Do you think I should have a kid?

ok im 14 and want a baby and I know its crazy but I see my 10 month old nephew and its just like I dk how to explain it and I really want one and I know how to take care of babys because I take care of my nephew so do you think I should have a kid?

Of course you should not have a baby, don't be selfish. There is no way you can care for a baby at your age. Caring for a baby means more than feeding it and changing diapers. You have to have money first. You need money for clothes and food. This baby won't be a baby forever. Can you afford to send a child to college? Do you have health insurance? Do you have your own place to stay? Do you have a job that will offer maternity leave? Do you have a partner that will cover some of the work? Are you finished with college?

I highly doubt it. So that means that you cannot even come close to giving a baby everything it needs and deserves, and if you had a baby right now it would just be out of selfishness. Think about the baby and wait until you can give it what it needs.

I know what your going though my sister is only 15
and she accidentally got pregnat .
and shes thinking about keeping it .
but on the other had its quite hard.
paying for medical and everything is a lot of money
inless your parents will support you thought the way .
I think at least wait a few years like 2 more .
haveing a baby is a lot of work.

No I dont really think thats a good idea.. I no what its like.
But your only 14, If you had a baby naw, you would find it really really hard to deal with.
While all your friends are going out clubbing or going to a partie, you carnt, mabe your mum or dad would look after him/her once or twice but you wouldnt be able to reliy on them all the time, And also it wount just be you who will get it hard, it will be your mum and dad, mabe your friends but whatt about the baby?
When its older in secondery school, other children may be nasty to it and say 'Your mum was a whore!' 'Your mums a slag' sounds nasty I no, it could hurt you, but just inmadge how much it will hurt your child! .

Having a baby may make you feel good, but its the whole birth that will hurt you, Your at school! all those things might be called at you!, and the teachers may talk down to you as a stuipd little girl.. I think you should wait till your at least 18, but the best age is in your 20s because then you can finish school and mabe collage or uni.. and get a job and a house.

I no what I've said isnt what you were looking for.. you probllii wanted 'Yeahh go for it!!'

But its more then just 4 words, its your whole life..

So please think about it ! x lotz ov love immiie x =]

OK WELL IM 14 TO AND AT FIRST I WANTED A BABY REALLY BAD WITH MY BOYFRIEND AND IT'S BAD AND NOT BAD AT THE DAME TIME.BUT YOU HAVE TO THINK ABOUT SCHOOL AND TEH REST OF YOUR LIFE AND ONCE YOU HAVE A BABY YPUR WHOLE LIFE STOPS YPU CAN'T BE WITH YOUR FRIENDS AND DO ALL THE STUFF THAT YOU WANT BECAUSE YOU HAVE A BABY TO WORRY ABOUT

I dont think that it is a good idea. because you r only 14!! having a baby is hard work. I remember my mom telling when I was born she was 24 and she thought she was in hell. so if my mom couldnt do it can u? I dont think so. remember do not have a baby!! wait till your married and your an adult!! ok? do not have a baby!! im warning u!! please take my advice into consideration.

You would be a baby having a baby - First, get an education, be financially independent, and marry well, and establish a solid, Loving Family..the choices you make in life all come with consequences..please make Good choices !

well a lot depends on whether you should have one will you beable to support it will your parents dis own you will why ou beable to handle the stress of a mother and the stress of dealing with the other kids and rumors.

No I don't think you should have a baby. You may think you want one but when you have one you'll wish you hadn't, at that age its unnatural.

Good wishes and fortune on your journeys Árístocrát

Trust me, you don't want a baby. Sometimes they're fun to be around and take care of, but your not there 24/7.

I think its easier to want a baby when its not yours. There are a lot of things 'behind the curtains' that you dont see, the constant crying in the middle of the night, the nausea during pregnancy, the thousands of dollars that have to be put into the care of a baby of your own. I think the best advice that I could give you is maybe start baby sitting. You have plenty of time to have kids in the future when you are older and more mentally and financially stable. I think having a childhood yourself will help you with your baby in the future. I never understood when people told me to enjoy my childhood because I would never get it back, but after years of no understanding, getting married, buying a house, and getting pregnant I've finally figured out what they meant. Dont grow up too soon because you will regret it later.

