I let my daugh. go (part 2)

I let my daugh. go live with her dad when she was 10 years old. She was having a bad time here at my home because of my husband. Things were really ugly. It has been three years now and she told me she doesn't want me to be a part of her life and that...

she is better off without me. I don't know what to do. I really miss her.

At the time my other two children were 1 and 5. They still live with me. I had visitation with my oldest daughter from another marriage. When she would come to visit, she would want to go spend the night at her friend's house. I let her. It got to the point where she didn't want to come to spend time at my house at all and I didn't force her too.

I am a stay at home mom. My husband doesn't want me to go back to school or work. I am on disability right now, but thought about going back to collge. I was a senior in nursing school, when I took some time off because of the divorce between my oldest daugh. dad and me. I feel like going back to school sometime but my husband said if I do, he will find another mother for the kids. I feel really trapped sometimes. My middle daugh. won't go to sleep at night unless her dad is at home. He works a lot of nights and when we were separated before it was an issue. Any advice is welcome. I just wonder if I leave my husband and take the two children, will my oldest daugh. eventually want to have another relationship with me, especially if I go back to college, finish, and work in nursing and make a decent income to support us all.

dont let your husband controol your life. the fact of the matter is would he really say that if he accually loved you? the anser is no. let him know your not going to take orders or take threats. if you dont make sure he knows now he will continue to do it. once you take crontrool of your own life I would talk to your doughter ask her just to go on a girss night out with just you. it mostlikely isnt you that she is better off without its probably your new husband. if you husband. cant be respectfull and accept your doughter he isnt excepting you.
hopfully I helped.
- with love, midnightdreamer.

fist of all, if your daughter didnt like the guy you were with, shes probably onto something. the people who know and care about you the most, know whats best for you when you may be too blind to see it. if this guy is holding you down and not letting you go to school,is he really worth it? I think not. evrey woman deserves her fairytale ending, and hes not in it. as for your daughter, give her some time. you both need time. she needs time to heal, and so do you. you need to take charge, kick this guy out on the streets. you need to be your own idependent women. take your kids, go back to school, and regain the confidence you need. I know its going to be hard juggling your kids, school, and a job, but we all have hard times. once you are finally an idependent woman, write a letter to your daughter. tell her your through with that guy, and you finally have a chance to start over. tell her you did this all for her...and yourself. most importantly, tell her you love her, and arent going to give up until she talks to you again. I hope my advice helped you. good luck, and I will be praying for you