How can I fix my ugliness?

I'm fat and ugly... but my friends say I'm not but my family do. I told my friend 1 day that I am ugly and she said you're not. she got my other friend beside her and asked her if I was she said no your not ugly at all! But a moment after a boy called my name I looked over and he said you're fat! and ugly!

It really hurt me. I want to lose a lot of weight I asked my mum one day but she didn't take it seriously. She's not a mum that you can talk to easily.All my friends are wayyy skinner than me and prettier than me all the boys fancie them. They never get picked on. same old story how can I lose weight without my mum knowing and how can I make myself feel pretty?

Do you think im pretty? You can see a picture of me on my homepage go on to it and see. thanks

Hey Rebecca don't let anyone make you feel you are ugly. You are not ugly but, you are beautiful. If you want to lose weigt lose it because you want to not for someone else to make you feel better. If you are always trying to please people you are going to keep yourself miserable. Say to yourself ,'I AM PRETTY'. Tell yourself everytime you look inthe mirror. This will help you build up you self esteem. God bless

diet and exercise are the best way to loose weight
dieting pills are dangerous to your body
just eat right and exercise a lot

God, I'm so glad I'm out of school.

Do whatever you can to just be comfortable in your own skin, honey. I can tell you a million times over every single day that you are beautiful all over, but one little wanker can tell you that you're ugly and fat and THAT'S the gospel truth? Listen to what you're choosing to believe about yourself.

Kids are cruel. I was called ugly and fat 100 times over. DO NOT EVER again say, 'I'm ugly and fat'. Because what you focus on, what you believe, it becomes reality. Focus on doing things that make you feel beautiful. Singing, drawing, working out, whatever.

Don't rely on your friends, family, or enemies to tell you whether or not you are pretty or ugly or fat or skinny. You are what you are and I know that deep down, you don't truly believe that you are ugly or fat. You're just giving yourself over to stupidity and ignorance by allowing yourself to believe what some nitwit told you. And believe me, that little boy who said that about you went home and spanked his monkey thinking about you later. They alll do.

I saw your picture, and believe me im the kind of person to let you know whats the REAL DEAL! your not ugly, you just have to hook yourself up. by that, I mean do your hair. I see you have straight hair. try to put it in a pony-tail. and put a light amount of make up on. probably bronzer and mascara. for beauty and hair tips look at magazines like glamour, they can help you real good. or GOOGLE IT! =]

as for the confidence? you need it. you should build up your self-esteem. Every girl is beatiful as long as their confident about it too. excersing without letting you mom know? you should do crunches inside your room and push-ups. and at gym at school? Be prepared, and do what the gym teacher say's, it works! =]

a good way to have fun and lose weight is to join a sports team at your school, I am now in 2 sports and I have lost at least 20 a year

well on the picture it dosent look like your fat !

#1. The first way to change the way how you look, is the way you feel about yourself. As someone else stated above, look into the mirror every day and say 'I am pretty', also try to focus on the aspects of your self that you like the most. For example: beautiful eyes etc.
REMEMBER THOUGH, IT IS BETTER TO BE A FIRST RATE VERSION OF YOURSELF THAN A SECOND RATE VERSION OF SOMEONE ELSE.
Be yourself, and don't hold back. Last year I had a very low self esteem and I was very shy, I don't know what exactly happened that made me change my mind about how I felt, but it surely did not begin with my out side apeirance first.
Who cares about what others think about you, if you are happy and healthy, why should you feel miserable for someone elses convinience. Which by the way, I seriously do not think that everyone looks at you and says you are ugly. Guys sometimes say that just to be funny, I know it is probebly not funny to you, but they also do not want other guys making fun of them for telling a girl she is beautiful. Guys are sometimes akward, so do not listen to them about beauty tips.

dont let anyone tell you what you are.

and the key thing to remember is that if you feel pretty, you are pretty
and if you act confident, you will look that much pretty-er
I myself am not skinny by no means, but when I am confident, and dont care what others say about me, I look good. and thats all you need to remember!

