How can I tell my mom I was raped?

Well I got raped when I was about 7 years old and I still havent told my mom and he has come ovralmost every day after that but he hasent latly what should I do im 13 now and I want to tell my mom but I cant !

OMG
ok babe,
this is really big
no matter how old he is or anything
its against the law
he cant be doing those things to you
you HAVE to tell your mom or the police or someone
babe, no one is going to blame you
your the victim here, you did nothing wrong
he did, hes the creepy rapist
you HAVE to tell your mom ok
just say it like this
'mom, 'I know this is your worst fear
but since I was 7 years old...'
just spit it out
since you were 7 you've been going through that sh*t
dont take it anymore
tell your mom!
do you want him doing that do other girls?
no!
so please tell someone
you'll be helping everyone
but most importantly, yourself
mssg me when you tell her babe!
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talking about this might be hard but you have to do it. try writing a letter. you can give it to her and then talk, or read it to her or just use it as a guidleine for talking to her but it always helps if you don't have to organize your thoughts as you speak. but don't over think it. just do it.
just write it and go straight to her. no stops in between. what happened is not your fault. and talking to your mom about it is going to help. there is no second option. you have to tell someone.

Who you tell about this is completely up to you--I do recommend, however, that you seek mental health counseling to help you cope with things and move on to a new chapter in life. RAINN http://www.rainn.org... is a good starting resource for you. If you're faced with a situation like this again please contact law enforcement as soon as possible. Rape is a violation of every aspect of life and it shouldn't be tolerated, period. I do wish you the very best; stay safe and keep posting. -S

Omg I feel so sorry for you hun!
This is a really difficult matter to have to talk about with anyone.
You really should tell her, she can help you to get over it and obviously stop this man coming over.
If you cant tell her face to face then you could just write it all down in a letter and leave it where she can find it.
Once she knows what you have been through you will feel so much better and gradually everything will start to get better. Moms are here to help you through anything!
If you think it would be to hard to talk to your mom first then find a number you can call with people who are willing to listen to you. Then maybe after you've done that you could take the next step to telling your mom.
Message me when you've told her babe.
I really hope everything goes ok, I'm sure it will do.
Hope this helped.
xxx

It's hard I know. But for yourself and for anyone else that might be abused by him you must do it.

Know that what happened was not your fault and that now you should do what is best for you.

You and your mom should go to the police station to make a statement and to get a restraining order.
A counselor on the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1.800.656.HOPE can help you understand the process.

Write down all the details you can recall about the attack(s) & the attacker.

Recognize that healing from rape takes time. Give yourself the time you need.
Visit RAINN.com to find a crisis center near you. Usually they can help with court issues and provide free counseling.

Know that it's never too late to call. Even if the attack happened years ago, the National Sexual Assault Hotline or the National Sexual Assault Online Hotline can still help. Many victims do not realize they need help until months or years later.

If you need to talk please funmail me. I was raped from about age 4 to age 19 by my step father. It's very hard to go through but know you're not alone.

Keep in mind: what happened to you was not your fault. You dont have to go through this alone. Tell your mom, she will understand. Dont be afraid. Tell her.

