I'm falling in love with a married man

I been seeing this married man for about 2 months now and I'm falling in love with him.His been with his wife for about 9 years and married for about 1year. I really dont know what to do. He has 2 kids ( 6 years old and 8 months). Now his wife is...

starting to find out about me. We made love only once but he made me feel so good about myself. He told me that if his wife ever found out that he end things with her but now its a different now that she knows about me he told me to call from a blocked number and dont leave any messages. I really dont know what to do.

You are in the wrong relationship, this man doesn't love you he's only using you. A person that loves he's ready to declare his love but hidden relationshps is not love. At the end hr will go back to his wife and children, to his normal life but you will get out dissapointed and destroyed. Jump out without looking back, he doesn't deserve you.

You are still young and have your whole life to choose the right person and build with him a true relation, you have the right to be loved in return, don't miss it.

get out of the relationship as soon as possible...statistics show that rarely do men leave their spouse or partner for another woman between the period of 5-15 years...and if he told you to call him from a blocked number, seems like he's having doubts whether or not he should leave his wife...saying is easy, doing is hard...he talked the talk but now can he walk the walk...if he told you that as soon as his wife finds out he'll leave her and be with you and unfortunately you believed him...this goes on everyday in America, some unsuspecting woman falls for the married/committed type and there goes the neighborhood...because most married men are looking to spice up their life, and 2/3 of the time or more often than not, cheating on their wives makes then become even more loyal than they were to their spouse previously...

basically all you can do is wait it out now, or move on...because if he said he would leave his wife for you, give him time or that you shouldn't have had sex with him until he did leave his wife, because that would have solidified his intentions, so don't push the subject but bring it up with him, of where he sees this going??? if he gets irritated about the subject, thats a good sign that he was just there for the ONE and FUN deal...if he's a man of his word, he will have no problem talking to you even if that means he lets you know that he doesn't want to leave his wife...but if he did something like this he should have the GUts to face the consequences...

hope this helps, and good luck

END IT NOW!! He wont leave his wife no matter what he tells you!! Dont be naive and think this guy loves you! He is only using you!!!! Would you want this guy doing the same thing to you? Once a cheater, always a cheater! This guy is worthless with absolutely NO character! Find someone who will give you 100% of himself, not when its convienent!!

my advice is run as fast as you can. i was married to the same woman for 24 years when she suddenly decided she did not want me anymore. as it turned out she was seeing someone she worked with. the guy she was seeing was a trouble shooter for the company they both worked for so he moved from store to store on a daily basis. this worked out nice for him because not only was he seeing my wife, but 3 other women at 3 other stores in the company. he is married, has 4 kids has no intention of ever leaving his wife. when i found out about them i contacted his wife let her in on his little harem he has. she told me this was not the first time this had happened, but she is a devout catholic does not believe in divorce. i told her i do believe in divorce did just that . needless to say when i filed for divorce he ran like a rabbit from my ex-wife would have nothing to do with a single woman. sweetheart, you are being duped by an age old ploy that men use on a regular basis. i'm now a single dad happy . my ex is single ,but a very bitter woman. do not allow yourself to sink to that level be the bitter other woman. 99% of all men who fool around on their spouses are doing the same thing to the other woman they are seeing... just fooling around. they have no intention of leaving their spouse. you deserve better that that.

You put yourself in this position, you set yourself up to get hurt, why on earth would you want to be with a man who is cheating on his wife and has a family!!!!! wat kind of man is he? why would you wanna be with him!!! so, did he keep his promise and leave her now that she has found out......NOPE and he wont either, he just said that rubbish to lead you on to keep you on the side. leave the relationship now! its better for everyone.

honey im only 15 so im no one to tell you anything but you are doing the wrong thing, the only reason why you feel attached to him is because you has sex with him,you need to leave him as sson as possible because in the end u r going to get hurt, think about it honey he is married with two kids and you think he is going to loose that for a girl he know for 2 months come on honey use common sense leave him do it for urself, i know its hard but in the end u r going to realized he wasnt worth it plus honey he probably is just using you, he doesnt love you because when a man loves a womn he would never do what he is doing he doesnt even love his wife, plus honey if he was to leave his wife for you what makes you think he wont do the same to you and maybe you are the the only one he is seeing,honey have dignity and call it quits do it for ur own good, he will leave you in the end u end up loosing not him because he has his wife and do you have? just a fantasy that is just totally wrong

) My advice is do not panic. People here described terrible stories about this situation, however you can see that this situation belongs to our age, how we work, how we go to holiday, shopping, sporting etc. The best answer to this life sitiation is not to overreact. Be happy with that you have met a very nice man in your life; now at least you can say that you know what is a good partner like at all, but that is also true do not let yourself to immerse in this relationship without any mental control. Do know that this love can be only an ephemeral episode of your life, and even today do start to build up mentally your life after this affair. But do not let anybody to take away the nice moments of this love from you: this is a gift of your life, a caducous gift.