No Dont have a kid now..your too young and you should live your life..your not going to be young forever..So ENJOY YOUR YOUTH AND DONT TAKE IT FOR GRANTED..I hope you take all this advise in to consideration! good luck! and god bless!

omg hun you are way too young to have a kid. beside all that that was already said about yoyr life literally turning upside down. you have to think about yourself medically. the younger you are the more of a chance that there will be complications with the pregancy. You can die form childbirth or pregnacy. Being only 14 puts you at a high risk for all of that. believe me there will be plenty of time in your life for childern right now you need experiance life and just have fun being a teenager I miss being in high school life was easy and a little less complicated. I suggest you wait untill your out of collage or university and are on your feet with a great job then you can go crazy with having babies.

look shawty you 14 and want a kid?? me im 15 and I got a 1 yr old and its hard as hell trying to support him I love him to death but sometimes I kinda wish I woulda waited plus you only 14 you cant work to support him

Oh god I almost got pregnant a couple weeks ago and I was soo scared that my parents would find out and it was the scariest thing in the world to me trust me dont have a baby when your 14!

In my opinion you are a bit young. If you have a child at your age it will destroy part of your life. You won't have time for school and you won't be able to go out and chat with friends. You will have to pay for medical and clothing along with food unless someone will give you money. As said before there is a chance you could die in childbrith. Wait a few years and once you get a job and sturdy feet under you then you might want to consider a baby. You have to come and realize that babys aren't all fun. When they grow you have to deal with attitudes and then what if you have a girl and they want a child at 13. I am not saying that you can not have a child at your age but you should really think about it.

I have a niece and I love her to death. She is so much fun. But I've also seen the other side of her b/c I babysit a lot. They aren't all fun and games. Being 14, your body isn't ready for it and your mind/maturity level isn't either. My advice, enjoy your nephew and watch him grow. If you can take care of him as he grows, you will be better prepared in the future.

you should never get pregnant this early. At 14 years old you are still in school, probably a freshman in high school. you still have your whole life to have kids. So wait. And wait for the right guy.

well girl am 14 making 15 and I know how you feel me andmy boyfriend want a baby too but we have school we think about that we ready to give up the friends they no good but school nah we got 2 more years aand we going to wait but baby girl its your life you got to know what you want and no one can make thatdisicion for you and your momie and dady can show you the right way but its up to you to be on the right lane and getting pregante does not include in this thing about your perents and the baby dady not only about your self think about what the doing for you and stop thinking of ya self it will be hard my sis is 25 and its hard for her baby always sick so just imagin that boo and think before you make your choice:D

You need to screw your head on straight, and grow up. If your seriously considering having a baby at the age of 14, that shows that you are already predisposed to make terrible decisions and you are in for a life of hard knocks. look at some of these answers posted by people who are your age. they also say they want children and they can barely spell. Grow up first. Good luck.

hello I can understand you wanting a baby there soo cute and they laugh and smile but on the flip side theres much more to it the feeding , diaper changing, waking up all hours of the night when there sick going to the emergency room because your baby has a fever of 103 its very hard basically you have to put your wants and needs on the back burner because now its all about that child it will depend on you till he'she is 18 and evan now days they tend to still want your help its never ending basically im 25 I had my son at 18 I was a young kid my self I thought I was ready but I wasnt it was really hard all my friends were going out , getting new cars having parties wearing hip clothes and I was at home with my son
you have to think the guy you have the child with is probibly just a s young as you and a lot of them tend to not stick around wgich means you will be alone which is more dfficult hope this helps ..missv

