Should I have a baby?

I realy want a baby...my friends just had one, shes 13, im 15 btw.
I've wanted a baby for ages
if yho have a bby and you love it then I dont see why its wrong, adults love there baby...and some times when adults have babys they cant afford them, and sometimes when teens have babys they cant afford them, so I dont see why people think its wrong when adults and kids are thaa same.
my family could afford to keep my baby fed and stuff, and when im older I would pay them back for it
I just dont no what to do...help?

haha wow, what has this world come to?

go have 1 then

haha

Heres an idea- Go talk to your family, and ask them what they think of you having a baby. Ask them if they would support you financially. I can guarantee any parents, whould not be excited, thrilled, or in favor of their 15 year old daughter having a baby. Why do you think they wouldnt be okay with it? Because you are still a child! There is a reason a child shouldnt have a baby.

If you care about your future children at all- You will wait until you are financially stable, educated, and are mature enough to have a baby.

Sure other teens are having babies- But do you really think they are happy? They just gave up their whole teenage life to this baby. They cant just have a baby and throw it at their parents to take care of- Its their own responsibility.

A baby needs 24/7 care. Everyday all day- Until that baby turns 18- its YOUR responsibility.

Adults who struggle financially with a baby have other things you dont have. They are emotionally stable, some are educated, and know a little bit about the world. THEY ARE NOT A CHILD. Its not JUST about money. And most of them have the support of a spouse.

Most young children who want babies... want babies because they have a need to be loved, or some emotional void to fill. Maybe talk to your family about seeing a therapist if you think this is you.

-I hope you consider my words, before you make a decision to bring a child into this world. Would it really be fair to your baby if you couldnt give it your best?

So you want a child at someone else's expense, and you're still a child yourself.

Sounds like you need a LOT more help than anyone here can give you. You talk about a baby as if its some kind of novelty item.

When my daughter was 15 she said she wanted a horse. I said NO. She's 25 now and still doesn't have a horse. but she's pregnant. And happy. And she is completely financially stable.

you can't have a baby and just freeload off your parents. that baby is YOUR responsibility, so YOU'RE the one who's going to have to drop out of school and get YOUR own job so support YOUR baby. who cares if you wanted a baby for so long, guess what I've wanted a dog for a long time too, but I still don't have one. I'm not going to be selfish and just go out and buy one and expect my family to take care of it while my fatass does whatever. you seriously need a lot of growing up to do little girl.

the reason why its wise for children 2 w8 2 have children is so they can get there life sorted out, there career live life as much as you possibly can because believe me, when you have children your life is basicaly over.Im 18 an I've wanted children since I was 13 but im waiting im in a stable relationship and im engaged, but iw ant 2 get my career sorted out first. I want my own place an most important of all I want to make sure I have enough money and I dont struggle.my best mate has a child, hu has just turned 1 shes 18 an she sais she misses her freedom but she loves her dauhter with all her heart but she misses going clubin and going 2 pubs, an its very rare she has a babysiter, shes split up wit her man an the babys dad hardly sees her daughter, wouldnt you like 2 get your lfie sorted first? have fun your only 15 I think it wud b wise 2 wait until you are in a stable relationship, and 1 thing that annoys me the most! where I live you gota b pregnant at 12 and pushing a pram at 13 2 fit in where I live, becasue there so young they use there baby as an acessory, like its some kind of fashion toy! AN BABYS ARE NO ACSESSORY!!

YOU ARE SO IMATURE & NAIVE AT 15 !!!
why dont you live your childhood as everyone else ???

Best Plan: education, ring, date, marriage, get financially stable, then baby.

Wow...If you want one then have sex with someone at your age...

I got pregnant at 19 and though that I could do this because the father and I were going to stay together and be a family. Well he was gone before my son was two and now my son is now almost 18 and is presently in juvenile detention. I could go on about what led him there but my point to you is wait until you are married and managing your life well because all children need a stable, nurturing environment. If you are feeling such a strong urge to have something that will count on you, will want and also give unconditional love and attention, get the most adorable puppy you can find. I am not talking down to you, I am serious. You want to compare yourself to an adult and what adults do - there are tons of adults who want a child but know they are not quite ready to be parents so guess what they often do - get puppies!

I think you have a lot of good advices above but because you're only 15 and going through your rebellious stage, I assume you'e thinking you know what's best for you. I'm going to get down to the nitty gritty.

