How to tell my Mom that I want to move out?

I’m 17 and I want to have some more room to grow. I have talk to many people about wanting to move out of my house. I have already been accepted to college and I almost have enough money to get a car. I have a job 25 hrs a week and I still manage to get all A’s. I have an adult friend who knows that I want to move out and she has 3 empty bedrooms in her house and she is single. My friend says that I dont have to pay for rent I just have to help out around the house. I want to have my mom understand where I’m comeing from and I want her to want to give me a part of the childsupport that she gets from my dad since I wouldnt be using the utilities at her house. So that way I can give my friend rent so that I dont seem a burden to her. I have like 7 months left until college and I want to move in like 2-3 months from now. And its not like I wont visit her…So my Question is( after my lengthy intro) How do I tell my mother that its time for me to move on and transition into my new life?

Answer #1

owkay so I noe this znt da mst original ansa bt I really think you shud be honest with her an just lay al your cards owt4her2see bt you hav2b prepard 4any questions she may ask you bt afta redin your intro I’d say you alrdy are an P.S just wntd 2 giv you sum SNAPZ you seem 2 b really organizd and what you want to du with your lyf tz really refreshin 2 c GooD LuK although you don’t seem like you need t PEACE

Answer #2

Thing is that I dont think that she’ll take it very easy. Even if I chart out all the expenses and make it sound logical. You know the whole empty nest syndrome or whatever it is called. She wont want me to leave. She’ll make a scene of it, I just need to start growing into my own person.

Answer #3

tell her it would help you transition to college where you’ll be living completely without your mom.

Answer #4

I didn’t read the whole question but you need to make sure that you have a job so you have money for this.

Answer #5

Tell her these things, tell her what you are planning to do. You seem to have gotten everything planned out really nicely.

Answer #6

if you know your mom then prepare yourself for a mom meltdown. but you need to do what’s best for you.

Answer #7

omg I am the exact same apart from the stuff about your dad as mum made him leave. all I do is fight with mum over stupid stuff and I am sick of it and want to leave. we dont talk anymore ever. I live in my room 24/7 and only come out for the toilet ,shower and food, I hate my life, im getting really stressed and just want to leave everyone

Answer #8

I am 14 and I have a lot of problems with my mom. She smokes once every day and she wont admit to it an its getting reallly annoying. My dad says she has it under control but she does it every time she gets mad. Usually my mom and my dad are always fighting. I think that we are in debt but they wont admit to it. I dont think my parents like each other anymore. I feel reallly stressed out and at the moment I am taking honors classes in highschool and my dad is freaking out because I have a c in my honors physics class and he doesnt get that I am trying. He says I am not trying hard enough. I study for science for an hour every night and its reallly stressing me out. My mom is always complaining about how she has to drive me everywheree and there isnt a day when she isnt complaining about something or yellling at sumone…me and my mom are 2 totalllyyy different people and I cant deal with it anymore. I think I need a break from my family so I am thinking about talking to then to see if I cld move out for a week. Any other suggestions???

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