What is the process to adopt a child?

Okk soo when im older I want to adopt instead of havin kids buh I duno what it involves. Will I be able to choose a kid or will they send me one? Are all of them messed up or are there some with no mental health problems??

thanks -x-

Adopting kids can be expensive and frustrating. I know several couples who can't have kids who are trying to adopt. One couple I know did manage to adopt a Chineese baby girl but they ended up having to spend a lot of money on the adoption and they had to travel to China a few times (not cheap).

All of the other couples I know have been unsuccessful but mainly because they decided they want to adopt a perfectly healthy baby that looks like them (read caucasion) with no mental issues or learning disabilities. If you are going to be this picky you may have problems. I know when I was looking into adoption I didn't really care about the child's race but some of my relatives were very unsupportive of us adopting a black or Hispanic baby (and they told us so unquivocally).

My wife and I were having trouble getting pregnant and we didn't know if we would ever be successful. We were looking into adoption. For us the only workable option was foster to adopt. You see if you become a foster parent and you become attached to your foster child than it is much easier and cheaper to adopt than it would be otherwise. You also have the advantage of getting to know your foster child for a while before you decide if you wish to adopt. Being a foster parent takes a lot of work but if you really want to make a difference in young lives it can also be very rewarding. Being a foster parent can be wrenching as well. One foster parent I know took care of a child for several years because the child's mother was unable to due to criminal and substance abuse issues. After a few years the mother cleaned up her act and wanted her kid back. At that point it was very hard to give up the child.

You choose it. And the health thingy, I dunno. You may choose the healthy one I think.

if you want to and it make you happy then go for and most likly they'll let you pick the child

you work through an agency--basically you make a profile and if its the mothers choice to give up the child she goes though a billion little profiles--you just have to be the one that she chooses. It is a REALLY long waiting list usually. You coulf wait 2 months or forever. Its even longer with international adoptions. But it is a really good thing that you are doing. Its worth it.

Adopting is a long process. I can say that because I am adopted. As to the mental health the younger they are the less likely they will have reactive attachment disorder. You get to choose but if you go that path make sure your postive you are ready.

you will need to make sure you have a nice home.no criminal record and a reason why you want to adopt also not all the kids will bemessed upfor eg there mum and dad could have died when they were young,but remember neverkeep secrets from them and treat them like they are your own (when your older)lol hope I helped
xxxhannahxxx

There's usually a HUGE waiting list to adopt a child. There are so many couples who can't conceive. And it's because everyone wants a newborn baby. The children who no-one wants, are the ones who are older, and have mental, emotional or physical problems...