Give yourself a chance. Go and sleep over at your friend's house for a week or two. Ask her to allow you to take care of her baby while you are there. She can assist you (though I believe she needs assistant from her Mother) but you will have to do everything as if this was your baby. You wake up at night, you do the diaper changing, feeding, cleaning, skip school if the baby is sick. ect... (There are hundreds of other sacrifices)

Do this for a few weeks. I can guarantee you that you will change your mind after these few weeks. You'll be so relieved when you go back home and realize that your life is pretty damn good without a baby. I think the idea of having a baby is wonderful but when you really have one, it's different. Example: the idea of having a dog is wonderful but when you actually have the responsibilities of owning one, it sucks. I bet your friend is not telling you the bad side to having a baby. You'll have to just see it for yourself. If anything, your friend is now envying you! Be the baby's God Mother instead. Be an Auntie. I can honestly tell you that being a Aunt is wonderful because you can do all of the fun stuff with a child but you don't have the responsibilities of being a parent. I'm 24 and I'm everyone's favorite Auntie. I get to buy them what they WANT (not need) and just enjoy them for a few hours or over the weekend but I can just take them home and get back to my regular life on the weekdays. It's the best of both worlds!

Give yourself a chance. Give yourself a chance... that's all I can tell you. Don't take our comments slightly. You should take it seriously and really think about it. You still have so much to live for. You can say that adults have the same problems as young mothers do too but the experience is totally different. I saw my teenage friends having babies. I saw the good things but was also open-minded enough to see how much they were missing out. Of course they won't trade their babies for anything else in this world but they do say that if they can do it again, they would have that baby when their a lot older.

I hope you make the right choices and really do go and spend a few weeks with your friend. You don't have to thank me right now.

Previous to this question, you asked how to shrink your hips and rib cage...now you THINK you want a baby!?!

Think of it this way, when you're pregnant, first your rib cage expands so that everything inside can shift upwards to make room for the baby growing inside of you. Then as pregnancy progresses, your hips widen to prepare your body for delivery, finally in delivery your hips widen EVEN MORE so your baby can pass through a little easier...which still isn't that easy!

Yes, after the baby is born, your ribs go back to normal, but as for your hips, lets just say they don't. At least not for everybody.

I just thought this idea may change your mind! Think about it and then reconsider what it is you REALLY 'want.'

Having a baby isnt a game ^o)

And also your not an adult love, so why you saying adults do this and that.
Maybe thats because there old enough to do it!! lol

Okay I got pregnant at 17, I thought it was going to be so easy !! But it was anything but easy, I was lucky I had the babys dad to help me out. Dont get me wrong I love my son so much, but if I could've went back in time I would've waited. So what I'm trying to say is if I were you I would wait having a baby is not worth it especially at your age.

no go to wal mart and just by a baby doll

it takes more than just loving a baby to keep it alive..
how are you going to feed it?
where is the father?
how are you going to pay for health insurance?
what if something is wrong with your baby, can you handle extra difficulties and expenses?
what are your parents going to say?
what are you going to do about school?
I think that you should really hold off for a couple years your not ready!

Dear Lovemyboy,
I do not think that you will even listen o me since you already have a non- realistic view in your head of how life is…It is harder to change a belief then it is an idea….you seem to believe what you are saying which in it self show how immature you are and how little of life you have really seem and experienced.
None the less here is goes all I would ask is that you at least read what it is I have to say because I do care If I didn’t care I would not take the time out of my day to be writing this and trust me between work and college there are a lot of other things I could be doing right now then answering your question.
My answer is simple in is complexity DO NOT HAVE A BABY!!! WHY??? Simple because you your self are still a child and because it is not fair for the child that you would bare or your parents. You are a beautiful Child of God and you deserve to have a childhood and to live it to its fullest becoming a mother is not an easy or simple task it is easier said then done and appears a lot easier at a distance then in reality it is. I have never been a mother and so It is not like I no exactly what I am saying I am almost eighteen years old ( ten more days) and so I have lived a tad bit longer then you and so I have a better idea of life and how it works just from Experience.
Life is like this is, is complicated it really is as are people. Your parents are your parent and yours alone ( well yours and any siblings you may or may not have) a parents role in a Childs life is to provide for that child not the child of the child it is not their job right nor responsibility to take care of any child that you may bare. Nor is it ethical and morally it is very questionable and an insult to the honor of both you and your parents. (Are you following me still?)

