How to get my dad to stop saying these things?

my dad is always telling me I'm fat, ugly, worthless, and stupid. I know there are many people with this same problem and people are just like well, get over it. but I don't know how. my mom and dad were both abusive parents. but anyways, since they have been telling me this stuff all my life I've started to believe it and I have such a low self esteem and I started to believe that I wasn't worth anything. since he's been calling me fat all the time, I've started not eating and making myself sick when I do eat. I know that's not healthy, but I'm just so sick of being called fat. I started cutting too and I know I shouldn't! but nobody knows what's going on because I'm always pretending to be such a happy kid and when anyone asks if somethings wrong my answer always is 'nothing's wrong, I'm fine.' but really it's not:/ anyone have any advice?

hello April,hehehe is that your name?

I want you to know, that nobody can force you to do anything. Your environment can intimidate you, can put pressure on you, can mold you into becoming what they think of you. But only YOU hold the key to stoping it.No one else can trully do this.THe change has to come from within you.There has to be a day where you wake up in the morning and look at your self in the mirror and say , I am not all those things they say about me.They are wrong. And how do you prove that they are wrong?
By acting it out , when you see lots of food you like EAT it. Why? Because your not fat !
When you see a beautiful dress what do you do? Buy it, put it on and go out with your friends with it. WHy??Because your not ugly! and will surely turn heads!Do the exact opposite things that you would never do before because of what your parents or anybody else has said. It might seem uncomfortable at first but the more you do it, the more it is going to be written in your mind that you are an okay girl just like the rest of us.BEautiful,unique , and strong.Don't take sh1t from anyone anymore!!!Draw the Line!!!NOW!

I saw your picture you are not fat and offcourse not ugly, you can use all that bad things that your parents tell you as achallenge , to prove to yourself that you are smart and pretty,and the next time they tell you something bad, you can tell them that you simply don't care about their opinion,sweetie, cutting and starving are not the right way , start loving yourself cause you worth it,and be sure that you can make it throught all that mess,wish you luck and take care.

how old are you? move out. tell them to fk off because your going somewhere with your life. STOP cutting, NO ONE likes an emo kid and you really dont look like someone who would do that sort of thing

Girl,dont care of what people say of you.No one in this world is worthless,ugly etc.But im sure that your parents do love you in their heart.^^Maybe they're just kidding with you?If you really cant take it,tell them how you feel.But you must have confident.CONFIDENT IS THE KEY. =) Just be a happy girl.Do what you want.Enjoy your life.And please dont ever cut yourself again.What for cutting yourself.You are hurting yourself.If cutting yoursle fcan help,then lets all cut ourselves.But too bad.It does not help.You are not fat.Really.All the best!

I grew up in a bad home life, so I understand how you feel. But you are not 'fat' and 'ugly' like he says you are. Most people put other people down because they themselves have low self esteem. You need to talk to an adult that you can trust. Either a family member, teacher, or someone that will listen. I agree that family services should be involved, because that is mental and emotional abuse. If you need help, I will be glad to give you some phone numbers.

File for emancipation & move out...

you really sohuld't listen to them, at least don't allow your self believe in what they're saying, If you can't do anything else, like moving out, at least ignore them, don't let them hurt ya girl, hold on, one day in near future you'll have your own family, your own life... have a hope

your not fat and ugly!
tell him that he is a bully and tell him he's fat and UGLY!!!
don't let it get 2 u
talk to someone if you need to
or just fun mail me

Let the buck stop with you, obviously both parents are repeating a pattern that has been imposed upon them, and they are not strong enough to change it, so they go along with it, trying to ruin your life, as theirs is ruined... DON'T LET THIS HAPPEN...Be your own person, learn to love yourself.. just as you are... they are supposed to help you do this, but, since they are not doing their job as parents, then parent yourself... make yourself exactly what you want you to be... gain support whereever you can, make sure it is healthy support, that teaches and enforces good things, and good images of oneself, learn how to be all you can be, and be as happy as possible.. practice how to make your self complete ... and happy... think about it, make it your goal, work toward it, and let them sit in their own miserable makeing... while you enjoy life to the fullest... Many Blessings... You can do it...

Show your dad the cuts or vomit on his shoes after eating... that ought to get him to shut the hell up real quick!

just incase anybody cares, I do not cut anymore
but things with my parents are still not better, but whateverrr.

thanks for all the advice guys!

good girl. well done for stopping cutting!
if things are really as serious as you say they are then go to social services. this is something that can't be fixed by some advice on a website.
keep telling us if things get worse or better!

Luv Bexxipops.