First time sexual intercourse

Recently, my boyfriend and I had sexual intercourse for the first time. We ... up until that point... were both virgins. We were both extremely suprised to find that I didn't bleed which .. we both assumed meant my cherry hadn't popped. Now, I'm pretty sure that some girls don't bleed much, and some don't bleed at all.. so I was wondering if my 'cherry' has been popped. Also, it wasn't painful until he had inserted himself into me all the way that I began to feel pain, we have assumed that this comes from our little bit of preparation the two days before we actually decided to have sex. Why is it that I felt pain (in the very back) but that I didn't bleed???

It felt pretty confusing, and a little nervewracking to not have what is supposed to happen ... happen.

I'd be really glad if you could provide some answers! THANKS!

There are lots of possibilites to answer your question. When I lost my virginity, I experienced the same thing. The insertion was a little painful, but I didn't bleed at all. The fact that you didn't bleed doesn't necessarily mean that your hymen isn't broken.. it's just different for everyone. Some girls bleed, and some girls don't. Personally, my hymen didn't break until after I had sex for a few times. It varies from person to person. Maybe your boyfriend wasn't deep enough to reach the hymen. Maybe if the sex was gentle, there wasn't enough pressure to break your hymen. Maybe your hymen did break, and you just didn't bleed. There are lots of possibilities, but don't worry about it. Everybody's just different.

Well, just to follow up my question a bit, my boyfriend and I had sex twice yesterday and ... no bleeding occured then either. The first time he went in it felt a little tight, but other than that it didn't hurt all that much. It hurt when he went all the way to the back, but besides that ... nothing.

I don't think that him going deep enough is really a worry, but maybe it is.

He's a large when it comes to condom size if that helps answer any questions? How far back is the hymen anyways? And .... so its possible that he didn't go deep enough to actually reach the hymen?

If you could answer any or all of those questions ... anyone ... it would be greatly appreciated.

A girl's hymen is actually located on the exterior part of her vagina. It's a thin area of tissue that partially covers your vaginal opening. The hymen isn't necessarily broken when a girl loses her virginity because it may have already been stretched during other activities. Mas*urbat*on, or even simple exercise can sometimes stretch the hymen, making it more flexible, and causing it not to break during sexual intercourse. If you find that you excercise a lot, maybe your hymen hasn't broken because its already been stretched to its limit. Or once again, your hymen may have already broken without bleeding. It is possible that your boyfriend didn't go deep enough to break your hymen; sometimes it takes rougher and deeper penetration to cause the hymen to break. If you're really curious about whether your hymen is broken or not, try checking things out with a mirror (its your body, you're allowed to look). If you find a small piece of skin that partially covers your vaginal opening, then it hasn't yet been broken. If there's nothing there, then its stretched to its limits and you don't have to worry about any bleeding. Again, everyone is different, so you shouldn't worry about it too much. It may be broken, and it may not. Someday you might bleed, and then again you might not. There's no real way to tell, but you definately shouldn't worry about it. Hope this helps :-)

I had a question, my boyfriend and I have had intercourse several times and the first time I didnt bleed either so he doesnt believe me that he was my first. what can I do to prove to him that he is and just because I didnt bleed doesnt mean that I wasnt a virgin when we first had intercourse?im not sure why I havent bled, we've had intercourse several times, but maybe it because we havent had intercourse on a bed or something.. rather standing up? im not quite sure..

okay you obv dont seem to understand popping your cherry is the exact same thing as losing your virginity

and just because you popped your cherry dosnt mean your going to bleed out everywhere
you could have bled but didnt notice as it is usually a small amout

me and my boyfriend are waiting until we turn 16 to have sex for tha first time and I gotta admit im a little scared that it may hurt to badly and that I might bleed a lot or just it might not go as good as we planned what do we do?

oh jeese.
me and my boyfriend have been waiting and he's getting tierd of waiting
im just nervous about it hurting too.
how bad does it hurt?
I know that everyones hymen is different, but how am I supposed to remind my boyfriend that there will be blood comin out? how embarrassing-ish to talk about, its gross/natural

well it could be that you popped it already because girls that wear tampons ride bikes and play other sports have popped it before their first time and it could also be that you just didnt bleed not all girls bleed when they have their first time

okokok here is some ACCURATE info on hymens and such...ok your hymen is located OUTSIDE your vag*na and comewhat covering the whole(half of it or less depending, not all are the same) anyways yes it can be stretched but most times it is RIPPED. this can occur from stretching,sports,biking and sex...so basically chances are high that it is almost fully ripped if not fully...the reason some bleed more than others or none at all is how think the hymen in...it is just a piece of skin..the thicker it is the more blood it will have through it...if it is really thin then none at all(get it?) no having this already torn doesn't mean you aren't a virgin...because then almost every girl wouldn't be. to lose your virginity you have to have SEXUAL INTERCOARSE... now about it hurting for your first time...if you and your lover have done lots of other things like fingering and oral than it could loosen up the muscles and get them used to it so id doesn't hurt as much. the reason it hurt at the back and not really the front is because those muscles have been acustom to the stretching as the back ones aren't. it really isn't a bad thing if you do bleed nor should the guy be squeemish or childish...its normal if it happens, and jess, you should be open with your boyfriend. it doesn't matter, if he truly loves you then he shouldn't mind.

hope I helped...if anyone has questions just ask.

Hey don't worry about the fact that you didn't bleed. I didn't bleed at all my first time. Some girls just don't bleed. Its going to hurt the first time mine did too. darthornx pretty much summed it all up. I couldn't put any better myself.