Hey there! well about your situation! I just wanted to say that your not alone! many pple are sexually abused***including me*** I was a victim also!!! ...I was sexually malested and abused from da ages 8-18...(by my own uncle)! & I was raped when I was 10 by someone else!...The uncle I mean ***A-hole***...thing didnt stop untill I was 18 and thats because I kinda broke his ankle! lol =P Well one day I was arriving from skoo and just locked myself in my parents room...I was watching tv and da A-hole...was in da living room getting drunk***by da way(((he lived w.us eversince I can remember)))*** well I was just minding my own business and well I was a lil' thirsty so I went 2 da kitchen adn I guess I forgot 2 lock da door!...***dumb of me***, I hear footsteps and like I could see him looking in under da door...so I got up and den dats when everything happened...he was trying 2 open da door and I was battleing to close it...well I finally did lock it but ...in my parents room there is 2 doors...***one inside & da other facing da street*** Since we never open da door facing da street I thought it was looked! but it wasnt! He tried to come in, his foot was already in adn I ran to close it!!! but I couldnt he was too strong! I didnt know what else to do..so I just keept on pushing and pushing...untill finally I made it!!! I guess I pushed da door tooo hard so hard that it not only closed but it pushed him off da 5 step stairs...He fumbled to da floor and he den just acted like nothing had happen and went inside to da living room...later one of my aunts came for him and asked me what had happen. At first I was ashamed! I thought that if I told then they would think bad of me...***I don't know ***...well I told her and she took care of everything...she took him 2 da hospital and he couldnt walk for a long time! ***that made me GLAD*** =) By da way if your wondering...y didnt I tell my parents...=...(1.) my mom knew but she didnt do nothing about it...and she passed away when I was 12...=(...(2.)my dad...well he knew that year but didnt do anything about it! I mean I was scared 2 tell him because I thought you know maybe hell go all crazy on him and end up in jail or sumthing...but ...***nope*** he didnt do a damn thing about it! ... Dont get me wrong...I love my dad but im just dissapointed that he didnt do nothing about it!!! ((( I dont blame him)))... ...WELL NOW WHAT IM TRYING 2 TELL you IS that AS LONG AS you DONT DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT...IT IS GOING 2 HAPPEN AND HAPEN A LOT...IT WONT STOP UNTIL U ***PUT*** A STOP TO IT!!! SO you DECIDE...DO you REALLY WANT IT TO CONTINUE OR GET IT OVER WITH AND TELL your MOM ASK FOR HELP nad if she doesnt do anything about it...well HELP URSELF*** you put an end to it!!! If she doesnt believe you then dats her problem...aslong as you speek up and be heard everything well get better*** I PROMISE U***!!! ...So please do sumthing about it! Take care of urself PLEASE*** n' lock your doors* & always remember We are da victims and da those***...A-holes are at fault Not us!!! WE WILL GET THOUGH IT!!!*** feel free to add me or funmail me!!! take care!!!

Every adult knows that they mustn't have any sexual relations with children, that it is very wrong for then to even think about it.
Let me tell you something, and although you can't possibly understand this at 13, you must absolutely take my word for it, because I see life from a very grown up perspective- I have lived a long time and know a lot more than you do.
(just think how much more do YOU know today, than you did when you were 2 years old?)
... so, even if you pulled down your pants, opened your legs and said 'have sex with me' you would still be 0 % responsible for what he did to you.
If you felt that you didn't do enough to stop him, or if you did nothing to stop him, thats normal and blameless too. Adults have a mental power over children, that makes kids give in to what they want to do. You will really learn to understand this as you get older.

If you are still feeling that it might be partly your fault, then get this; feeling guilty is a pretty common response and it is one of the reasons that children are too afraid or ashamed to tell anyone. Another reason could be that you feel that you are dirty and spoiled.
Adults feel guilty when they interfere with kids, and the kids pick up this feeling. You must now dis-own these feelings of guilt .
When ever you have feelings of being bad, or guilty, this is what you must say to yourself; I am a child and can never be responsible for what this man did, I give this guilty feeling back to him so that I can learn to feel innocent and beautifull again.
Maybe you could write that message on a big bit of paper, maybe your mum will find it by 'accident' - she will ask you about it if she is ready to deal with it.
If you come across any leaflets about sexual abuse- pick them up and leave those lying around for her to see too. Once you know she's seen them and will have had a little time to prepare herself, wait a few days and then say 'I really have to talk to you about something really important' let me know when you've got an hour or so.
If you know she's seen your notes or leaflets, and then she asks you ' is there something bothering you at school'- this is a sign that she is prepared to hear what you have to tell her . You should say 'nothings bothering me at school but there is something bothering me about 'what ever his name is''...if you really want to know whats bothering me, you're going to have to ask me some questions because I don't know how to tell you about it'

