How to ask a girl out?

I have never dated in my life and I am 19. Finally, at work I have been talking to this one girl who comes in a lot. It was the first time that I actually felt something for a girl. But due to my inexperience around girls, I dont exactly know how to ask her out. I have a really bad confidence problem and have a hard time accepting my self so it is really hard to get the courage to ask her out because I hate my appearance. I am afraid of rejection which I am pretty sure why I have never been on a date. So I was wondering, what I should I ask her and for any advice to help me out with my confidence and asking her out. Thanks

I know where you are coming from bro, I have felt the same way before, and well you are going to have to accept rejection but there is just some cold hearted chicks out there... and well you have to be prepared for that. With that said... in my opinion with this girl since is kind of a 'blind date' so to speak... you could go about it a number of ways... like 'Hey would like to go hang out sometime... it doesn't have to be a date or anything but just goto the beach with me etc etc? You ofcourse can word it better, but you can go at it like that angle... if you dont make it as a date the first time around she maybe more into the idea... if you throw date in there it could catch her off guard... what if she has a boyfriend? etc etc... There is a lot of factors though, if you go at this route then you can let her know you and then maybe sparks will fly and then you can get her number at the end of the 'outing' , just make sure to be calm, ask her questions about her day etc, keep the attention on her but don't overdue it, if she asks something about you then respond... and say what about you? This will keep it interesting, and once you start talking like this you will get more comfortable... but don't get set on this chick, think of her has a test run... if it don't work out then she missed out... and another thing, you may run into a girl that really digs that you are newbie to the dating scene... some women get tired of guys who have been around the block a few times if you know what I mean.

You ofcourse can do what ahestand said, and just bite the bullet and ask her out on date date... but I honestly think its a risky bold move for a first timer... and she IS a stranger so its going to be akward for her... if you do the 'not a date thing' it will seem harmless. It still could not work so I dont want to build up your confidence just yet. But speaking of confidence... its a hard thing to get... but just think you only live once... live it on the edge bro... f*** what people think about you... and it will turn out for the better... also get into activities that you like to do ... like outdoor stuff.

Good luck! Let me know how it goes, PM me if you need something else or post here... I'm glad to help... cause I have been in your shoes before... TRUST me. I didn't do anything with a chick until almost 19...

Jason

Try building up your confidence. Just approach to her and say would you go out with me sometime. Ask her if she would like to go out to eat or to a movie. It's not that hard just to go up to her to ask her out. Don't let yourself to have a hard time. Don't be afraid. Try to get the Courage to go up to her. You really like her that much get off your butt and ask her. It wouldn't hurt. Just be yourself and ask her. I hope that I helped. Good luck for asking her out yourself.

well the first step is to accept you're slef and be comfortable with who you are. that way when you go up to a girl you now you look fine or hot and you ahve all this confidence. of if you cant just try you're hardest to talk to that girl. or any girl for that matter. just go up to her and be like hey insert her name here_____ I was jsut wondering if you would like to go out lunch sometime. since you guys go to the same work. you guys must get breaks. I think its best to go out to eat then you guys can talk more. and get to now eachother more. other wise you go to the movies and you cant really talk that much. so there is no time to get to now eachother. or what to say once the movie is over. so I say just go up to her and ask her if shed like to go out to lunch with y0u s0metime. start out sl0w. and easy. {h0p3 my advic3 h3lp3d y0u}
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Trying something has a 50% success chance - she'll either say yes or no; but not trying at all is always 100% failure. Think of it this way. By not doing something you always lose So go ahead and do it. You don't have to use words like 'date' or 'go out' if those are too scary or too rushed. Just ask her to something directly - like 'do you want to get coffee sometime?' or ask her what her favorite ice cream is, and when she tells you, ask her 'can I buy you one sometime?' ... you get the idea. It doesn't necessarily imply a date, even though it practically is one Girls like being asked out. Don't be scared.