I think it's great that you have such a motherhood instinct at such an early age. I do, however, think you should absolutely wait until you are older for that responsibility.
Here are the reasons for doing so:
a) 14-year-olds are not fully developed and therefore it would create lots of problems - nursing, birthing, the pregnancy itself and it's physical demands.
b) Money. Most normal 14-year-olds don't have the fiscal stability to look after the baby, and though your parents would help with that in the beginning, by the time you're twenty, your kid would be 6, and going into school just as you're kicking off on your own.
c) Very few 14-year-olds have a boyfriend with whom they have a strong enough relationship to make a stable home for a baby. All babies should have a mother and father who are available to look after them at all times, and you should wait until you have found your life partner, the person you want to marry, before making such a life-changing decision.
d) School and career. As you can imagine, having a baby at 14 would make for massive issues with schooling. One of my girlfriends in highschool had a baby at 16, which she kept, and it was a nightmare. The poor daughter spent all day in daycare, only seeing her mom at night and in the early morning, because the mother had to work to support her child.
e) Having a kid is whole lot of work. I was 12 when my littlest sister was born, and even the small amount of work that got pawned off on me was exhausting. Also, teenage mothers are susceptible to depression, and you can imagine why. Juggling motherhood, school and probably a job as well is a huge feat.
f) Imagine having a kid now. Then imagine having a kid when you've got a wonderful boyfriend and a paying job. Which baby would be better off?

If you want to look after babies - they are adorable, after all - I would definitely reccommend babysitting. You get to make money doing your favourite thing! See if you can take a babysitting course - it makes it all a lot easier.

Luck and lots of love!

no.
no, no, no, no, NO.
you are only 14 (I am too) and you have your whole life to have a child.
you need some time to be a kid yourself.
with a kid, you wouldn't be able to go to summer camp, or on vacation with your friends, and by the time you get to be 18, you won't be able to party because you will be too busy looking after a 4 year old.
I know how you feel though.
my cousins are the cutest things I have ever seen, and I thought of what it would be like to have a kid of my own just like them.
but honey, just because you can take care of your nephew for a few hours does NOT mean you are physically, mentally, or emotionally even CLOSE to being ready to have a child of your own. especially because you would be on your own.

do you really think the boy you have s*x with (who would be your baby's father) will want to stick around with you forever??
the answer is no.
and imagine how that would impact your kid.
your child would grow up with only a mother,
never knowing what it's like to actually have a real father.
and that would be a HORRIBLE thing to do to your baby.

in times like these, you have to think of someone other than yourself.
you can't be selfish, think about your baby too.

bes of luck, and please make the right decision.
<3
brynn

Not yet!
Your only 14, at least wait until your 18 or 19. I know it's along wait, but I you should be done with high school first. If you have a baby, you'll end up dropping out, and have a terrible education. And thats not good for a baby.
Second of all, you need to have a guy who you love and who loves you and will support the baby. A lot of guys would just break up with you as soon as they find out your pregnet.
And last of all, your parants will freak out. They might even go crazy and disown you. Just because you see a baby and think it's so cute, imagine being an aunt of twins who had to live with you for 3 months because of their depressed mother who didn't want them anymore (but eventually came around). It's harder than you think. They wake you up in the middle of the night, poop to much, cry to often, and sleep. But its worth it to see their cute smiling faces..almost.. it's harder work then you can imagine.

For right now no I don't think you should have a kid, play with your nephew a lot, maybe volunteer at a daycare, you'll gain more experience, and when you are ready for a kid, you'll be a pro at it.

Definately no.

Listen, I understand what it feels like to want a baby, they are adorable and everything but having one is a lot different than babysitting. I'd love to have a baby around, but I'm too young too and I know that it is a life-long responsibility that at a young age is too much to handle.

If you are 14 you have your education to worry about. Children need much attention that you are not going to be able to supply when you are in school. Do you think that baby will be happy when it's Mom is never around? It is unfair to do that to the baby. And what about college? You cannot go away to school when you have that baby! Statistics prove it is easier to get a job with a college ed. and you also get payed more. So that would definately help to have the extra $$ to pay for the child's medical bills ect.

Please, you are much too young. Don't destroy your future now when you have the rest of your life for baby's! Hope this helped.