Having sex is complicated I know it may not seem like it but really it is…it was designed to create life….and sadly it is used more as a tool for fun and pleasure these days…which it is under marriage and should only be done under marriage and at an appropriate age. 15 years old is too young far too young. You have not experienced enough life to understand what you are getting your little self into. Right now any time you need anything who gets it for you? Who feeds you? Who clothes you? Who takes care of you? Who helps you? Who do you run to when you need help or are in trouble? Your parents they play that role in your life…right now any way they will not always one day you will play their role for some one else and their role( your parents) is going to change. You have an entire life to play the ROLE of MOM. Why do it now….when you can not provide for that child in the way you should?
So you want to be a Mother well that is great it really is but do it when you are ready and, do it when you can give that child a great life one they deserve. You have a child right now and you will never go to college and so you will not be able to get a good job that pays well. You will always have to struggle to provide and as a single parent (the boy will not stay with you he is to young to comprehend being a father sorry to say but it is true) it is a hard life. I know people who have kids as teens and they do not have it easy. Do you really want to do that, to not only you but your child as well?
You want to be a Mother because it is what God has designed us, WOMEN to do…and we are great at it. There is nothing at all wrong with wanting to do play the role you where designed and created for it…it is so much a part of you as breathing I remember being 15years old I wanted a child just as badly( HELL I wanted one a 10) as you are…but not only did and do I want A child ( I still do) but I wanted some thing more I want to be a good MOTHER….not just a mother but a GOOD one and I want to give that child a life unlike anything I have ever had. Unlike you I have not had parents who have been there for me….and who played their roles the way that they where suppose to do. My life has not been as easy as yours is…I have been faced with many different choices you may never have to face and I thank God for that as a child you should not face them and as a young Adult you shouldn’t. I believe that God places feelings in us one being a desire to bare children and a desire to care of something it is what helps us get through life and what makes strong ….we endure a lot…such as child birth which is painful on top of the rejection we will face as a parent from our children and the many trials life puts us through there is a reason why we are not like men…and that makes us a lot stronger and able. Be proud to be a WOMEN and take pride in that God made us to bare children and enabled us to endure. BE proud in who you are and show some respect to your body….don’t give your self away and to just any one you are a tool in much greater hands that of a mighty God who fearfully and wonderfully nit you in your mothers womb we are merely vassals used for a great purpose.
Be a good mother wait until you are ready in every way not just emotionally. If not does it for your self do it for your child?

Dear Lovemyboy,
I do not think that you will even listen o me since you already have a non- realistic view in your head of how life is…It is harder to change a belief then it is an idea….you seem to believe what you are saying which in it self show how immature you are and how little of life you have really seem and experienced.
None the less here is goes all I would ask is that you at least read what it is I have to say because I do care If I didn’t care I would not take the time out of my day to be writing this and trust me between work and college there are a lot of other things I could be doing right now then answering your question.
My answer is simple in is complexity DO NOT HAVE A BABY!!! WHY??? Simple because you your self are still a child and because it is not fair for the child that you would bare or your parents. You are a beautiful Child of God and you deserve to have a childhood and to live it to its fullest becoming a mother is not an easy or simple task it is easier said then done and appears a lot easier at a distance then in reality it is. I have never been a mother and so It is not like I no exactly what I am saying I am almost eighteen years old ( ten more days) and so I have lived a tad bit longer then you and so I have a better idea of life and how it works just from Experience.
Life is like this is, is complicated it really is as are people. Your parents are your parent and yours alone ( well yours and any siblings you may or may not have) a parents role in a Childs life is to provide for that child not the child of the child it is not their job right nor responsibility to take care of any child that you may bare. Nor is it ethical and morally it is very questionable and an insult to the honor of both you and your parents. (Are you following me still?)

Having sex is complicated I know it may not seem like it but really it is…it was designed to create life….and sadly it is used more as a tool for fun and pleasure these days…which it is under marriage and should only be done under marriage and at an appropriate age. 15 years old is too young far too young. You have not experienced enough life to understand what you are getting your little self into. Right now any time you need anything who gets it for you? Who feeds you? Who clothes you? Who takes care of you? Who helps you? Who do you run to when you need help or are in trouble? Your parents they play that role in your life…right now any way they will not always one day you will play their role for some one else and their role( your parents) is going to change. You have an entire life to play the ROLE of MOM. Why do it now….when you can not provide for that child in the way you should?
So you want to be a Mother well that is great it really is but do it when you are ready and, do it when you can give that child a great life one they deserve. You have a child right now and you will never go to college and so you will not be able to get a good job that pays well. You will always have to struggle to provide and as a single parent (the boy will not stay with you he is to young to comprehend being a father sorry to say but it is true) it is a hard life. I know people who have kids as teens and they do not have it easy. Do you really want to do that, to not only you but your child as well?
You want to be a Mother because it is what God has designed us, WOMEN to do…and we are great at it. There is nothing at all wrong with wanting to do play the role you where designed and created for it…it is so much a part of you as breathing I remember being 15years old I wanted a child just as badly( HELL I wanted one a 10) as you are…but not only did and do I want A child ( I still do) but I wanted some thing more I want to be a good MOTHER….not just a mother but a GOOD one and I want to give that child a life unlike anything I have ever had. Unlike you I have not had parents who have been there for me….and who played their roles the way that they where suppose to do. My life has not been as easy as yours is…I have been faced with many different choices you may never have to face and I thank God for that as a child you should not face them and as a young Adult you shouldn’t. I believe that God places feelings in us one being a desire to bare children and a desire to care of something it is what helps us get through life and what makes strong ….we endure a lot…such as child birth which is painful on top of the rejection we will face as a parent from our children and the many trials life puts us through there is a reason why we are not like men…and that makes us a lot stronger and able. Be proud to be a WOMEN and take pride in that God made us to bare children and enabled us to endure. BE proud in who you are and show some respect to your body….don’t give your self away and to just any one you are a tool in much greater hands that of a mighty God who fearfully and wonderfully nit you in your mothers womb we are merely vassals used for a great purpose.
Be a good mother wait until you are ready in every way not just emotionally. If not does it for your self do it for your child?