This is the reason that I suggest hinting and leaving leaflets before you tell her straight;
Rape/ abuse will be a very hard thing for your Mum to accept, not because she wants to think you are a liar, but because its sooo horrible that her little girl was sexually abused.
It's like when someone dies, the people close to the dead person take a long time to accept it, they just can't beleive that the person is dead!
Dropping hints prepares your mum for being told- and she must be told.
If you take your mom by suprise, with no prior hinting, she may react badly, and you dont want that to happen.
The little hints will likely go un-noticed, you should expect this. You must give bigger and bigger hints untill she reponds. If she still doesnt come to you to ask you about your life, than you have to make the first move.
BTW becoming annorexic is not a good way to hint - your Mom will probably NEVER put the two together, and instead of support and understanding, you'll just get ill and ugly!
I notice you posted 1 month ago and havent been here since.
How are things now- is the man still around- is he still abusing you?

I was raped to thats how I got my baby any ways I was raped since I was 6 until I got pregnant any ways I told my mom she freaked and told my dad and a few days later the as*hole mysteriously disappered but my mom comforted me and im doing fine now see I got really depressed before I told my mom but I look at the now I have a baby out of this whole thing

sweety im so sorry...
I think you should sit her down and tell her slowly...
it will hit her hard and she won't know how to react.

im so sorry dear..
just know that I'm praying for you.

OK I AM GOING TO TELL YOU THE TRUTH, TELL YOUR MOM, BUT THE BAD PART IS THAT IT HAPPENED 6 YEARS AGO, WHICH MEANS HE CANT BE PUT IN JAIL, BECAUSE THE TIME TO TELL YOUR MOM WOULD AHVE BEEN NOW, SINCE THE RAPE DEADLINE TO ARRSST SOMEONE IS 5 YEARS THE POLICE CANT DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT, SORRY, BUT NO LIE, TELL YOUR MOM

Well first of all, you need to tell our mother. I was raped at a party and my mother was dating the guys father. He was my age and I didn't want to ruin my mothers happyness so I kept it to mysellf for 2yrs. Those were the worst 2yrs of my life and I regreted every min. of not telling someone. I'm not going to lie. At first your mom will act diffrently. Not because she blames you but because she feels bad she was unable to protect her little girl. Please it will hurt at first but in the end, it makes all the diffrence.
P.S. When I finnaly told my mom I wrote a letter gave it to her and whent for a walk for 15min. To give her time to soke it all in. when I came back she was crying but wasn't mad. She just kept hugging me over and over again. if your afraid to talk to her just write a letter and come to 'talk' to her on you're own time.

well maybe you can give her signs. Or just plain tell her that will be easier because if you dont than you never know when it can happen again. And when it happen the next time you may not be so lucky trust me.

why dont you just tell her you were only 7

Just tell her like right now. I was raped about a year ago and I didn't tell my mom for like a week after and then the guy had already raped some other girl. I felt so bad. I cried for ever. Telling her is really the best thing to do. When you were 7 you didn't really understand what it was. Now you do because you do understand. She WILL NOT be mad at you, I know that my mom wasn't. She had my dad call the police right away and wouldn't leave me alone with anybody. To this day I am not allowed to stay afer school without somebody else being there even if the teacher is a woman. Telling your mom is really the best thing that you can do for your self (and others) She really will appriciate it. She will be happy that she can get this sick man behind bars. By telling her you can prevent him from ever doing this again. I wish you the best. God Bless

dont wait to tell your mom any longer just go ahead
and tell her how it happened she will believe you!!
shes your mother!! dont feel shy I know how you feel!!
it happened to me too! I didnt know what to do!!
when I told my mom I felt so much better!! she knew about
it and she knew what to do!! I never felt that much love
from my mom!! now she takes care of me like a lot!!
she will understand you! dont be scared!!

IM PROUD OF YOU FOR TRUSTING US!!
now make me prouder by telling your mom!!
people who love you are going to be by your side!!

youre brave!!

u shouldnt even b on this website then you shud know girl,tell yure mom and call tha police!

