What's some advice for teenage mothers?

I'm seventeen years old, and for a year or so I've been wanting a baby. I believe I am mature enough to handle one. I understand everything that comes along with the baby. I'm homeschooled and getting 90's and above in all my classes, so I don't have to...

worry about going to school, juggling doctors appointments, and having a good life for the baby when it's born. I wouldn't even think about having a baby, unless I knew the father would stay around. My parents would be with me through the whole pregnancy, and help me buy what I need for the baby.
Please, don't reply with anything rude. I'm confident in my choice, and I'm confident I could give my child everything it needs. What do you think?
Thanks guys. I appreciate your time. =]

babies arent purses

QFT.

I think you should go for it.
The problem with posting it on here is that you are going to have all
kinds of people telling you that you are too young and blah blah blah.
Thats just how people on here are.
I have made several posts about pregnancy and people just like
slap you in the face by saying your arent ready and all this stuff.
Honestly...
If you feel like you are ready and mature enough and also that the
baby would be in a safe environment, then you should go for it.
Nobody on here is going to know everyting about you and all that
so its 100% you, only you know if you are ready. Good luck!

I really want a baby. My boyfriends 19, and he's still thinking about it. If he doesn't want to have one yet, I'm fine with it. I'd love to have a baby.. I would have someone to love, and to love me back.. No questions asked.

Here's a plan: ring, date, marriage, baby.

I stole it from amblessed.

It may be a plan, but not one I'm willing to go through with.
Yea, having a baby when I'm married would be a better idea,
but then I'd have a husband, and a baby to worry about.
Haha.

Kid, seriously. Try to be independent of your parents first, THEN be a mother your baby could be dependent on. Are you seriously that shameless that you'd expect your parents to pay for something that YOU want? Getting a little too old for that, aren't we?

If you want a baby just to have someone to love who will love you back, just get a puppy. Fewer responsibilities, lower maintenance, and INBD if you get tired of it and want back your social life.

My Partner's brother is about to become a dad any day now. He and his girlfriend are both 16. Neither have finished school, neither have any means of independently supporting themselves or a child. They have to stick their hands out Mum and Dad for everything. So far, I don't think they've had to pay for much. I'm of the mind that if you think you're mature enough to have a child, you have to be independent enough to provide for it on your own. That means not expecting people to even gift you with things. And let me tell you, baby set up stuff doesn't come cheap. Just the cost of nappies sets you back a whopping amount. Imagine if the child is born with a major health problem- who will pay for the medical bills?

My partner and I have talked about kids, and we both very much so want them. The difference is, we know we need to wait until we are in a position where we can offer a child the stability they need. That includes us taking the time to do all the things we want to do (meals out, traveling Europe, buying treats for ourselves), and feeling like we've had fun with it being just the two of us. It's essential for you to take the time you have now and run with it, because once a child comes along, you have to put most of the things you want to do on the backburner for about 20 years while you raise the child. As much as I know I would love my kids no matter what, I have a feeling I'd probably resent having give up much of my youth raising them, when I would rather have been clubbing, gaming, making friends, going to parties etc.

As for wanting the unconditional love from a baby... I think it's a bit dangerous if that's your motivation. Xiigxag is right in advising you to get a dog. I personally prefer cats- they're much less maintenance than a dog, and they generally stay a pretty small size, so they're easy to pick up and cuddle. My cat has been my little baby since day one, and I wouldn't trade her for anything. She never asks for money, is always up for a game, and I never have to worry about her with boy cats (She's been desexed and had FIV vaccinations). Best of all, she grew bigger, but she never grew up. She loves me like a mum, and never resents me for going out shopping or clubbing. The best of both worlds with this option!

Clearly you have thought this through pretty thoroughly. Nothing fully prepares you for a child though, no matter what your age or situation. In my opinion, you should never intentionally bring a child into the world though if you're not 100% sure it's what you want- the fact that you're asking others what you should do shows you have a few doubts. I'd wait until you're definitely sure.

Who is going to support you and the baby?
Have a life first as once you have a baby there will be no going out all night getting drunk etc etc... Although it is possible it is a lot harder
Wait until you have seen a bit of life, and the world... I was 24 when I had my first and had some fab girly holidays first

if its really what you want go for it..follow what your heart tells you

hey dont u want to enjoy being a young adult. dont u want to enjoy it when u turn 21. dont u want to move out and be with urboy friend just the two of u. well u cant do any of that with a baby. im sure u are mature enough to handle it. but the question is why. I dont know what is wrong with u young girls out here today but babies arent purses. just because u see all the other girls with one now u want one. look u have no need for baby right now. hell your still in school. dont try to put some of the burden on your parents cause even though im sure they will help u out they shouldnt have to its not there responsibility. its urs and if u dont even have a HS diploma I doubt u can afford to take care of a baby. its cool to want kids. but its not cool to treat them like new shoes. u have to make sure that your life is in order first. and urs is not hince the reason why u still live at home and are still in school u are still getting prepared for your own life so how dare u try to bring another one in. just be patient. if u and your also young boyfriend are so in love then he will still be there when u graduate and become a responsible adult u can take care of there own baby.

lex icon says it well.
Good Luck Brittany!