I know exactly how you feel I have always loved being around kids and have wanted one since I can remember. But seriously you are 14. it is so hard I just recently moved out and I have a steady job im an assistant manager at a sonic. and just me living by myself I can barely make it I watch my friend who is 18's little boy all the time and try and help her out as much as she can but she can barely make it. and she is 18! so it will be the hardest thing you have ever done. SO dont do it.

OMG. WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU. YOU ARE ONLY A KID JUST AS YOUR NEPHEW. YOU NEED TO GET YOUR BUT FINISHED WITH SCHOOL AND GET A GOOD PAYING JOB THEN GET MARRIED THEN HAVE KIDS. WAIT UNTIL YOU ARE OLDER. YOU DONT EVEN NEED TO START WORRYING ABOUT HAVING A BABY THAT YOUNG.

Hey!

Well yur saying that yooh want a baby. And that yooh can ake care of one cause yooh can take care of yur nephew but do yooh want to wake up just to change and feed da baby in da middle of da night. Do yooh want to spend money on yurself or on da baby? Do yooh want to be spending yur childhood watching a baby or wit frends. Trust me here, I have two younger siblings I had to spend my time watching them since I was 10. I couldnt spend time wit my frends as much. so just think twice about this

I hope I've helped yooh out!

no way! you're too young! it could ruin your life, trust me! I've seen what my 19 year old sister had to go through with her baby. she had 3 hours of sleep every night for like the first month! but thats just my opinion. if you think its right, go ahead. but think it through.

A kid having a kid? Haha. I'm sure all these guys have already opened your eyes with their wonderfully said advice. But, it doesn't hurt to extend a topic, eh?

You still have many things to learn about life. You have many relationships to run through and many knowledge perking whatnots. You have a LOT ahead of you.

Unless you want your child to come crawling out just to tell you that they TOO want to have a baby when they hit the age of 14.. Think.

If thinking doesn't help you realise that you're too young, whack yourself with a frying pan.

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just because you see a little precuious baby you should want to have a desire to have one but there pleny of responsibilites for that baby I think you should. have another reason for having a baby so hope my advice helped u. bye now

Hi there, I am probably the last person that should be giving advice on anything, primarily because I'm seeking some of my own, however, your question touched me because it's very humane to feel the way you do and it's not crazy. Given the fact that you're only 14 may present you with some challenges. Think about everyone around you and the way they'd react. Think about your situation I.e financial and emotional. A baby is difficult to raise at any age much less 14. I think you should wait it out, get yourself familarized with the responsibilities that come with a baby and ask yourself if you're ready. Having a baby is the greatest feeling in the world but you have to be ready for all that comes with it. Just focus on getting through school so that when you do decide to have a child, you're in a better position to assist him/her in their life.

hey.. im 14 to and was thinking about having a kid 2 .. but then one of my friends got pregnet at 12 in a half and now the baby is like 1 in a half... and every time I went over there all she did was take care of the baby she couldnt do anything else.. she missed a lot of skewl .. and had to stay back and her parents are going broke and the dady who was 11 never seen the baby bekuz it was a girl and now he got another girl pregnet and hes 13 ..

bringing a baby in this world is hard and yu have to know if you do its not all fun and games .. .ya the baby might be cute and you think its pretty easy.. but ITS NOT..

how are yu gana raise the baby... what type of education are you gana get.. what your gana work at burger king all your life.. whos gana baby sit.. do yu have enough money 4 diapers .. they go threw like 15 a day.. do yu have $$ for formula ?? its a lot of money and work.. just have fun wit life

and I think yu should have a kid when your older and settled and you have yur life on track and have a man whos gana help yu and yu guys can have a big hapy family lol

well hope that helps <33

HECK NO.
WAY TOO YOUNG.
22 or 23 would be acceptable.
otherwise you will get the rep. as a slut.

if you get pregnant at such a young age think of all the things youll miss out on! all your youth will be taken by this baby you wont be able to party and do all the normal stuff teenagers do! and how would your parents react? would they take care of the baby while you at school? if not, how would you graduate and do secondary education, if your thinking of that? where would you get the money to support this child? you dont realize how serious it is to bring a child into this world it is a HUGE HUGE HUGE responsibility!! until you can support yourself on your own, you shouldnt consider having a baby