Suck it up move on! Thank your lucky stars he doesn't show signs of leaving his wife for you....would your REALLY want a man who would cheat on his wife. If he was really in love with you he could have been honest with his wife (painful as this would be for all concerned!) and admit his attraction to you. Sounds like he might have problems with committment responsibility anyway! Been with her for 9 years, but only married for 1 with a 6 year old an 8 month old....seems like he might have been having problems of some kind all along!

Sweeatheart get out of this mess as soon as you can, he will never leave his wife and even if he did he will most liekly do the same to you. This may prevent you from meeting other nice SINGLE guys because you are hung up on him. Take my advice end it!

Be strong you can do it!

RUN as fast as you can, and do not look back. This will never be good enough for you. You can find someone who is just for you, that you won't have to share with another woman. He is never going to treat you the way you deserve, and if he would do that to his wife, what would he do to you? Think about that. He loves her, yet he is willing to break her heart. He would be willing to treat you even worse!

He might love you. He might truly, madly and deeply love you, but if he's got a family it's doubtful he will leave even if he isn't in love with her anymore. Infidelity can, in fact, strengthen a marriage (if the victim never learns the truth). However, if it doesn't, do you think when the ISH hits the fan he's going to run to you? If it weren't for you (though it takes two to tango) he wouldn't be in this mess. He will blame you for disrupting his life (happy or not) and for losing all that he had. If you can face the fact that it won't last forever than by all means, torture yourself. Unfortunately, I'm one of those people who CAN face that fact and I insist on torturing myself. When I'm with him the whole world stops. There is that 0.01% chance that things could work out in my favor. That's not much for hope, but it's not a chance I'm willing to take.

This is a truly painful situation to be in, I don't wish it on anyone, I'd advice you to check out http://www.the-other-woman.com for articles on this topic and to get support from women AND men in similar situations. It's helped me a lot. Good luck.

Hi Redma,

I want to know if you live in Toronto. Reason being I met a guy who is married two years and has a seven year old and a two year old and he just told me he was married. I got out but needed some advice on the internet about how stupid I was and came across your story. It sounds similar as I am posting this a year later than you. Maybe its the same guy.

WOW I Can totally understand where you are coming from. but we always need to look deep and pull out our self worth! thats just crazy, why would you want to be second to anyone! really deserve so much better!

leave him you are just going to end up geting hurt... hes using you... come on thinik you may love him but are you sure he loves you?

I am also seeing a married man and I understand how hard it is. I've been seeing him for just under 4 months and I've spoken to him about why he hasnt left his wife. he told me but lets not go into it. youv only been seeing each other a short time, if you were him would you throw away a family that youv had for years for someone you have seen for 2 months, I know thats harsh but thats how I look at my situation. if things dont work out between you two if he left he would end up lonely, im guessing that scares him abit. at the end of the day if you carry on you may get hurt but if you truely beleive that he loves you then maybe the risk of getting hurt is worth it. no matter what anyone says its your choice.

hope things work out...

what'S WRONG WIT you WOMAN OUT THERE? YOU MESSIN WIT MARRIED MEN!!! what THE H** YOU THINK A DUDE GON DO FOR you IF HE IS STUPID ENOUGH TO LEAVE HIS OWN FAMILY??? USE your HEADS OK. HE'LL DO you THE SAME WAY,THERE IS NO LOVE IN THAT. AS FOR THE CHICK WHO POSTED THE QUESTION... I THINK you BETTA LEAVE HIM ALONE. what you GON DO IF THAT WOMAN KICKS YO A**??? you CAN'T BLAME NOBODY BUT URSELF. I KNOW you CAN'T HELP HOW you FEEL ABOUT SOMEBODY BUT you SAT URSELF UP FOR FAILURE WHEN you STARTED MESSIN AROUND WIT HIM.

You clearly need to end this, an affair is not love. If he really loved you, you would divorce the woman right away to be with you. But he says he'll divorce her AFTER she finds out? Sorry, but I don't buy that.

man always returns to his original family

BEEN THERE DONE THAT DID IT FOR 7 YEARS
LEAVE HIM ALONE YOU ARE NOTHING MORE THAN SOMETHING TO DO
HE IS A LIAR AND WILL ALWAYS CHEAT ON HER AND YOU IF HE LOVED YOU
HE WOULD LEAVE HIS WIFE AND KIDS BUT THEN WOULD YOU TRUST HIM

YOU ARE GOING TO BE HURT IN THE LONG RUN AND LIVE WITH THE PAIN OF BEING ALONE AND ALWAYS WANTING SOMETHING THAT YOU WILL NEVER GET BECAUSE IT IS NOT RIGHT AND IT WILL HAPPEN TO YOU ... WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. YOU DESERVE BETTER AND WAIT FOR GOD TO BLESS YOU WITH A MAN THAT HAS NOTHING TO HIDE LOVE YOURSELF!!!

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