I want a baby but my husband doesn't (help)

My husband and I have been together for 5 years and married for almost 3. Our 2 day old son died 20 months ago; he was 3 months premature. I am ready to start trying for another baby but my husband isn't. Is there any way that I can convince him. Or is...

there anything I can do to help him want a baby?

well I think your husband is still emotionally attached and scarred by your first baby, and there really is nothing you can do to hurry him along, unless you want him to resent you. The best thing to do is just share your views with him, without trying to make him feel obligated to grant your wishes, but ultimatly only time can tell when he is truly going to be ready.

unfortunanlty, if he doesnt want a baby, you can make him
you cant just force him to have one with you
he has to decide if he wants one again or not
all you can do is sit him down and talk to him
tell him you really want another baby and ask him for his opinion on it
ask if hes reday to have another kid
if he'll be ready for it later on
if he wants any more kids
ect

dont force him... for one
talk to him and find out whats going on

Everyone here is right, he really needs the time to get over the loss of his first child. Help him through the process. If I were you I would try and comfort him and then when you think he is better, then I would talk to him about having another.

I agree with them all, Maybe he is still upset, You shouldn't* force it on him.

The last thing you want to do is force him to have another baby right now! If he is not ready and he doesn't want children right now then if you get pregnant and have a baby he could end up turning away from you and the child...and I'm sure that's the last thing you want him to do. So like others said, let time heal his broken heart and then try later on down the road. Make sure you yourself is REALLY ready for another child or is it just because of the lost of your first child that you feel like you HAVE to have another baby right away. My sister went through the same thing with the lost of her first child and jumped right away to wanting another child because she was tired of knowing that she should have been a mother already and it was killing her inside to see other people out with their children, celebrating birthdays and bonding together. Make sure you want this baby for the right reasons and not to fill the void of your first baby!!

 
My suggestion is for the two of you to get counseling. The problem that allows him to not be interested in having another child may be serious and if left un-addressed could lead to real problems later in your marriage.

You can't force him into counseling but maybe you could learn better ways of dealing with him if YOU go to counseling.

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