I want my ex-boyfriend back but he has a girlfriend...

Okay I had a 3 years relationship and I broken off with him for another man. For that other man during those 3 months of summer was, perfect. I mean he took me out boating, dirt biking and all those kind of fun stuff for the first time. I'm 18 and he's...

turning 21... and First time that a family likes me! He dumped me twice, one was for me acting like a foolish at a party and second one that was just for nothing.. wants to explore around.. He and I talked about it for a long time.. he wanted to take me out to dinner but complications with his mother that night. He said he just want to explore around and then when I'm older enough to be with him he would love to get back with me this summer and from that on. but now he has a long distance girlfriend like 4 hours away since like october to april now and We hooked up twice while he was with his girlfriend and he has also flirted with other girls too and we got into so many drama, arguements and there were threats involved and never been friends for awhile til one night I was drinkin and texted him and friends with him again and then I saw him the other day at my cousin's bonfire.. it was nice to see him again but those feelings are back and I want him back.. what can I do? those words he said back in the summer does he still means it? he has been traveling soo much and he says he sick of it.. but this weekend he's taking his girlfriend to new york.. driving againnn.. I do still text him but texted him little to late thou.. im trying to talk to him again which is good.. any ideas??? I really want him back, I think I love him even thou it wasnt long enough last summer..

you seriously don't deserve him. if he has a girlfriend now, good for him. you have to tell yourself your better. you know that. you are. he's done so much to you, you can find someone who'll treat you like how you were treated for the first 3 months, but you can feel like that for the rest of your lifetime! once you find some other person and you build a new emotional connection, you'll get over this boy. you care too much about him but yet, he doesn't care even a little about you.

**He dumped me twice, one was for me acting like a foolish at a party and second one that was just for nothing.. wants to explore around**

**He said he just want to explore around and then when I'm older enough to be with him he would love to get back with me**

**now he has a long distance girlfriend**

**We hooked up twice while he was with his girlfriend and he has also flirted with other girls too**

**we got into so many drama, arguements and there were threats involved**

**this weekend he's taking his girlfriend to new york.**

^^So why do you want him back? Its clear the feelings here are only one-sided. To me he sounds like a player. Sex isnt going to make him come back to you, and it doesnt mean he wants you back...he wants his cake eat it too.

well im his like first serious girl and he never had a serious relationship before but I was his first.. so I wouldnt say he's a player.. so wants to explore around because I was his first you know?

the only why he taking his girlfriend to new york was meeting his friends at college there.. but im sure his relationship with long distance isnt gonna work out because he's been traveling a lot and he's sick of it so im sure they arent gonna last long even more..

I really like this guy.. and im sure he cares about me too..

Even if he did care about you, it doesnt mean he wants to be with you. Hes cheated on his girlfriend by hooking up with his ex (you). Is that really the kind of guy you wanna be with? If he wanted to be with you he would, but hes with someone else. That should tell you how he feels about you.

** but im sure his relationship with long distance isnt gonna work out because he's been traveling a lot and he's sick of it so im sure they arent gonna last long even more.. **those are only YOUR feelings. He may be sick of traveling, but I'm sure it has nothing to do with his girlfriend. Hes an ex for a reason.