Do not have a baby. The fact that you think you want a baby before you can legally drive a car is beyond me. I have to admit, I am saddened by young teens thinking at ages 13-16 they are ready to become mothers. Do you think that your baby will love you unconditionally and replace the love of someone who maybe did not pay attention you? I believe you are special person and you need to spend some time with yourself figuring out what is great about you. You have things to offer the world that have not been discovered. Learn to love yourself even if there are no adults around you that you have felt loved you. If you can find happiness within, the desire to have a baby now will leave you and then someday, years in the future, you will be a great mother and have some great values to teach your child. You will know that when you do have a baby, you have to hug him/her several times every day and remind them how much you love them and you will be proud of everything they do from the macaroni necklace to graduating college. You will know how to instill positive values and self-worth. You also will have prepared yourself if you have a daughter and she comes to you at 14 and says she wants to have a baby. You could start by telling her, 'When I was your age, I thought I was ready to have a baby, too, I decided to wait...' Last thing, being an aunt is completely different from being a mother. I know, I have 5 children, 3 nephews and 1 niece. I had all of my children years after high school and I was married.

im 15 and pregnant with my second baby (by another boy)and if I could turn back time I would I dont know what I was thinking I was a stupid teenager too young for a baby I couldnt cope and I was in labour for 41 hours because my body was not physically rwady for that much pain so wait til your about 20 so when your like 18 you can go clubbing and stuff just so you can have fun I cant do that til im about 25.

Yes! Go ahead! Just don't have a C section. Good luck.

hun, I would telll you not to have a baby.
just because you see babiess and you think they're so cute and all that good stuff doesn't mean you want a baby of your own.
its not like its temporary.
its permanent for the rest of your life.
you will always have a child.
you're way too young.
just don't do it.
cause when you do you will totally regret it.
& don't listen to that chick above me.
she's 13 years old & pregnant.
that's disgusting.
I'm sorry.. but it is.
I don't understand what the rush is.
I'm 15 & a virgin.
I have a boyfriend who is 17 and will be a senior this school year.
I will be a sophomore.
he is also a virgin.
& we both have talked about this stuff before.
but we would never want it to happen now.
you have SO much more life ahead of you.
don't ruin it now bby girl.

no you should wait untill you can get better money and you know you can take care f it

I am 14 years old myself and pregnant...It wasnt my choice per say...I was takeing the pil but one week I was unable to buy it but me and my boyfriend didnt think I could ever get pregnant but I did...Now we are haveing dificulty with telling my family, me geting a job because no one will hire a 14 year old and being pregnant also makes people turn me down...& the worst part about it is im going to have to take a cyber school because Im not going to beable to go to school and be sick and everything...Wait until your older...Trust me you dont want to yhave to go throught this

Hey, I'm 15 and I know what your going through. I really want a baby too but I know that if I do thats going to be the end of my education. So I would really advise you to wait. I'm going to wait until im at least 20. If you decide to have a kid now just think of all the pressure you'll be putting your parents under, think of all the expenses you'll have to pay and without good education you wont be able to get a good job to provide for your baby plus you could go to court for having sex under the age of 16! So I would strongly advise you to wait. I think about having a baby every day but I know I'm better off waiting.

Better You should give more attention towards your study.

Babies are very cute, but you have the rest of your life to have one! Wait until you are older and meet a guy who is perfect to help you raise a family. I am 15 and really mature, and I know I am not ready to have a child, which leads me to belive you arent either. You really need to look at how having a kid could effect the rest of your life. What will your life be like if you have one versus if you dont? Think about the difference in the childs life...are you really going to give that child a good life at 14 versus 30?It sounds pretty selfish of you to me. think about yourself, but also your family and the baby.

