is self control and will. You have to notice when your doing it and try and stop. It will help to keep things exciting. You may have caught him, but the two of you can do things that keep you interested. Find other things that challenge you in the relationship or your life.

May be you haven’t found the perfect person for you yet. Once you get the real person i am sure you will love him forever.

Because you probably haven’t gotten or have forgetten what it felt like to be treated in the same manner that you treat the guy. Do onto others as you would like done to yourself. That’s not just a religious quote but also a way of life. Give what you want and you will get what you give. If not then move on. No guilty conscience there.

That’s why I never let down my guard. Thanx moe….

I am the same way, so i made a goal to take things incredibly slow so i never lose interest. I realize that I love the initial start of a relationship but once we get even a month in, I feel like i am ready to move on. I hate the feeling, because i am worried that once I meet the girl that i want to marry I will lose interest or something worse, or maybe I will never be able to marry someone successfully and maintain the relationship. Right now, I am taking things agonizingly slow, and I feel great about the relationship. I hope that things stay that way, and I am sure there is a solution for my lack of satisfaction, and i hate feeling selfish like i do when i get tired of a girl, but slow seems to be the way to go.

Don’t be in love with the act of falling for someone. Sometimes people like the act of falling for someone more than they like the person their falling for.

Agreed, the thrill of the chase

This has happened to me before (on the receiving end). I know you can’t help it, but know that it hurts to be the guy in this situation, especially if he was shy as a kid, like I was…

You probably naturally prefer a challenge. Hopefully you’ll grow out of this by the time you want to settle down because older guys will NOT tolerate that like young guys will…

I always used to have this problem, after a month id get bored. I’m now with a guy who ive been with for 6 months and i still feel like ive only just met him…i guess it just takes the right person for you to be able to be interested in them for a really long time. I always used to think i preferred things being exciting and new, but with my boyfriend, everything always feels that way, even though we always do the same stuff :)

i was like that too. once a guy proves to need me, i walk away. but i have settled for a 7month old relationship now. thankGod, i wanted ditching him though. but something keeps “i dunno”