Tell her fast before he comes over again.!! Don't keep it inside, it will only ruin your life. I wish I would have told at age 7, but I thought I was protecting my family. This is not something you should have to deal with. Give it over to your mom and God. Good luck in your life.

okay this really big I know how you feel I've been there the only thing you need to do is tell your mom you want to talk to her in private and its important then I know its going to be hard even if you cry its okay thats nothing to be ashame of it ain't your fault the person who did it should go to jail for doing that stuff to you and just let yourself go and tell her this is very serious if you were my daughter I would want to know that to

tell your mom please. my dad raped me when I was 10 and I told my mom when I was 13. she beleived me even though I thought she wouldnt but they got a divorce and she totally supported me. tell your mom it will all be okay. please.

ok im 13 and iwas raped for the longest time and I just told my mom ok its going to be hard but listen you really do need to tell someone like if not your mom someone close you need to get this off your chest just write her a letter if you cant say it in person it really helps :D

OMG I'm really sorry about this.
you suppose to tell your mum at that moment but anyway tell her the truth right now. and don't make her feel guilty about it because is not either of you 2 fault.
good luck with your life.

first you need to know that its not your fault...it will make you feel much better after you tell her.

Bring her into a seprate room and tell her you need to tell her something very important and you are scared to.

you can also tell her you would feel more cofortable if you told her in a letter (if you do)

tell her who its about and a little about when and where this happened.then you could say I'll tell you the rest in the letter and she will probably give you a hug and want to know more but you can tell her you feel uncomfortable talking about it and she will most likly say ok and go in your room and write her the note.

I hope this helps!!

You really need to tell her!!!

What if he rape you and got you pregnant?!?!

I no how you feel it happen to any to but it was from someone in the family and he did it to me from the age 5 rite up to now I am 15 me will be 16 on the 22 of this month he only just stop because I cn finly stop hm by my slef bt me cnt tell my mum or dad please help me 2

look you have to tell ni told my boyfriend who asked his mom to call my mom and dad and im glad that I told him they were all pissed off at the guy I was to but they were upset that I didnt tell at first the guys in jell now and me and my boyfriend are happy again and moved on wev been together 4 5 years it happend 3 years ago I was scared that he woodnt look at me the same but he does because its not your falt shes not going to get mad

I know what you are going through, it hapened to me too but only he did it to me over and over again for most of my childhood . but adventualy I told my parents and I am glad I did, so just tell your parents and you will feel a lot beter.

Do not worry about telling your mom tell police this man is sick ! Get HELP now! Then tell your mom this is not your fault it happens to I would say 90% of kids. I was one and told and I am happy I did.

BABY YOU HAVE TO TELL YOUR MOM. IM SAYING THIS BECAUSE I WAS RAPED 1 YEAR AGO AND I HAVEBT TOLD ANYONE YET. BUT I AM BECAUSE I HAVE TO. THE LONGER YOU GO AND YOU DONT TELL ANYONE THE WORST IT WILL GET. SO PLEASE TELL YOUR MOM. ALSO TRY TO GET GELP WITH IT BY GOING TO WWW.RAINN.COM

TELL YOUR MUM! TELL YOUR MUM! TELL YOUR MUM!

I Know how you feel. my babysiters Boys all raped me. one after the onther. they would even wake me up in the middle of the night. it was every day this happend or any time I went over there. or they ( the oldest mostly) would touch me. My dad only found out through my step mom b/c we were fighting. she ask me if I was still a vergin and I told her no. and told her about the boys. after that she went out and told my dad. I woke up to my dad sitting on my bed and he asked me why did I never tell him. We could have done something. Well I was still angery and said well its in the past now and we dont need to deal with it anymore. my dad got upset and sat me down and had a conversation with me. So tell your parents they NEED to KNOW. I could tell you I felt a huge relief knowing that my dad knew. I have been wanting to tell him for so long and now that I did fell better.
But, I still have dreams and memories and certain things makes me think of all thoes nights. I still cry about it. TELL THEM THEY NEED TO KNOW.