He wants to take my son

My baby father is trying to get full custody of my 22day old son =[ Claiming I am an ''unfit mother'' when I really do try my hardest and breaks my heart to hear him say it because I havent ate for 4Days putting all my money towards feeding my son and...

clothing him and Buying nappies and he doesnt pay one Penny towards him, What do you think will happen I cant bear 2 lose him however stupid this may sound becuase he is so young but he is my life =| Will he get custody over him?

He can not just go to court and take him. He has to have physicial proof you are an unfit mother (drugs,abuse etc,ect) If you truly are a good mother then you don't have anything to worry about.
Good luck.

I would say he will have to give you money for the baby.. becuase the courts will say he needs to pay you to help you with the baby. and I am very very proud that you are giving everything the baby needs. and no the father will not get the baby becuase he hasnt done anything for the child.

I would say that he would have to have a damn good reason to take that baby away from you. Just because he said that you was an unfit mother doesnt mean nething he would have to go to court and prove to the judge that you are an unfit mother and if he cant prove it then there is nothing that can be done.

There is no doubt that he should help pay for his child. But I don't know about where you live but in Missouri the courts can not make someone pay child support until the age of 18.

Don't worry, I can't see how he can just take you to court and claim that your an unfit mother. like xxjamoxx said, he needs proof. Just open up to the court and tell them that you try your best to do everything you possibly can for this baby. If he didnt do anything for the child, ex: giving you money for him, the court will see that and WONT give him custody. So dont worry about it much okay Good Luckk!

it will be very difficult for him to get custody. the court will side with you, don't worry. now go eat so you can be strong enough to take care of your son.

Just because you try your hardest, doesn't mean your a good Mother.

A good parent knows whats best for her child.
And if you cant afford to buy YOURSELF food you should let him take the baby.

Don't go through court, courts only make things official. You should do this with out the courts help.

Do it for your baby, it will give you a chance to get back on your feet.

well depends if the father has been a part of the baby's life. If he has supported something and he has had money 2 not only help the baby but himself as well, the courts will definitely choose him. If he has not, the courts cannot see him as an adequete father because he has had no experience and the baby will remain with you.
Most likely they will make him pay you every week or something to help support the baby. this is what my parents did. However if he over rules the court and he gets custody of the baby, you will have to pay and are most likely going 2 be granted visitation rights.

if parent (1) is taking care of the child, and parent (2) isn't then what happens is this.

if Parent 1 makes more then parent 2, then parent 2 does not have to pay child support.

if parent 1 makes less then parent 2, then parent 2 has to pay child support

Jenny and Alison Thanks for your answer but he has never been around he has only seen him once and would rather go out drinking than see his son =| he does not have a job either, The only reason I havent ate is because I would rather see my son healthy =|

Just because the parent that has coustody makes more does NOT mean they are free and clear of paying child support. I don't know where you got that information from jenny and alison, but in Missouri, if you don't have full coustody of your child (no matter how much either parent makes) you have to support your child (child support).

Babybump, in Missouri we have a program called WIC (women, infants and children) and they give you vouchers to get formula for you child (courtsey of the health department) . And when the child does not need formula any more then they give you milk, cereal, cheese, eggs etc. Maby you can do some searching in your area for some kind of program like that.

Then get help from a family member. All Im saying is that everyone thinks they are good parents, but the fact of the matter is they are not.

Whether you like to think so or not, you are putting your child at risk. This early after labor you should be consuming lots of full calories ie. breads, milks, veggies, meat.

You said yourself that you have not eaten in four days, do you know what can happen to you if you don't eat...You can pass out or even die. Then the father will get you child.

Hmmm sounds like a loss loss situation.

Where I come from Ottawa, Canada thats how it works. Things are different everywhere you go.

My family dont want anything to do with me so I dont get support only from friends and my childs godfather and they have gave me a lot of money recently to help me out with rent and stuff

I'm 100% sure fathers can't take newborn reasons under these conditions: There are many programs out there that help mothers to shelter, feed, and bathe their children, not single fathers; Newborns especially need their mothers for proper nourishment; as long as the mother isn't abusing the child, she can take custody of it no matter what her financial situation is because the government and other programs will pay her to keep it taken care of.

You have absolutely nothing to worry about as long as you have a good heart. And sooner or later the authorities will get to the father and make him pay child support, so you will be getting help from him either way.

Thats great, but again you cant take care of a child if you don't take care of yourself. Do whats right, find someone who can take care of him. I have seen many people in your shoes.
Some give them up for short periods of time, some long.

Most keep the children.
The children witness emotional and or physical abuse caused by there parents, or the boy/girlfriends who abuse them and or there parents.

A lot of the children go to foster homes because of this. They lose family and friends, they go to new schools.

They always have problems with Child services.

At least if you give your child away, you decide for how long, you decide to whom. You have a chance to make a better future for you and your child.

Actually unless child custody is set by an official, the Father has the same rights as the Mother. And he should but doesn't have to pay child support.

For all we know he trys to see his child, but she wont let him.

You should how ever worry about the Father taking the child. Because there is no legal recourse the Father can take the child and not return him unless told by the courts. If you deny the Father the right to his child, then again, he has the right to not give you money. Another reason he may not be giving you money is, you may have cheated on him and the child may not be his.

Sorry but I was nice at first but now you are bang out of order! I would NEVER let my child be a victim of abuse or even have to watch something like that and I have a good future planned actually, I have a job interveiw coming up and I am going to college in september and as for now I am being home schooled so I can be around my son so he feels secure and wanted! So how you can come and judge me I dont know. I am grateful for you trying to help with my problem so I would appreciate keeping to the question and not criticisng my parenting when you dont know anything about me!

and I do give him access to his child but he only wants to appear at stupid times in the morning like 1-2am...and what can he do at that time when he is sleeping...Take him to the park!? Are you calling me a slag then because I tell you now I never cheated on him so how can you come here yeh and basically call me a slag haha and if you think I feel intimidated think again love cause you think you're the mature one sat trying to intimidate 16 year old girls haha!

Anyway thats the discussion over between me and you =|... Thank you to everybody else for your answers =] =]