I hate my life!

My mom screams at me for no reason. If I have a really bad dream, she starts yelling at the top of her lungs and telling me I'm stupid and I'm going to turn out like my dad! My dad is addicted to alcohol, drugs, and pain killers. He's in jail for his 7th...

DUI and a domestic violence charge. And to top it all off, all my dance teachers know about my dad because my annoying nosy aunt told them all EVERYTHING! UGH! What should I do with my life now?

maybe it's because you look or resmble your dad, so much that your mum isn't able to think stright and know that you're noting like him, but yourself!! I say the best thing to do is to help around the house, live YOUR life, and prove to your mum that you're not like your dad... show her that you love her, and that you won't leave her for alcohol, drugs...ect. show her you're better than that, and most of all, talk to youe mum about the situation...and if she dosen't want to, then don't force it. as for your aunt, ignore her remarks, as long as you're a terrific dancer, dance at heart, and make this situation in life, as something for you to want to dance better - look at it as an insperation! - of you wanting to live your life better than your dad!! I'm sure your dance teacher will see through you and know that you don't resemble you dad, cause unlike him, you're active and healthy!! =) hope this helped!!

My girl is the same age as you. I wish I could give you a big hug right now!!! I am very close to my children but we have gone through hard times together. So this is coming from a mother that always talks to her children because I feel that it is so important.

You should be a survior!!! Your mother is still acting like a victim!!! If you can hug her and tell her you love her (at a time she is calm and not so busy). Then point blank ask her if she really wants you to turn out like your dad because that hurts you when she states that and that is not what you want for your life. She probably does not even realize what she is saying to you. It is coming from frustration which is a proven fact that someone losses 30 IQ points at the time they are experiencing this. So try not to get that way yourself. Ask her to talk to you when she is angry and not yell. Yelling is not a healthy way of communiction and does nothing but cause pain.

It sounds like my ex husband was a lot like your father but carried it out to the point of doing the unthinkable to his children at which I found out after I left him. I tell my children when they display a behavior that is similiar to things their father did that I left him so that you would not turn out like your father and what you are doing is not right. I want you to want better for yourself because I want that for you. She needs to consider leaving him even if he is in jail because when he gets out where will he be? And it starts all over again and again...and that is not a good life. It is not about love at this point it is about breaking the cycle of violence and making a good life for herself and her chilren.

And always lean on the Lord and he will lift you up. I know this to be a fact. Just be the survior and your dance teacher will see it and know you for you. Right now is the hard time, I know, just remember it will pass and you will amaze others in the end. Get couseling, I did and my kids too, it helps you sort through everything that has happend. Might try to get your mother to go too, it would help her a lot. Chin up and press on. I know you will get through this and it will make you a stronger person.
God bless you always.

Well, the first thing you should do, is turn to God for guidance, pray and leave it in his hands.
second structure building would be is to go and see a home or family consular
third structure building I would get some time together with mom and sit down and really speak to her and tell her how you feel.

By the sounds of it she is taking out your dad's stress out on herself and you...
So take the time tell her that it is not your fault that your dad turned out this way.
and you must also let your mom know that how much you love her...

It can also be the fact that you dad has gone to jail, and that in most family cases does turn your childhood around, so you must also concentrate on where you go wrong and what your mom doesnt like about it.
She might just be scared by losing you too, by you mixing in with the wrong crowd and wrong things, and she's showing you the wrong way to let you know she cares about you...

thats my point of view on it...
Give it a shot

Butterfly is dead right. Good advice there.
You need to explain to your mom how your feeling. Talk to her.
Good luck.

here is for the dance thing... ignore wht your aunt said and show your dance teachers the best you can be. express yourself when you dance. have a good time. dont let urself think they are going to treat you diff. show them other wise. and if you know your not going to end up like your dad dont be worried by that thought! you r going to be like YOU!!! and all these people have great advice. you should talk to your mum and if your not ready to or anything... pray to god for guidence and strength. focus on what you want to do and you will be great at it!!!

I agree with the people telling you to talk to her.
However, if that doesn't work, (this might sound stupid) but aim high in life.
Get a dream and focus on it.
Work hard and if you do, you'll accomplish it.
And when you do, you'll forget everything bad and your life will have a meaning.
You just have to be patient.
Good luck. x

try talkin to her and if that dont work I would try to find some way to get out of her house. what shes doing is emotional abuse I know cause my mom compared me to my messed up dad too.