I'm not going to tell you that you shouldn't do it, or that you should. Because that's wrong. Let me tell you about my life as a mother. I don't really care how people think of me, but let me tell you. When I was 19 I was going out every night and parting with so called friends. I guess they thought it was a joke because one night I hung out with them,they put the date rape drug in my drink. Well the next morning I woke up and had my pants down. I was like I don't remember anything. Nobody was at the house that morning. Well I found out that I got pregnant. It tore me up so bad, because I was ready, I couldn't handle a child. I didn't finish highschool not because I was pregnant, I had other reasons. Well, I got with a long term friend and he told me he wanted a baby, and wanted to marry me. So now we're married, I had my son with no problems and I stopped drinking and I got my G.E.D and passed. I don't do as much as I use to, actually I don't do anything. So don't let NOBODY say you can't do anything, but it is hard, you need people to support you and stay by you, make sure the guy will stay for sure. and if he doesn't make sure you can make it without him and be one of those mothers who are strong enough to do it on your own. Good luck girl!

my some is 2 1/2 I love him with all my heart but if your not pregnant you shouldn't go looking for it untill you are settled finished school,have a job, a place to live, and if u can a car u dont want to.it not fun bringing a baby on the bus in a blizard when u have no choice but to get somewhere. you dont get to go out and party unless your right because even if your simpily going to the movies it will costs.

Understand those are normal feelings. Sometimes they come early in life, and sometimes later. Make sure you use your head and not follow emotions. Emotions can't be trusted.

Get an education. Find a good man who will not have sex with you until you are married. And that's a good start!

Any man who will jump in the sack with you before putting a ring on your finger is NOT husband material. Trust me!

When you should have children:
- when you wanted a child at a young age but were mature enough to realize that you should wait till your older- wiser- financially able- and independent enough to do so.

When you shouldnt have children-
-When you are still in your teen years, and all of the sudden in a rush to have a child.

I find it amusing how girls want children so bad in their teen years to fill this void of being loved.. or wanting to love someone.. I guarentee that these girls had some father or mother figure missing in their life-physically or mentally, and have a need to love a child...

I am 20- I love children... I teach children as a living.. I want 5 kids.. But me and my fiance know that the best time to have children will be a few years after we are married.. We will both have graduated college.. and be financially stable.. Isnt that only fair to the children? To try to give them the best stable environment possible? Where they are loved, and taken care of.. with parents who are knowledgable of life and the outside world.. because they have experienced it, lived it, and have been educated...

hey um I think you should get married first.

if you two are willing to have a baby create a new human life form you should be able to get married to

and start a nice family

If you want a baby make sure you are with a guy who will be there for you!! Never decide without telling him!!! Make sure you have a job to take care of your baby!! Sooner or later you won't be able to count on anyoone!! All im saying don't give up your baby if you get frustrated!!

just stay postive work and focues on your child and stay up f**ck da haters.

I understand how you feel completely I'm 18 and I have moved in with my fiance and we really want a baby both of us I hope we get pregnant soon but anyway back to you I think that if both you and your partner are willing to take over the responsabilities and continue your lives together then you should do it just remember that the oppurtunities you give up for your baby are part of that responsability and try not to relie on your parents all the time I'm sure they will help out as much as they can but it will go along way with them and everyone else if you do as much as you can on your own I hope I was helpful and good luck with everything.

I understand how you feel completely I'm 18 and I have moved in with my fiance and we really want a baby both of us I hope we get pregnant soon but anyway back to you I think that if both you and your partner are willing to take over the responsabilities and continue your lives together then you should do it just remember that the oppurtunities you give up for your baby are part of that responsability and try not to relie on your parents all the time I'm sure they will help out as much as they can but it will go along way with them and everyone else if you do as much as you can on your own I hope I was helpful and good luck with everything.

well gd luck 2 ya bbe think if you do have a baby it wld have a good up bringing... you seem like a very responsible girl so im gna wish you all the best and say go 4 it gd luck XxXx