but if you really want to loose weight, please do it the healthy way by exercising and healthy eating, instead of aneroxicia and bullimeia... because that is not attractive or healthy

okay.. if I were you, I'd put some brown in my hair and put a little bit of makeup on. You got glasses, but you know what, it works for you. Your not ugly and it seems to me that in the picture you arent fat. Just do something different. Dont do what your friends are doing. You're yourself. Be unique. Be different.

sweetie don't let anyone make you feel that way. everyone has their own beauty. maybe some people may not think so but you are beautiful the way you are. your friends are right. dont let anyone bring you down. all it does is hurt u. believe this or not, I used to get made fun of, I acctually still do sometimes... it does hurt. I have had tons ofd problems with people like that. they're ideots, dont let it get to u. people are just doing it to make you feel bad.

Thanks guys your all so sweet ill try everything to build up myself asteam and ill not listen to what other people say about me. I am who I am. thanks again

if you think you're ugly, just follow these tips:
always be well-groomed
always fix and tie your hair
always take a bath
after taking a bath, put powder on your face,lotion 2 your body and put alchohol on your hands
ALWAYS SMILE!-the best
be neat
always keep your clothes clean, pretty and cool!
AND IT DEPENDS ON your BEHAVIOR

your not ugly, don't listen to people who do call you that.no one is, I think what makes a person ugly though is a bad personality

hi I can relate to you loads and loads with your post I have always had an extremely low confidence level and realy , realy hated myself (yh you may think im not not fat but really I am) to be honest who is pathetic enough to call someone ugly or fat .. those who feel it themselves and I have always been the 'fat friend' too lol or 'hey fat one I want to shag you' but im soo over it now you just have to tell yourself that you are beautifull and pick out one thing you love about yourself e.g- eyes or chest me I think I have a pretty face and am not ashamed to say it now but at one time I cried whenever I looked in a mirror and it used too take me 3hours in the morning to prepare for school (crazy isent it) I would also suggest buying so self help books and just google and you will find some easy enough to download amazon or ebay (I got the fat girls guide to life the other day :O amazingg .. anyway MOST OF ALL DO NOT LISTEN TO SOME HORMONELY IMBALANCED SHALLOW TEENAGE BOY whos trying to make you feel bad because he proberly has features he dislikes such as a small nob! JUST LOVE YOURSELF because I have been in your shoes and I know it is possible too .. take care - Emme p.s I hope this helped in some way too

First off, you are NOT ugly, you are beautiful. You have to feel good about YOURSELF, not what others think about you. Everyone has an opinion about how people look and some people aren't very nice. You are at an age where you are changing and things may not look like you want them to, but they will. The best thing you can do for yourself is just take care of yourself. Eat right, but don't be obsessive over it. Exercise and have fun. You are still young, enjoy your youth. Believe me, it doesn't last forever. Keep a journal and write down the things that you love about yourself, inside and outside. No one is perfect, keep that in mind. These people who are telling you that you're ugly are only insecure about themselves, and let me tell you BOYS are so much more insecure than they let on. Find those things you think are wonderful, focus on them and relish them. Become confident in who YOU are and hang what everyone else says. They don't have to live the rest of their lives with YOU, YOU do, LOL. Don't compare yourself with anyone else, because everyone has different body shapes, types, color, etc. You aren't going to look like anyone else, you are only going to look like you.

Wow, you are not ugly at all. you have really great bone structure.Try makeup if you dont already wear it. you dont need a lot, just maybe eyeliner and a little lipgloss, and if you want to loose weight, go for it.

Dye your hair,make-up,buy new clothes,etc.There are TONS of cosmetic 'fixers' out there,they'll make anyone beautiful.I'm in the process of making myself over right now.Let me know if you want help with anything else.

