How do i help my brokenhearted brother?

I am rarely an awkward person, I can handle almost any situation pretty well I think. However, I've never run into this before- it's a little weird for me. My brother and his girlfriend of 3 and a half years just split, she broke up with him (and he...

tried to change her mind by driving all the way to her college, but she still felt the same way. He was crying so hard he couldn't see where he was going, his friends had him stay the night at their dorm and he just got back this morning). Poor guy. I don't know what to do, he's not my friend and so having heart to hearts with him or letting him cry on my shoulder isn't going to happen. He's a private person, but when he does come out of his room- do I do anything for him? Am I a bad sister if I just let him be? Any advice is welcomed, I'm not sure how private 20 year old guys deal with a bad breakup.

well i dont know how old you are but this might help. when he comes out tell him u love him and ask him if he would like to spend time with you or something. if he says yeah then do something thats kinda calm. maybe play a board game or something...idk...lol. but i hope this helps. =]

Dear liluxo,
It's very hard to watch someone you love suffer this way. Since you aren't close with him that makes it more difficult. If you are older tell him you need to talk with him and sit him down and explain to him that you are there and anytime he wishes to talk just ask. If you are younger tell him you are sorry for what he is going through and you hope things work out for him. Time will tell how things progress.
Sue....good luck

When worse comes to worse you always have your family, and that is a good thing. I to am a private person and when I get hurt I want some there to help me but I don’t want to ask for it. When you see him sit down and try to talk to him and if he wont open up don’t try to make him, just give him a hug and tell him you love him and that he can always talk to you. Losing some one you love hurts and the longer you’ve been with them the bigger the hole in you is and it takes times to fill in the hole but he has to want to move on before the hole can be filled in. If he don’t open up to you then wait a couple of hours and then try to spend some time with him to get it off his mind. Keep him busy

What do you mean he's not your friend? I find, that although my brother can be quite a bother sometimes, but he's my brother and I love him and find myself growing a special friendship with him. Of course, I don't know everything that happens in his life, but I let him know that I'm there for him for whatever he needs. I would tell your brother that you love him and you're sorry for his loss and just ask him if there's anything you can do to make him feel better. Even if there isn't, the action of you asking him is enough to show him you care, this making him feel better.