Im christian, but i'm deeply in love with a muslim

I have been talking to this guy in jail for a year, and fell in love with his spirit. He says things and cares about things guys in the free world don't really bother to say or do. I started talking to him through my uncle who has been incarcerated for...

over 40 years. He reads my uncle his mail when he gets it. he says he loves me and I am his wife, but I'm afraid that we are not yoked just because of religion. How should I feel about this situation?

There are times when religion should take a back seat, and one of them is when it interferes in the lives of two people who share an unconditional love.

If you love each other as much as you claim, you should be able to put differences aside. That doesn't mean either one of you has to change your belief, just leave it out of the relationship.

I agree !

What this poor world needs is more people who love each other - wherever they come from, whatever their backgrounds or faith.

On the other hand - no to throw cold water on you two - but if his faith is important to him - as it can be to many, many Muslims -, the least you can do is to read up on Islam, talk with people who know, learn more about it. There are so many unfounded prejudices - in fact I know several Norwegian girls who decided to convert to Islam after falling in love with Muslims, so it can be done.

The important thing is for you two to learn more about each other, and see what you can build on. I wish you all the best!

Religion shouldnt matter...al that matters is that you care about each other

Frankly, I'd think religion would take a back seat simply because he is in prison...like what's he in there for, and how long is he going to be there?? Have you ever met him face to face??

You're young, and if this is a pic of you...a very pretty girl...Like the internet...what is said when incarcerated might be fleeting words...once out and about. I'm not saying it's 100%, but darn close...You might want to consider the length of his sentence in dertermining how commited you want to be...

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but I'm afraid that we are not yoked just because of religion. How should I feel about this situation?

Thats exactly how you should feel...and also the info Phrannie gave you is something to think about too, BUT in being equally yoked, the Bible does talk about that...it will only cause issues between you two and what about if you have children together? Doesnt mean someone is a bad person because they are different religions, but someone who is so extreme as the differences between Muslim and Christian would be a concern to me...in fact, when I lived in Oklahoma I worked with a wonderful man who kept asking me out and I was so attracted to him as well as he was a neat person and I remained being his friend, but I wouldnt even allow myself to entertain the idea of more...why go there? He didnt believe in Jesus, we were so far apart in our beliefs, that didnt mean we couldt associate and be friends, but more? no...As you know as a Christian, the only way to get to the Father(God) is through his son(Jesus)...

If he is serious about his religion, it will mean many restrictions for you, if you pursue this relationship. I do not believe you would be allowed to continue to be free like you are now. You would do well to study the religion, to see what you are getting yourself into. Also, be very careful, because many people put on a very good talk when they are in prison. He could be completely different from what he is leading you to believe. You would be very wise to use your head instead of your heart in this situation.

Muslim man can marry a Christian woman.

I have the same problem but its more abut my kids. I don't care about her being a muslim, id celebrate her holidays and everything, it would be interesting and fun. but when it comes to my kids (if we stay together that long) I need them to be raised catholic. not because of parents or family or anything like that but its what I believe and is most important to me. She feels the same way and its killing me. I don't know what to do.

First of all woman, get a life. Guys are in jail for a reason. One of them is that they are good at a con, and have learned how to tell people what they want to hear. You really are in love with what you think an idea man is, and a man in jail is not the idea man. There are many reasons why that God warns us not to be unequally yoked. It is so easy to turn away from God and into sin when we are yoked with a non believer. We are not suppossed to get onvolved with people who are outside of our faith. Your 'love' for him will not change him, and you are putting yourself in store for a world of hurt. Just because he says all the 'right things', does not mean he is right for you. Turn...no...RUN the other way, terminate this relationship. There are plenty of good honest Christian men who are NOT behind bars, you just have not found one yet, and you never will as long as you think you have found your true love in jail...think about how little sense that makes...why put yourself in that position? You are putting yourself there instead of putting your energies into church functions, dinners, Bible studies, that could lead to a productive honest relationship, not one based on unfullfilled hopes and dreams...hopping this is good does not make it so...your love will not change the real person he is...get a clue...IN JAIL! You deserve better, find someone with an unblemished character...OUTSIDE OF JAIL!!