Your not ugly. . . . I was going to take a picture of someone ugly for you but Every time I tried my camera froze up. . . . . You don't need to change your hair or put on a ton of makeup or any of that silly stuff. . . . . Don't need to by a ton of new clothes just be your self.

ok,DO take my advice since staying the same won't imporve your self-esteem.

you just gotta learn that its you and you have to be happy with yourself, despite of what ANY as*hole says! if you feel like you need to loose weight then I say go for it, eat healthy, excersise, and just be confident! and if anyone ever calls you that again you tell them to suck a d*ck because you arent trying to meet theyre standards of pretty because anyone that would say that to you is someone that you dont need! you know what I mean?

wow I know exactly how you feel[well not the fat part] but in elementary school girls and guys would always make fun of me for being ugly and such. and for the friends part yes they were all so beautiful and I always feel so ugly next to them and the guys always pick them over me. enough about me though, I think your face shape is really strong[not in a manly way but model way] you can wear eye make-up to make them stand out. I found the thing that helped was magazines like seventeen and cosmogirl they have great tips for hairstyles for certain face shapes and what to wear for a certain body type. I think you're pretty already but theres some tips I guess

#1 GET A TAN
#2 Get a less boring hair style your hair is so flat and ugly and BORING, go to a hairstylist and tell them to give you a sexy but sophisticated hair style
#3 loose the glasses
#4 get a fashion stylist so that they can teach you how to dress that shirt is UGLY
#5 stop looking so scared SMILE you won't look as constipated as you do in that pic
#6 Loose the weight WHY ARE SO CHUBBY?
#7 try wearing make up but do it gracefully and in moderation, ask a make up artist at your local department store
#8 avoid looking, cheap, plain, guetto,or like a w-hore (not that you do, but those are the looks you want to avoid)
#9 try to look more sexy, cute, pretty, fashionable, simple (don't over accessorize), girly
#9 flirt with guys

I dont think your ugly at all .. I think you just need to give urself some confidence and usualy a new hair cut helps .. I wudnt go too short although your bone structure is great so I think you cud handle it .. also try a little makeup and see whethere that makes you feel any beter ... also all you need to to to loose weight is eat healthier and excersise a little more .. I know its easier sed thn done but all you need to do it walk tp skwl instead of the car or join an afta skwl sports club or something as simple as that ...

PRETTTY isnt everything you no there is personaletly so it really dont matter about looks!!

PRETTTY isnt everything you no there is personaletly so it really dont matter about looks!!

my only advice would be...ACCEPT WHO you R...U are ONE OF GOD'S UNIQUE CREATION AND.. UTILISE YOUR CAPABILITIES...BE PROUD TO BE URSELF..BE HONEST AND CONFIDENT IN EVERYTHING !!

Hey You are really preety, Im 13 coming 14 and everyone says that they are fat but they really arent, they are really skinny. You dont look fat, It dosent matter how big you are its what your personality is like. Good Luck X

hey hun. I know you've heard this, but be happy with who you are. If the guy calls you fat and ugly, he's a jerk anyways, and you dont need that.
You have beautiful bone structure, maybe some light blush or bronzer, I suggest blush, and for eyes, it depends on what color they are. Brown, stick with the purples and goldens, if they are blue/green, pinks, some blacks, not a lot, mostly grays. Just to high light the shape of your face. You are beautiful! I'm not saying that you need to do this, but hey, it couldnt help. And, if it boosts your confidence, then all the better!

u are lucky you have a pretty face. if you really need help I have a lot of things you can do.
1rst ) you need to wer contacts. they may be a lot of care but they are prettier than glasses
2nd) wear some more makeup but not conserlur becuase you have great skin
3rd) lose weight .. you could just not eat a lot or excersize in private.
4th) wear cooler lcothes ( shop at all the trendy stores)
your hair is gorgeuos and really straight. you are lucky you have no acne or any of thta stuff
just remeber. dont let anyone put you down. you are beautiful the way you are.
love-- ASHLEY

That would hurt my feelings too. You have every right to feel hurt by what they said. They probably were jealous because they knew they couldnt have you. I have an idea. I always make my friends do this if they are feeling negative towards themselves. Name 2 things that you really like about yourself. Trust me it helps. I hope you get everything sorted out. and dont do anything silly to lose weight. Trust me been there done that.. Its not worth it. The best of luck to you.