The best way- well there are two choices. one is that you just get up teh courage, be bold and fresh, and just ask, you want to hang out sometime? or something like. the other way is the direct approach. you can simply ask her the next time she comes in if she wants to go out. if she talks to you a lot that means she might b interested

Say this:
'Hey baby. I feel we have a lot in common and we should go out someday. Like to the beach or movies. How about you decide? Call me, my number is [insert number here].'

start by asking for her number lol... if you guys talk a lot... then friends is the 1st step... then hang out a bit... ya no and then use to can get to no eachother a bit more... the when it come to the right time... and you'll no and you might not when when it is lol... but when you are ready maybe ask her then.... but dont get too close to just be mates... keep it kool and yeah go where eva life takes you with her..... let her no that you care about whats she is saying.... may attention to her at all times lol well maybe jsut most of the time..... dont act dessprate,,, play it kool...show some of the sencitive side... lol and yeah go for it... the more you get to no her.... the more cofedence you''ll have with her... and if it doesnt work out dont be afraid of rejection.... because you've still got her as a mate aint cha??

start by asking for her number lol... if you guys talk a lot... then friends is the 1st step... then hang out a bit... ya no and then use to can get to no eachother a bit more... the when it come to the right time... and you'll no and you might not when when it is lol... but when you are ready maybe ask her then.... but dont get too close to just be mates... keep it kool and yeah go where eva life takes you with her..... let her no that you care about whats she is saying.... may attention to her at all times lol well maybe jsut most of the time..... dont act dessprate,,, play it kool...show some of the sencitive side... lol and yeah go for it... the more you get to no her.... the more cofedence you''ll have with her... and if it doesnt work out dont be afraid of rejection.... because you've still got her as a mate aint cha??

Asking women out is a peice of cake. There are two people in this world. Thinkers and Doers. Thinking about being with her and then making the move are two different things.
You need to get your confidence becuase women sense it. I'm 17 and I was at lunch in school and this one girl I truly love and we are actually in love now, she would sit at table by the food line and I would walk by and give her this smile and she would smile back. I then went up to her infront of all her freinds maybe 10 or 12 girls at the table and they looked at me. I then said this while taking a quarter out,' Heads I ask you out, tails I fly away' then I flipped it and intentionally made it land on tails. She then looked and I said,' Am I going to ask you out anyway' then I flipped it and I got it to land on heads. The next thing you know if having lunch with her and her friends. Find something no man will dare; becuase that girl you like probally has been hit on before. Come up with something that is you. I'm a romantic and I love women so asking them out is a breeze for me but at first it is scary, nerve racking, and intimidating but will soon dissapear. Come up with something clever, Hell you can use my idea but remember I made it land how I wanted. That scenerio could have gone horrible but I planned it ahead of time. Think of all the things that she will say and have answer for them. Just ask her out man otherwise some as*h*le will. Oh, the most important thing always look them dead in the eyes and smile when asking her out. Show now fear and no doubt because Women sense that. Women want you to get them. They love it. If her eyes dialate (get bigger) when she looks at you she likes you.
Ryan

r you sure that your not gay?? lol just kidding it sounds like you could use a few confidence boosters before you ask her out. The one that I use a lot is just to say hi to random people on the street and try and get a positive response by smiling. If the person says hi back then you have done your job. you should feel better after some one has aknoleged* u.

all you have to do to be more confident is not care example is so what if she says no its better to hear what she thinks than to never know besdes take a chance it might turn out for the better

have something better
say this: 'I'm sorry I was so rude before but it's difficult for me to express myself when I am on the verge of exploding in my pants.'

kidding...cant help u...have the same problem it is just hard because what if she fails me or said no I would be embarresed as hell

haha donjuan88 xD
dont worry bro! your 19 and this girl will not be the last one towards whom you have feelings!
I had the same problem a while ago but now I just tell myself 'oh crap what the hell' you know?.. just take it easy and keep in mind that girls also like inner-confidence! take it easy bro and tell me how it works out =D

Girls Find Cnfidence Sexy! xxx

Become her best friend..once you think your really close...make your move..be confident..like elliebabe said, confidence is sexy!!

flirt with her.
Let her know that you are interested.
once she flirts back with you
then make the move.

Ask her out...