how to get the excitement back in our relation?

thank you so much for your answers. : ) love you both I have slacken da contact wid him a bit and thats having some good effect on him. I am already seeing the improve in his behaviour. If um asking him abt what he does, with whom he talks to, then does it mean I don’t trust him? He accuses me that I don’t trust him. He stays awake da whole night being online giving me da excuse that he downloads work materials and so on, but um scared if he is getting involved wid any girl. He even accidentally told me that he chats wid a girl. This might sound stupid and “immatured” that’s what he always tells me. But its only because I care and I love him so much that I cant bear the thought of him getting involved with someone else. If I dint care I wudnt have bothered wondering abt all this…:(

Oh honey, this doesn’t sound like a good relationship to want to be back in! He calls you ugly and immature? And you’re not the girl he wants to be with? How horrible! He shouldn’t be talking about other girls and comparing you to them!

However, if you want to do this (though I don’t recommend it, he doesn’t sound right for you!) first thing to do, stop calling him. Just sms him saying have a good day. That’s it. Wait for HIM to call YOU! I know you can get antsy and just call him anyway, but don’t!

Don’t have sex with him EVERY time he initiates it. He seems like the only time he wants to see you is when he’s getting his ‘reward’ so just tell him you don’t feel like it. See what he does. If this is the only time he compliments you and tells you he loves you, than you have a problem. If you turn him down and he pulls the ‘you don’t love me then’ trick, stick to your guns, don’t sleep with him to ‘prove your love’, no matter what.

Stop forcing him to meet with you, if he doesn’t want to, fine. Go hang out with some of your girlfriends. Him telling you to grow up about being jealous is ridiculous, jealousy is normal in a relationship (not crazy, stalker jealousy) but enough to show that you care. You might have to keep it a bit to yourself and once you work through these problems tell him it makes you upset and you want him to stop talking to other girls and give you his attention.

The problem most couples face after a while is lack of things to talk about, so as I said previously, stop calling him a lot, give him a chance to miss you. That fact he tells you he doesn’t miss you is rude! Maybe be a bit aloof, show him how if feels!

If you are meant to be with this guy (you might not be, you’re still very young!) it will sort itself out. Stop giving him so much attention, focus on yourself. Don’t see him for a while and maybe get a new hair cut (or something) before you see him again. The important thing is to give him a chance to miss you so you have things to talk about again.

Don’t let him put your down either. That is extremely IMMATURE behaviour. Tell him that.

Hope this helps sweetie =)

Good luck!

Dear, all you need to do just give him a break for about one week. I know is not going to be easy for you but you most have to do this and believe me you will see some changes, even if you so him somewhere just greet him sharply and move on just for one week. The problem is that you often give your body to him that is why he sees as sex machine.