My answer for you is no. You shoudn't have a baby if you do it will mess your whole life up even if it your first time will just hurt your life.Me I have a 16 year old boyfriend that only want me for My virgin hood and I am not stupid to that . I always knew that but I went out with him becouse he had some intrests in me and he cute but I not going to do with him even if he dumps me. So my point is no you should'nt

I think you should wait tell your in your 20's to have a kid because having a kid at 14 is a lot of work and money because you would have to buy food , clothes, and a lot of other things to take care of a baby ..

HELL NO! you say you look at your nefew and you take care of him, well he isnt your kid, there is SO much more responsibility to taking care of a child, a baby. having a baby this young would be the worst mistake in my opinion because you dont want to be TIED DOWN for another 18 years! you wont be able to go out and have fun with your friends because you have a baby at home. I mean you can always go out but it wont be the same! all your friends and peers will be going to parties, having the best times of their lifes and your taking CARE of a BABy! wait til after you start your life, for real. a baby is another life, another soul and at 14, with no career, no house of your own, not much education- not a good start to your life !

NO WAY!
You have your whole life ahead of you.
What about college and a career?
When you're 16 you could be stuck at home while all your friends are at the party of the year. You should atleast wait until you have a stable career and maybe even a husband (instead of just a boyfriend). Besides, until that time comes you still have your nephew. :]

But it 'is' your decision, and if you really really want a baby (that you know you'll take care of no matter what) and have your parents support, go ahead.

A Baby is not like an animal (something cute for you to look at). They are permanant and take a lot of work. They also don't stay little and cute forever. You are young and have you're whole life to have kids. You should be enjoying your life right now and with a baby you wouldn't be able to go out with your friends and have a good time. You're also too young and don't have a full education to be able to support and fully care for a baby and who would help you. Would your parents really be willing to help out? And also having s.e.x just to get pregnant is wrong. It should be with someone you love and deeply care about. A baby should be made in love not just a desire to have one around. For now why don't you just enjoy being young and being with your nephew. Enjoy being able to go out with your friends because having a baby changes your whole life. Think about times when the baby could become sick or get hurt or won't stop crying, would you really know what to do? Would you be able to provide the food, clothes, diapers, and all the other stuff babies need when you're to young to get a job?

Child, STAY A CHILD! You think you know. Yes, babies are cute and adorable, but you have no idea what comes with cute and adorable. Children cost money, loads of unconditional love, patience, humor, maturity, time consuming, knowledge, strong prayer life and loads more. Children are a blessing from God. So, let your child be that blessing on GOD'S TIMING. That doesn't mean go and fornicate and expect God to bless you. That means be a child and wait some years until you mature and marry. Grow up, get a life, a career and a God fearing husband and THEN want children. Right now, you should be enjoying your childhood and living the free life with the right kind of friends and family. Also, think about how you'll hurt others. You don't want to be someone who depends on others to help raise your child. Having a child at your age is not fair to that infant, nor to your parent(s). He/She deserves a life of fullness and joy. So, my advice is WAIT! May God Bless and keep you!

Aw, babies are cute aren't they?
But do you even know the process?
You are 14 and not fully developed yet, holding a baby would be
stressful and grueling on your body.
You woul dhave to give up boys, and friends, and going out to the mall
and the movies. You would have no more of school, no more
of anything. You won't have prom night, you won't have highschool,
you won't be able to pursue your dreams.
All because, ti won't be about you, it will be about that baby.
You aren't old enough to take care of a baby.
You don't have a job, or money, and your parents wouldn't
be too thrilled either.
So you can take care of your nephew?
Don't make me laugh! You did NOT bring that child into the world.
Babies cost around $500-$1000 dollars a month. They require constant
care, and having one just so you can play with it and have it depend on you and make
you fel good that you are loved, is SELFISH.
If you had a baby, wouldn't you want to see it grow up, graduate, go to college, fall in love,
and get married, and then have children?
Imagine how you would feel if your daughter came up to you when she was so young, at 14 years old and asked you if she should have a baby. Does that sounds right to you?
NO! When you are 14 you should worry about school and what you want to do with your life. You need to think about the future. You won't be able to care for this child and give it everything it wants. You won't be able to have it grow up in a stable home, in a house
with a mom and dad, with sports nights and music lessons, trips to the swimming
pool and preschool.
You are a child and you are so young.
You have so much potential to contribute to the world!
Girlfriend! There is SO much you could be doing with your life.