I think you are very pretty. In my opinion you just need to change those glasses. You have a very pretty face. I wish I had a girl friend as pretty as you.

you're pretty just the way you are! don't feel that way, at least you still have lots and lots of hope, unlike me. try to put some eye shadows on, so that yr eyes would stand out.
try smoky eyes, that way you're sure enough to get everyone to notice you.

you have your own look and girl work it like one of your 'skinnier' friends would you're induvial dress how you want don't care how you look and what people say about it and if you think you're fat which you're not exercise a little bit, I did and one of the newer kids at my school came up to me and ask how do you do it? how come people treat you this way where you're so diiferent? how come they don't make fun of you and they do me??
I simplely said I don't care if they make fun of me or bully me I'm an idivaul and proud of it I stick out of the crowd and they learn to respect me for that.
- Courtney Seeley

thanks guys I changed a bit so im going to upload a pic of the new and improved me and see what you think! itll be a couple of days though! :] thanks for all the comments your all wonderful people :D

Evryone is beautiful in there own way and you should not think that you are ugly. You are perrfect the way you are and no one can take that away from you.

hey - I have a question you could ask urself!

'what really IS hott, or beautiful??'

someone who has big boobs? big eyes??

theres NO way of knowing, because, like your mom used to say, everyone IS different (and who thought your mom was wrong??)

x

Wow, you are very attractive, I don't know what those boys or some of your family are talking about. Don't listen to them.

First of all if you think you are ugly you need to look at yourself and tell yourself 10 times am beautiful. And if you think you are fat exercise eat right and if you do that your self esteem will go up

GOOD LUCK

I agree with everybody advice you are very pretty

erm.. when a girl confessed to me last time, I went and look at her photo is friendster, and she was not pretty. Then when we went out for a first date, she was drop dead gorgeous. So, the point is, some people are not photogenic, and lightings affect the way you look in mirrors. you just have to do yourself up because you are not ugly at all.

I dont think you need to get a hair cut...As long as your hair is healthy youre set. My hair is like yours except I dont have bangs. Its all about how you style it. When you first get out of the shower put about a half the size of a tennis ball of mousse in your hand and rub it into your hair. get your roots good too. Blow dry your hair upside down!! the whole time!! Keep an eye out for your bangs the whole time though too. You dont want them to stick straight up. your bangs could be a little shorter so they wont be in your face. Whiile you dry your bangs swoop your bangs in a downward motion and to whatever side your bangs are trained to go. have them go to either one side or the other. its the look now adays. when your hair is fully dried. see how much volume you have, if you dont have enough then get some hairspray and take it layer by layer from your ear to the top of your head and spray VERY lightly, because you could spray too much and make your hair really greasy. after you have the volume you want, then you can straighten or curl. HOT ROLLERS ARE AWESOME!! I just learned to use hot rollers and its amazing how much time it cuts your styling in half. and you get a lot of volume out of it. If you use a curling iron dont have your hair in the curler no longer than 3 or 4 seconds bc it looks to me that your hair is thin. Now makeup is my specialty!!! Love it!!! Ok when you pick out your foundation dont test it on the top of your hand PLEASE...flip over your wrist and compare the color that way. it needs to match the color of the inside of your wrist. concealer if you want to use it..needs to be a yellow tint, it brightens under the eyes. and thats all I use my concealer for . but you can use it on blemishes if you want. Concealor is first, then foundation. When you put the foundation on put it on lightly!! and always double check under your jaw and chin. So many people have lines there bc they dont rub in their make up enough. next I do my eyes. you always want to use basic colors like tans, reds, browns, blacks and yellows. These are the colors that will bring out your features not scare them. use a light color such as a tanish, yellowish color from the tip of your eyelid to your brow. Make sure it brightens your eye not make it darker. you need darker colors in the crease of your eye to make the feature. next use a brown color and find the bone in your eyelid and go from the outside corner of your eye in, and stop the color at your pupil when your looking straight forward. next if you want ,you can put alittle bit of black on the outside corner of your eyelid for a dramatic effect. after that take your finger and rub your eyelid so you can blend the colors well together. one thing I cant stand is a blob of color on someone's face. eww. next take blush , not red, youre not joining the circus. Your skin tone would look best with a blush with a tint of a light brown and orangish color. Swirl your blush brush in it and look at the brush and blow some of the excess powder off. Now here is where you practice smiling. People are much more beautiful with a smile on their face. find the cheek bone and move the brush from the cheek bone toward the ear. lightly do this the whole time. we dont want a harsh streak from your cheek to your ear. just pat and swipe. next eye liner. Black or Brown. thats what I use. I do the inner bottom eyelid. from corner to corner. and then I touch it up on my top eyelid in the outside corner for more of an effect. and blend. next mascara. if you dont like a lot of it then just put it on the outside tip of your eye lashes. ifyou like dramatic then you can brush your eyelashes through once all the way through then come back and do the outside tip a couple times. powder your nose for oil and then voala. You gotta face. I promise it doesnt take as long as you think. 7-10 minutes tops. And about you losing weight...you do not look fat to me at all. I think youre beautiful. I think all you need when it comes to making yourself feel better is to exercise or do some kind of a work out video you like. Also what helps to lose weight is that you need to eat less meat and no fast food and have more fruits and vegetables. and drink more water than soda or coffee. Think about all the americans when theyre thirsty they go get a pepsi or something. were 70% water not soda. and your glasses...I like them. SMILE YOURE BEAUTIFUL!!!

