.how do i tell my mother...this.

How do I tell my mom that I've had sex wit more guys than she knows about? I know I shouldn't be having sex any way.but we all make mistakes. She thinks I've only had sex with one person only [2] times.how do I tell her the truth. [even if she's...

judgemental].so judgemental it's painful.help please...dont judge me please I already have a mother for that job!

If you really want to tell your mother about this, you just have to sit her down and have a talk with her. Let her know that you want to talk to her about something difficult, but that it's something you want to be honest to her about.

Make sure it's just the two of you, and try to make sure that something hasn't stressed or upset your mother BEFORE you and her talk. If she's already upset, chances are she'll react even more upset than she normally would. So..

1.) Pick a time.
2.) Pick a place.
3.) Know what you're going to say.
4.) Make sure your mom isn't already upset.
5.) Be honest.

If you follow that pattern, it should work a little smoother. I expect she'll be somewhat upset, but I think that with honesty comes trust. And, well, trust is something to value. Be sure not to misuse it.

Good luck.

1. Chill Out...a lot of girls have sex with different boys, I had the same problem with my mom about me being bisexual...She was royally pissed...Sometimes you cant avoid your parents anger...Dont sweat it, in time she'll get over the fact that you've actually lived your life...Just tell her over dinner or lunch...Get it out as soon as possible, you'll feel better about the whole situation!!
Hope this Helped, Good Luck
Love, Vannesa

Girl, you doesn't need to tell her at all! It is your sex-life, nobody elses!

Well fisrt of all if you had sex with more then one person just know that dose NOT make you a slut. tell her you had sex with other people , dont feel like you have to say sorry or any thing because you have dont nothing wrong. if you have had unprotected sex go to a public heath nurse and get checked out . And PLEASE USE A CONDOM

ikem I ma with you

icome on... do you do it in front of your mother? dammm she ain't going to worry

just dont tell her

The fact that you want to tell her means that you feel like you need either her approval or her judgement.
I don't know you, im just guessing, but I think it would be easier to wait to see her opinion of the subject before telling her straight up.
Like, what did she think about you having sex with the guy she know about?
how long ago was that?
why did she feel that way about it?
get an answer to these and then you'll see if you should tell her now or not.

good luck. x

ps if your 16 then you dont have to tell her or anything.

after you do tell her, give her time, don't push for any answers or response, let her have her time to absorb what you just said, She is going to think that she went wrong somewhere along the line and blame herself for not raising you right.

You're 16, so your mom must be pissed already.

Don't tell her - these kinds of things are /none/ of their business.