How to get my best friend to stop bugging me to follow her beliefs?

help my best friend is an over the top Christian and her and her mum want me to be too. I believe in god but I dont want o go over board!! I started a job on sundays and said I could'nt go. Her mum got quite angry and started saying loads of religious...

thinhgs. I dont want to be rude to her thats all because she my not see it from my point of veiw.. my problem is now she says I can come on a saturday instead, every saturday mornings to my best mates house to talk about god. I dont want to become all religious, I dont want to feel as if I am been pushed into anything, she says that I have a choice but if I say no she makes me feel so bad about it and I feel proper down. Should I just go and then like try to get along? How do I tell my best mate I cant come. is there any excuses anyone can think of??? I am adement I dont really want to go!

Is your (Y) key broken jazziibabes? I think you need a new keyboard. /sarcasm

Anyways, don't let anyone push you into something you clearly don't want to do. It's that simple. Just say no in a very polite way, and explain to her your reasons.

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I can relate to your situation. When I was in high school my best friend and I had a mutual friend commit suicide. She chose to immerse herself heavily into God and I chose other avenues of grieving. It got to a point where she made me choose between our friendship and following her path. At that time I believed in God but like you was not going to be pushed into something I myself didn't want to explore! So I told her I was sorry that our religious beliefs got in between us, I would still be there for her if she needed anything, but could not choose to follow her path at that time. It's been about 8 years and sadly I have not heard from her ...we both moved thousands of miles apart, but she will always be a part of me ... we only get one chance to live, and we have the right to stand up for what we believe in. People come and go in our life, either for a reason, a season or a lifetime... .no one impact is lesser than the other ... Tell your friend you appreciate her friendship and concern but at the moment your not ready to make the commitment she has ... if she's a true Christian she will understand that you can't force some to feel or believe anything, only to love and be compassionate to others hoping their actions will persuade others rather than coercive words and behavior. If she doesn't then like I did, just let her know that you'll always be there for her when she needs you, but that you can't follow her path ... make sense? If you need e-mail me with further concerns.
Good luck, and you live once, enjoy it!

There's nothing wrong with a friendly invitation to church or a nice discussion about god. However, what's going on here is abusive and coercive. Just as it would be unacceptable for me to try to browbeat my friends into not going to church any more, so it is wrong for someone to try to force you to go.

Ultimately, you have to decide what's important to you. I think the most important thing is that you act with integrity even if your friend's mother does not.

For once, Eleni and I are on the same page... I agree with what she said. I am sorry that this woman feels the need to be pushy, about something that is so very dear, and that is our relationship with God. She is being over zealous, and this can drive someone away, rather than to bring them to the savior. Please forgive her in your heart, and try to not hold this against her, or the faith. This is not God, this is her fleshly zeal. God is a gentleman, he does not have to push. He offers. He gives us the right to accept or decline, his offer. If she would not be so pushy about it, and allow the Holy spirit to do his job... which is drawing us to Christ... she would be productive, however, by doing things this way, she is becoming an offense. Please do not feel condemned by this. That is not Gods way. He convicts, and draws, flesh and the devil, condemn...

She's trying to help you because she honestly CARES where you spend eternity - absolutely nothing wrong with that - if you can't understand that, just tell her, I reject John 3 : 16, if that 's your choice.

***She's trying to help you because she honestly CARES where you spend eternity - absolutely nothing wrong with that - if you can't understand that, just tell her, I reject John 3 : 16, if that 's your choice.***

You are such an idiot... READ THE QUESTION, before you spout-off stupidity. It's people like YOU that are pushing her away. So shut up...

'stephiscool' ...you aren't required to go to church on Sundays, or Saturdays, or ANY day. You don't need CHURCH to believe in God.

Nice to be on the same side with you, Silverwings. I hope we can find other things we can share space on.

Thanks for your opinion Capt, but it doesn't mean anything to me - what Jesus opinion of me is, means everything.

***what Jesus opinion of me is, means everything.***

He'd say the same thing, only 'nicer' ...so you've got a lot to change...

I see that you're walking a tight rope. If I were you, I would thank your friend's mother for her invitation. You may politely decline if you want, but I would give her the benefit of the doubt and think that she really wants to do what's best for you.

You say that you believe in God, but you don't want to be religious. I know exactly what you mean. I always had to warn my friends that my own mother was a religious nut before they met her. After a long time, many years, I began to ask religious questions for myself, and she couldn't be the one to answer them. I needed something more than just mom says to be able to answer the deep driving questions I had in my heart. (many of which I see people asking here.)

I would tell her that you appreciate the invitation, and if you have any questions, you will ask her. (Don't call me, I'll call you.) When you do have a serious religious question, ask her, but also ask other people. Ask it here. Pray about it.

If she starts to beat you over the head with her religion tell her this: I'm just trying to put the pieces together in my own mind right now. After all, it took Jesus three years to teach everything to his disciples and they still didn't get it (see Luke chapter 24).

Eleni, Silverwings and arthur001 have summed it all up with great wisdom, in my opinion. I like the point about the disciples, Arthur! Best wishes to you, stephiscool.