I want a baby too, but not now.
I want one when I am married, with my University degree, and my career.
With my husband whom I have been married to for a few years.And when I have a house
that is ready for children. When I am old enough to understand that having a baby isn't about making me feel better or making me feel responsible or loved.

Wait, it will the best decision you ever make.

I might be pregnant and it is probably the most amazing thing I have ever felt. It is really getting irritating to here people saying so muchabout teen pregnancy. DONT LISTEN TO THEM! It is your life, not theirs. Its your body, not theirs. So if you want it. Go for it. I wish you the best of luck! Don't listen to these people. Listen to your heart. Goodluckk!

no because its hard trust me.I have two of them. don't runie your life...I not saying that I runied my life but just take this advised and hold it...

NO!!!

Listen you don't want to have a baby at your age your body won't handle it I just went through it 8 weeks ago but I got pregnant at 15 and had my daughter at 16 and let me tell you something it's very painful even if you have pain medicine you can still feel everything and trust me if your boyfriend is staying he wants a baby right now just wait until your pregnant I can at lease tell you he won't be saying that when you tell him your pregnant the first thing that will go through his head is oh my god can you get an abortion and yes it may make you feel really sad but whatever you do don't do that I was pregnant once before but I was ready to have sex I was 12 and I was rape and I found out I was pregnant and I had an abortion and I still keep thinking to my self oh my god I kill a baby I ended in life streams and it was just very bad if you do get pregnant and then you figure out that you don't want to have a baby after all then you can just give your baby to a couple that has tried and tried to have children and just can't seem to have one of there own you would be making there life's a lot better and you can also can still be in your baby's life even if she still has a new family all you have to do is ask the couple if you could see your baby when ever you can but good luck my the right choice

Ashley

I wasnt ready, mum,
why did you have to let me come?
to this cruel, heartless earth,
I wasnt given the life I deserved
faced with shame since my birth,
and looks of pity people reserved;
for me, and I was made to wonder,
what made you commit this blunder.

yes, what you did was bold and stoic
a touch of bravery, flavour of heroic
but did you ever wonder once,
what happens after the nine months?
I just want to say this, mum
it wasnt my time to come...

I hoped for a life well protected
and got something unexpected
and you wonder why I feel dejected?
my life has been so far as such
its pain to which I've been subjected
and my happiness, my life neglected.

you think u'd been sad if I hadnt been?
well, I'm glad you had me, now at least
we are together, partners in grief,
and its ok mum, we all make mistakes
only I hope, my heart would'nt so ache...
when I look at a normal kid,
eyes bright, smiling, and wonder what I did

and then I know, mum, what it is...
you shouldnt have had me, mother
apart from your life...you've ruined another.

now this one is writen down by my boyfriend..n not that he is or I m against having baby and not that I don't know how it feels like having a baby but sweety you urself is a kid...u'l ruin urs as well as your kid's life ...sweetheart this isnt a toy you can thro away once you are thru with it...this is a very sensitive matter t includes you as well as your health ...if you wont be healthy how wud you take care of your baby...
god bless ya

im only 14 too, and my nephew is two and im obsessed with the kid. but think of how this could change your future. you wouldnt be able to provide for your son or daughter the way you could if you wait til you graduate college. having a degree these days is so important. and if you have a baby now, you wont be able to complete school like you need to. plus, who wants to party with a friend and her baby? wait til you're done with school and youre done partying. have some fun first, you're still a kid. no kid should be having a kid.

hope this helped <3

having a baby is a big responsibility! do you have any means of supporting the baby after you have it (not including your parents' help)? you need to finish school first & at least a year or two of college under your belt before you make a life changing decision like this ..