no1 is ugly your only ugly if you make others feel bad.

for god sakes chica your tiny compared to me! hehe and very pretty =) dont worry about what the dumb boys are saying now, around your age, they are immature, and will say anything to get a girl down trust me. People will learn to grow up as you guys get older.

your not ugly
dont listen to da people who call you ugly
der just jelous because they think you prittier then them
lol

your not ugly at all if you want to try some contacts they bother your eyes at first but he get use to them and wear some make up eye liner eye shadow...

Stop hating yourself!No matter wut they say you are pretty,I think your adorable.My mom's hard to talk to too!she dont giveme advice but my friends do!U cant fix ugliness or prettiness because everyone's pretty in their own way!

your really not all that ugly, but if I were you...
I wouldd..

tan.
wear contacts. green ones..
highlight your hairr
get your hair tapered.. and like put your 'bangs' to the side.. but make sure there not like stright kinda curl them in a lil!!! at the end thats very important...
wear make up, like know how to put on really pretty eyeshadow, like make it light all around your eyes and a dark eye shadow on the arc of the bone in your eyelid..
start wearing abercrombie/hollister go go that laid back bum at the beach look...
brush your teeth all the time, white teeth are always imporrtant..

and if you think your fat start eating healthier...
im no one to give you advice on how to lose weight becaus eim tryng to myself..
just google search on how to better yourself and how to do eye shadow..
dont forget bronzer, conceluer, etc...

good luckk.. if you neeed anything 'fun mail' me and I'll give you my myspace...

No dont do any of that.sure highlight your hair,and maybe a lil tan,but dont over do it.u do NOT need makeup

you're BEAUTIFUL and the only way for other people to know it is if you know it first. some of the most popular girls at my high school (when I went there) were in no way the prettiest ones. but they had the most friends and all the guys liked them. this is bc they were confident and walked with their shoulders back and KNEW their value as women. soon, so did everyone else. hope I helped!

people can be meen and say things just to hurt you dont belieave them you are not fat and your not ugle be proud of who you are and hold your head up high if you feel good about your self others will see you that way too all the best annac

your family calls you fat
OMG
I think your beautiful

well, I think youre pretty. I always thought I had a big ugly nose and thin lips and a flabby stomach. theres so many things about me that I pick on. but it doesnt matter what you look like on the outside. I learnt that ages ago. I mean if you had the choice, would you go out with a hot boy who was really mean or a not so good looking boy who was really nice and sensetive and funny? if I were you I would go with the not so good looking boy! oh and remeber the pretty girls are usually the most lonely in the end!

u are pretty you just dont have enough confidence

if you are going to lose weigth to please others, dont youll just gain more, your very pretty, and dont let anyone tell you otherwise

I think you look pretty people are just hateing

Amazing the age this all starts nowadays.
I would not suggest loosing weight... Since you are NOT fat nor ugly.

Maybe just start toning up your body... And if you don't already, eat healthy. If you can't tone up by going to a gym you and your girlfriends should go for daily walks.

Maybe even try Pilates or Yoga.

As far as the boys go... If possible try to ignore them. I know it is hard. the same goes for family. You have friends that you can turn to, which is something I never had.

Hope this helps...