How can I help my 6-month-old be less dependent on her father?

My daughter is six months old and every time her father goes to work she screams the entire time that he’s gone. I’ve tried everything taking her for a walk and playing with her but she is too stuck to her dad. How can i make it to where she won’t freak out every time he leaves?

Answer #1

There are things you have to understand about baby psychology. At 6 months your daughter has just learned that the universe exists outside of her. She is learning about object permanence. Earlier when she couldn’t see an object it didn’t exist to her. Now she understands that something can exist that she can’t see. Where before daddy popped in and out of existance now your daughter understands that daddy leaves and she doesn’t like it!

Right now the best thing you can do is play games to show her that things that disappear come back. Play Peek-a-boo and use a cloth to temporarily obscure small toys. Later play hide and seek.

They say that sneaking away is one of the worst things you can do. Even though it is tempting to sneak out to avoid the fireworks having daddy there one minute and then unexplainibly gone the next will only make your daughter less secure and more anxious. Daddy should say bye-bye every time he leaves even if it seems to make it harder. Seperation anxiety can continue. Before language skills are developed she can’t understand why daddy leaves or when he will return. The world is a complex place where she can not understand the rules.

Answer #2

At 6 months old, there isn’t really much, you know? IF she gets older and is still attached, I’d say, “well, let’s make daddy a present for when he comes home” and get her making some crafts.

But at 6 months, maybe give her daddys sweatshirt or something with his smell on it? Or have daddy give her a special teddy bear she can hold onto when he’s gone.

Answer #3

my cousin did the same thing. I use to play games with him, and read him stories, well just keeping him busy. Take her to the park or, set play dates with other babies, then she will have interaction with babies her own age. Eventually, they understand and will stop fussing, so thats really the best you can do right now. Hope I helped!

Answer #4

well this works alot try not showering her that daddys leaveing or get her attenchion on something else and when he leaves have him be quit and if that dont work try going to work with him and take the car and pick him up sometimes that helps to.

Answer #5

Greetings fellow user, You may be having this problem for the folowing reasons, also I hope you enjoy my help, and rate my advice, Thank you very much, and enjoy the help below! -When I was little, I loved watching the garbage truck from our old apartment;’s window(now we live in a house) = ) and One day my mom got mad at me and I was only 5 and she said I couldn’t watch teh garbage truck today. For the rest of the year, I cried everyday, because I thought I was never allowed to watch it.

Any way, you should try distracting her/him, with something other then candy, maybe a game, or keep her/him asleep. -Hope my advice help you, Don’t forget to rate =)

     -Phil2611
Answer #6

Does her father spend all of his time with her when he’s home? You may need to try to wean her from him, by gradually increasing the amount of time he spends away from her when he is at home in the evenings and weekends, so she gets more used to his being gone. Also, talk with him about things that he does with her that you may not, hold her a certain way, play a certain game with her, etc… so its seems more like daddys there. Also, try having him call from work, and let her hear him, see if that helps. It may not, though.

Try looking for articles on this kind of attachment, and consider seeing an infant psychologist if you can afford it, or youre at youre wits end.

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