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Long but i really need help to deal with this

\m/ yeeahhhh Asked by ilovemetal23 10 months ago, 3 answers.

k so I need someone from the uk to help me on this
I want to know if I can move out of my house with help from any authority
the thing is im clinically depressed and I cant do anything, no school work, no college applications, I cant eat properly, I...

cant stay healthy and well my mum makes it so much worse
because she keeps starting on me for no reason and insulting me
the days I feel positive and think about making a start on some coursework she starts shouting ill ask why shes shouting and she keeps lecturing me (she says I should accept her husband as a dad even though he tried to rape me, she dont believe me though, he is also a criminal, takes drugs and is a male prostitute - long story)
anyways thats usually how the arguement starts then she insults me and it makes me feel suicidal
so im thinking if I can move out into like a council place or something to sort myself out maybe it will help for awhile
im wondering how old I have to be though to get help like that
and I also have a therapist who I talk to but im scared to tell her or ask her for help incase my mum gets mad at me
what do I do?

Answered by leslie23 on Jan 06, 2009, 03:25PM
1095 answers

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this.
I'm not sure the moving age but, I'm guessing 18 could be the age to move out. Your therapist isn't supposed to give out information to your mother since they're supposed to keep whatever you tell them confidential. If your therapist is telling your mother things, then she isn't a good therapist. I would go directly to the police about what your dad almost tried to do since your mom doesn't want to believe you.
I'm sure the police could find a place where you would be allot safer and such. There is no need for you to be living this way especially if your mom and dad are doing this to you. You need to seek help right away! depression and suicide is pretty serious stuff and I can tell you don't want to go that route. I don't blame you since I myself almost tried to comitt suicide recently back in June since I'm also been having family problems too. I'm also in counseling and most therapists and counselors are supposed to keep things confidential. I know mine does. I wouldn't comitt suicide. I think its a great idea to live elsewhere and if you call the police or better yet, call social services and maybe they can find you a better home.
That way, you can get your life turned around and such. Take care!! and I really hope you seek help right away.

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Answered by 1345abzter1345 on Jan 06, 2009, 08:28AM
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Sorry but I dont know really know bout moving out bit but maybe if you went to the police bout everything uve said and also you cn ask them bout moving out and if they have any soloutions - I know talking to the police may make your mum angry but you are important too.x

gd luck and sorry I wsnt much help.x

Me :) Answered by beth_liveyourlife on Jan 06, 2009, 09:32AM
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youre therapist isnt supposed to tell your mum anything you tell her, its SUPPOSED to be confidential and if she is telling her then shes not doing her job properly. You have to be 18 without parents consent although you can leave at 16 but with consent and I hihgly doubt you're mum would agree. I feel so sorry for you as I know someone with a similar problem if your mum doesnt belive you then thats really bad. You're her babygirl and shes siding with him over you. I dearly feel for you and im always here to chat

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