Your only 14 years old. You should be having fun right now. Finish school,get a good job,save up some money and then think about kids. Sure babies and little kids are cute but they are a lot of responsiblity. Are you willing to give up going out with your friends and having fun to spend time and raise your child? It's nobody elses responsiblity but your own.

You definatley should be having fun right now...but I am 15 and me and my boyfriend want to have a baby too...but the thing is, is its really hard work and you dont want to bring a baby into the world if it is going to have a sh*tty life...but if you think that you can do it, Go for it...but if you 'make your own bed, you gotta lie in it' always remember that!!! I hope this helps!...Good luck hunnie!

You definatley should be having fun right now...but I am 15 and me and my boyfriend want to have a baby too...but the thing is, is its really hard work and you dont want to bring a baby into the world if it is going to have a sh*tty life...but if you think that you can do it, Go for it...but if you 'make your own bed, you gotta lie in it' always remember that!!! I hope this helps!...Good luck hunnie!

Definitely not, hon. I'm only 16, and I see where you're coming from, but don't take these feelings seriously. Sooo many of my classmates are doing what you want to do, and even if you have a boyfriend willing to do all of this with you, 14 is not the time. I know an honor student who felt the same way and went through with it and she now has a little girl, and even though she is an amazing parent to her baby it just isn't like anyone would dream for her future, and now she is going to alternative high school and can't do anything she used to do or wants to do.

no see who would watch the child at school hours your parents wont be able the have to work to feed you and pay the billstrust me my step sister is 15 and shes pregnent her life is a living hell

At least wait for few more years.

'Quote amandaaX :I might be pregnant and it is probably the most amazing thing I have ever felt. It is really getting irritating to here people saying so muchabout teen pregnancy. DONT LISTEN TO THEM! It is your life, not theirs. Its your body, not theirs. So if you want it. Go for it. I wish you the best of luck! Don't listen to these people. Listen to your heart. Goodluckk!'

this is not the right advice, this is a chav, trying to claim benefits. Do not listen to this person, as they are not aware of what they have just signed up to - for the next 18 years. your young and you have a lot of years ahead of you, don't ruin your partying/social life to early - it will only bring much regret, and regret is something you do not need in life.
trust me I have witnessed many friends who got pregnant under the age of 20 - and they don't have very good relationships with there parents or child, because they are trying to hard to party like there friends, when they don't quite understand the commitment they have taken on. looking at the bigger picture will help you make your decision.

I honestly do not know what the point is to putting up a question like this. I mean it is obvious what everyone will say. Then you get the stupid teenagers saying 'oh don't listen to everyone it is your body...blah...blah...blah...' lol whom by the way can not even spell correctly or use proper english. No you shouldn't have a kid. You aren't ready and you know it. If you think you are ready you are only lying to yourself. You are being selfish AND stupid...well I take that back. You will be selfish and stupid if you go through with it. I know we all have crazy thoughs from time to time, but it is when we act on them that they are truly crazy. DON'T DO THIS TO YOURSELF! Finish school! Get a real life before creating a new one!

Your answer is in your question. You are not even certain if you WANT to have a child- or uhm... 'kid' as you put it. This is definetely not a good sign. You should wait.

There are many things you can do right now and WILL do- date, go to prom, travel, go to college, get a great career! A child can wait.

Anyways, dont you want to give your child the best? buy him/her cute clothes? have a nice bedroom just for him/her? Right now you're being selfish. You can't even give your child a descent home. If you really like kids, volunteer your time babysitting or working with kids.

Babies are CUTE, but at 14- you should wait.

Hello,
NO you should not have a baby!Cause, you got to SQUEZE it through that small tiny hole of yours,and it will hurt,and your cherry may pop and hurt even more.Here's a little story.
My mother and father were in bed on day,
they had s*x until the next day.
My mother sat there,
weezing and coughing,
it's too much work for them.

CAN'T you see, doing all this work is going to hurt you. I hear 98/100 kids have died by doing this. And you DON'T want to be one of them, do you?So. I hoped this helps.

PEACE OUT!
Sweetancute4