Are these mind games?

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years now! My boyfriend whos in a differnt country txts me all d tym bk in the past in the more fresher days but he has stopped now and sed he hsnt got credit to cal me and leaves me to cal and txt him, when I ring him he gets happy when his in the mood bcoz he lives out because his at uni..his always surrounded wiv his m8s...when I do ring all his m8s want to talk 2 me which is cool...half of them have sed his crazy about me and talks about me like anything! he also says he loves me misses me and also wants to get married but problem is he is playing mind games and he also tests me on things to see my reaction why is that? or isit somrthing else?Ok to all the guys out there what are the hints of mind games exactly? please let me know...his just bked off from contactin me and also when I contact him bcoz im totally hooked and I keep gettin worried because I think he will leave me...is he playing a game so I feel hooked on him and wont leave or what? guys and gals out there please help me...I love him to bits although his like 4 years older than me aswell...so his got more experience in a relationship...he tests me a lot to c what my reactions gona b like and what id do...I dont know im confused does he love me or isit just games???

:'( HELP

just ask him straight upp

nope cant do that...I need real answers...for my self only lol help me please! I dont want him thinkin im gettin all paranoid...HEEELLPPP

He may be 4 years old than you, but playing mind games is not being experienced in relationships. He seems to be keeping you at arms reach, just in case he doesnt find anyone else.

I've ready read your previous post about you finding a girls # in his cell, and when he left for the University, he cut back on his texts. Then told you he was seeing someone else. These are NOT signs of love. Especially from somebody you've been with for so long. He is most likely leaving his options open, and wants to see what else is out there. Actions ALWAYS speak louder than words!!! If he is telling you one thing, and showing you something else, chances are, hes not being honest. If he truly loved, and missed you, he would want to talk to you. Nothing would hold him back, but he has no need to call you, because you constantly call him. You need to give him some space. Make him want to miss you. No matter how much you call him, it isnt going to stop him from doing what he wants to do. If he leaves you, you cant blame yourself, because it wouldnt be something you did, or didnt do. HE is the problem. My advice, since I've been in a similar situation with an ex, is to let things happen on their own. You cant try, and hold something together if the other party isnt willing to do their part. If things are meant to be, you will be together in the end, but for now, dont call him so much. Let him come to you. If he truly means what he says, then he will show you. Its a waiting game, but dont put yourself out there, if hes not willing to do the same!

mmm yeah I agree...you know I asked him who that girl was he loked at me and he goes 'there are some things you wud neva understand'...then he said I dont even know who the girl was...then he said you wudnt understand,,,but the thing is confuing me is...y are his m8s...tellin me his crazy about me???

you need to stop calling for awhile ,if he really miss you ,he will call, he is acting like that cause he knows you will always be there for him no matter what he did, so don't be available all the time,let him miss you,may be when he feels that he might lose you,he would show his love more,if he really cares, but if he didn't call so he doesn't worth it, and you deserve someone who loves you and cares about you more and appreciate your presence in his life,good luck.

Umm Im a guy xD and most of you girls think we like playing mind games.. Umm we really dont... Think about, in what way can that at all benifit us? Just ask him straight up because if you guys are as close as he tells his friendds, then he should have no problem with being honest with you. Also I have a special other and we are completely honest with eachother. It's amazeing, not only am I atracted to her, but shes my best friend. Try it out!!