my 14 year old daughter choosing to live with her father

How do I get over my 14 year old daughter choosing to live with her biological father, when he has never been a part of her life until now? I can't eat, or sleep or stop crying. I miss her so much.

My parents are divorced and im 13. I dont even want to see my dad once a week. I used to want to spend all my time with him. Now I dont. Don't worry. She'll come home to you soon enough. Especially if her father is the clingy kissy kissy holdy hands type. She'll get tired of it soon enough. Theres so many things she needs you for give her time.

Im 14 years old.
I just chose to live with my mother.
I never knew her.
She was never apart of my life.
But you just want something new its exciting.
To meet your mother or father for the first time its fun,
You want to know more.
She will come home.
I promise.

xxx

I think she's hoping to experience how it is being taken good care of a father... let her at this time... I hope you have commuication with her at any way...

Tell her she is bananas. If that doesn't work then I sure hope he's been paying child support the last 14 years. If he hasn't, then send her off to him with a note saying, I'll take all that back child support now. ...Then take a vacation.

Sounds to me like she doesnt like your rules around the house, And I bet when she realizes that her Dad has rules also she'll come running home.

you said he had never been a part of her life, maybe that's what your daughter is trying to do now, have her father become a part of her life. it's not that she doesn't need you nor love you, maybe she is just missing a father. probably she wants to get to know him. just give her the freedom to spend time with her dad.

She needs to see him. She'll be back, but everybody needs to have both their parents in their lives. If she knew he was there and they never bonded, this is probably a prime time to get to know him and incorporate him into her life. You should call her and talk to her about her dad, give them plans and be cooporative. She probably wants you both involved, really.

don't let her go. I was a single parent when my daughter came to me and wanted to live with me her father. I had no Idea how sneaky she was. She was only 14 when she came to live with me and she went plum wild. I worked at night and she was out with every boy she could while I was at work. My advise to you is a girls mother need to be around her when she is growing up. Most men don't have a clue when there daughter usually sweet talks there Dad in to all kinds of things and he doesn't even know what is going on. I think a mom needs to be there until they get over being boy crazy. Good luck from a Dad that has A grown Daughter now who made a lot of mistakes with her.

well im 16 and my parents divorced oh bout 2 years ago, and I never wanted anything to do with my dad bcause I hated him so much, so I moved with my mom when they split to gilbertsville,ky and thts 2 hours from where we lived and I didnt like it there so I moved in with my dad, until I couldnt take no more of him so I moved in with one of my friends and been living there ever since then. but I do I miss my mom allot,..I dont live with her because I dont know anyone where she lives at now , so I just came back home to where I know everyone..I wish I did live with my mom

All I can say is that the same thing happened to me. I have a 14 year old son who went to VA for Spring Break, and while on vacation, he and his father decided that my son wouldn't come to CA, home with me again. I was/am devastated. In the state of CA they get to choose where to live at the age of 14. So, there was nothing I could do. I feel betrayed and angry. At both, especially my son for some reason.

You're not alone though.

You can feel free to contact if you wish, I know what you're going through.

All the best to you.

Liz Fun mail me

aww...
well I would just leave her to her own decision because if you decide for her she might be mad at you for not letting her know her own father. so I'd just let her be and if she doesnt like it then she'll come back to you.
you will still see her. maybe on the weekends? but let her be because I know I would be really mad if my mom wouldnt let me know my OWN father.