I'm 14 and pregnant

I'm 14 and I just found out I'm pregnant.. I have no idea what I'm going to do. Once my family finds out they will disown me and always think or me as a slut, I really want to have this baby and give the world to it, because I know I will be a good...

mother, but it's not going to be easy to deal with a family that doesn't support me.. and I'm afraid that the father of this baby isn't going to help me support it, I really need help on this... I have no idea what to do..

Your parents will probably be upset at first. But if they love you, they will support you during this difficult time. I also recommend telling someone you trust, perhaps a counselor at school or something. And it's crucial that you get regular checkups at the doctor. The fact that you show a willingness to get through the situation and help your child have a happy, healthy life shows that you have courage.

Do you have other family members that you feel comfortable talking to? Maybe they can help you out? If not, please contact a clinic right away to get some pre-natal care, and especially, some ADVICE and counseling, to help you without judging you. Don't be scared, they are there to help you. There are many outlets that that the counselors and Doctors can hook you up with. My prayers are with you and especially your unborn child. Try not to worry so much. Eat right, get plenty of rest, and if you smoke, quit, if you drink, quit. Please get checked right away if you really care about your baby. Everything else should fall into place.

Sincerely,
Donna Davidson

I think what adrian said is a good advice. you should really get sum care and help with this. because since you are so young you cant really get a well payin job to support your baby. But from wut I read in your Q I think that you will make a great mother so just stick with it and never give up hope. And you should sit down with your family and tell them..and explain to them how you feel. dont let them stop you from having your baby.

if I was yo momma you layed down with him 2 can take care of the baby you will b taken care of that baby I im not care of

Welll Let Me Tell you something My mothr was one of them types (u know pregnant early) and she turned out fine. Your lfe mey not be perfect but you know you can make it decent. NEVER get rid of the child trust that is never good. If you are a good mother like you say you are you might raise the next Kirk Franklin or meybe Ja-Rule (without all the dramma with other rappers) you will never know how specail that baby is. Keep your h3ead up smile keep on steppin' be strong

if I was your mum I would be disapointed in you for having sedx underage and also getting yourself preggs but I would not want you to get rid ov that baby I would want you to look after it and I am more than sure that your family would not disown u

your family should support you if they don't then you should disown them

iagree with: Comment by bad_lover on Sat 24, Jun 2006 12:46pm

your family should support you if they don't then you should disown them.

why I am say; because you are just 14's years old. and life is very Difficult.

Once You Tell Your Family They Will Be In Shock Yes,.. But After A Month Or Two They Will Get Over it And Be Thankfull There I Another Someone In The Family To Love And Care For ! Dont Worrie Hunny Itll All Be Fine

hey you should be consious of what u are going to do!!it`s a question of your life!!you should ask the father of the child if he will support u !!do what your heart tells you

wow..well all i have to say is that ive never met a person in my life thats your age and is going through with this.
Im really sorry to sya but i think your parents are going to have a hardtime getting it in their heads that you are this young and pregnant.
Its going to be very hard on you i hope you realized. If the babys dad isnt going to support you and your baby then he shouldnt have to do with anything in your life anymore.
And if he doesnt want the baby..then he should have thought about using condems.
But you should just open up with your parents and tell them. I know you would rather have them knowing now then finding out when your belly has gotten bigger and your in the hospital.
Well i wish the best of luck to you and your future newborn.

wow..well all i have to say is that ive never met a person in my life thats your age and is going through with this.
Im really sorry to sya but i think your parents are going to have a hardtime getting it in their heads that you are this young and pregnant.
Its going to be very hard on you i hope you realized. If the babys dad isnt going to support you and your baby then he shouldnt have to do with anything in your life anymore.
And if he doesnt want the baby..then he should have thought about using condems.
But you should just open up with your parents and tell them. I know you would rather have them knowing now then finding out when your belly has gotten bigger and your in the hospital.
Well i wish the best of luck to you and your future newborn.

I say tell your parents now. Tell them that you made a mistake and you will do everything for this baby. They wont disown you, theyll get over it. they wont see you as a slut, sure theyll be disappointed, but theyll learn that this mistake can alos bring you as a fmaily more closer together. that saound okay?

no offence but the 12yr old that tinks shes preggs I was in your shoes about a few years ago and yess well still you need to get rid ov the baby you are to young you have your whole life to have kids

I would tell you parents, things happen every day that we dont expect,and surely there not going to expect this but they will?
Life will be difficult for you at first but once you see who really loves you and cares about you things will get much easier and you will get the support that you need. your poarents will come to the conclusion that nothing can change what has already happened, So that leaves them no other option but to Love and care for youand that child as I know any good parent would...

Hi This IS Ask_me.... i just didnt log in.. but litsen 12 yr 14yr is way too young ive thought about it i am only 15yrs and i wanted wanted a baby and its just not possible you need a father who is gonna be there to support himself the baby and you ... and ofcourse you need your parents to help you and well yourself your ruinning your lives!.... and honestly You NEED A JOB!!!! A Really Good One!..... But Anyways,.. I Just Hope Im Not Writting This Advice For Nothing if you are not pregnant dont fake it!.... Thats all im asking! But Good Luck!

I was a single mom at 17. when I told my mom she was disappointed but respected my decision to keep the child. My father wanted to kick me out. Parents react differently, but in the end, if they really love you, they should be willing to help you.

Just remember, if you choose to keep the baby, it is a lifetime commitment, the baby will need to come first in your life. Your life as you know it WILL change. As a parent, you will not get much sleep, no more parties, no more going out everynight or whenever you want. Personally, I think 12 and 14 is way to young to be having a baby. at that age, you are practically still a baby yourself, not old enough to get a job.

Wow - I am very strongly opinionated and I don't think you want to hear this but. You are too young to even think about raising this child. You do not have a life of your own yet! You can not even think about keeping this child. I agree that abortion idn't for some people, but when you have the baby - think about it. Being 14, the only way you could be a good mom, is by letting someone who can give your child a fighting chance with to parents, financial stability and a secure future.

U know what it is okay my cuz got pregnat at the age of 12-13 and her family supported yes they did get mad but they didn't hate her they still were there 4 her and that's what a true family does so if ur family doesn't support u ur friends here at funadvice will!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm going through the same thing i just turned 14 and i strongly believe that i am pregnant i also am relli scared to tell my family i think they wuld kick me out or be real mad for a long time. My baby daddy has another baby on the way except that baby is due real soon so not at the same time as mine. I think he wuld take it hard that he is on his 2nd child at 17 so i dont relli know how too tell him either. But i'm going too keep this baby no matter what people say it's apart of me and i think i would be a great mother i'm going to finish school i refuse to be another statistic because as a teen mother i know there will be alot of judging and doubts and so i'm determined to prove all the haters and doubters wrong and to those of you who are in the same situation keep your head up trust in god because you are not alone! xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox bye

My sister got pregnant at 14, My family wasn't to happy. But once they realized that she was not going to give it up. They accepted it. It will be a long hard raod for you! But if you truly love that baby it will be okay~ Just follow your heart and dont let anyone make you do what you dont want to do~~