Dear Lovemyboy,
I do not think that you will even listen o me since you already have a non- realistic view in your head of how life is…It is harder to change a belief then it is an idea….you seem to believe what you are saying which in it self show how immature you are and how little of life you have really seem and experienced.
None the less here is goes all I would ask is that you at least read what it is I have to say because I do care If I didn’t care I would not take the time out of my day to be writing this and trust me between work and college there are a lot of other things I could be doing right now then answering your question.
My answer is simple in is complexity DO NOT HAVE A BABY!!! WHY??? Simple because you your self are still a child and because it is not fair for the child that you would bare or your parents. You are a beautiful Child of God and you deserve to have a childhood and to live it to its fullest becoming a mother is not an easy or simple task it is easier said then done and appears a lot easier at a distance then in reality it is. I have never been a mother and so It is not like I no exactly what I am saying I am almost eighteen years old ( ten more days) and so I have lived a tad bit longer then you and so I have a better idea of life and how it works just from Experience.
Life is like this is, is complicated it really is as are people. Your parents are your parent and yours alone ( well yours and any siblings you may or may not have) a parents role in a Childs life is to provide for that child not the child of the child it is not their job right nor responsibility to take care of any child that you may bare. Nor is it ethical and morally it is very questionable and an insult to the honor of both you and your parents. (Are you following me still?)

Having sex is complicated I know it may not seem like it but really it is…it was designed to create life….and sadly it is used more as a tool for fun and pleasure these days…which it is under marriage and should only be done under marriage and at an appropriate age. 15 years old is too young far too young. You have not experienced enough life to understand what you are getting your little self into. Right now any time you need anything who gets it for you? Who feeds you? Who clothes you? Who takes care of you? Who helps you? Who do you run to when you need help or are in trouble? Your parents they play that role in your life…right now any way they will not always one day you will play their role for some one else and their role( your parents) is going to change. You have an entire life to play the ROLE of MOM. Why do it now….when you can not provide for that child in the way you should?
So you want to be a Mother well that is great it really is but do it when you are ready and, do it when you can give that child a great life one they deserve. You have a child right now and you will never go to college and so you will not be able to get a good job that pays well. You will always have to struggle to provide and as a single parent (the boy will not stay with you he is to young to comprehend being a father sorry to say but it is true) it is a hard life. I know people who have kids as teens and they do not have it easy. Do you really want to do that, to not only you but your child as well?
You want to be a Mother because it is what God has designed us, WOMEN to do…and we are great at it. There is nothing at all wrong with wanting to do play the role you where designed and created for it…it is so much a part of you as breathing I remember being 15years old I wanted a child just as badly( HELL I wanted one a 10) as you are…but not only did and do I want A child ( I still do) but I wanted some thing more I want to be a good MOTHER….not just a mother but a GOOD one and I want to give that child a life unlike anything I have ever had. Unlike you I have not had parents who have been there for me….and who played their roles the way that they where suppose to do. My life has not been as easy as yours is…I have been faced with many different choices you may never have to face and I thank God for that as a child you should not face them and as a young Adult you shouldn’t. I believe that God places feelings in us one being a desire to bare children and a desire to care of something it is what helps us get through life and what makes strong ….we endure a lot…such as child birth which is painful on top of the rejection we will face as a parent from our children and the many trials life puts us through there is a reason why we are not like men…and that makes us a lot stronger and able. Be proud to be a WOMEN and take pride in that God made us to bare children and enabled us to endure. BE proud in who you are and show some respect to your body….don’t give your self away and to just any one you are a tool in much greater hands that of a mighty God who fearfully and wonderfully nit you in your mothers womb we are merely vassals used for a great purpose.
Be a good mother wait until you are ready in every way not just emotionally. If not does it for your self do it for your child?

most of the time with situations there really isnt much of a difference between adults in teens in a matter of responsibility and such, but I strongly recommend you at least wait until your out of high school. everyone needs education if you want to have a good life and be proud of yourself and have your children be proud of you. being a teen mother no matter how much support you have is a hard task. you should really wait until you finish high school, find someone you love and want to be with for the rest of your life, get married, be stable, and then maybe have a baby. its really the best plan for yourself, family, and future children.