First time sexual intercourse

Recently, my boyfriend and I had sexual intercourse for the first time. We ... up until that point... were both virgins. We were both extremely suprised to find that I didn't bleed which .. we both assumed meant my cherry hadn't popped. Now, I'm pretty...

sure that some girls don't bleed much, and some don't bleed at all.. so I was wondering if my cherry has been popped. Also, it wasn't painful until he had inserted himself into me all the way that I began to feel pain, we have assumed that this comes from our little bit of preparation the two days before we actually decided to have sex. Why is it that I felt pain (in the very back) but that I didn't bleed???

It felt pretty confusing, and a little nervewracking to not have what is supposed to happen ... happen.

I'd be really glad if you could provide some answers! THANKS!

okokok here is some ACCURATE info on hymens and such...ok your hymen is located OUTSIDE your vag*na and comewhat covering the whole(half of it or less depending, not all are the same) anyways yes it can be stretched but most times it is RIPPED. this can occur from stretching,sports,biking and sex...so basically chances are high that it is almost fully ripped if not fully...the reason some bleed more than others or none at all is how think the hymen in...it is just a piece of skin..the thicker it is the more blood it will have through it...if it is really thin then none at all(get it?) no having this already torn doesn't mean you aren't a virgin...because then almost every girl wouldn't be. to lose your virginity you have to have SEXUAL INTERCOARSE... now about it hurting for your first time...if you and your lover have done lots of other things like fingering and oral than it could loosen up the muscles and get them used to it so id doesn't hurt as much. the reason it hurt at the back and not really the front is because those muscles have been acustom to the stretching as the back ones aren't. it really isn't a bad thing if you do bleed nor should the guy be squeemish or childish...its normal if it happens, and jess, you should be open with your boyfriend. it doesn't matter, if he truly loves you then he shouldn't mind.

hope I helped...if anyone has questions just ask.

There are lots of possibilites to answer your question. When I lost my virginity, I experienced the same thing. The insertion was a little painful, but I didn't bleed at all. The fact that you didn't bleed doesn't necessarily mean that your hymen isn't broken.. it's just different for everyone. Some girls bleed, and some girls don't. Personally, my hymen didn't break until after I had sex for a few times. It varies from person to person. Maybe your boyfriend wasn't deep enough to reach the hymen. Maybe if the sex was gentle, there wasn't enough pressure to break your hymen. Maybe your hymen did break, and you just didn't bleed. There are lots of possibilities, but don't worry about it. Everybody's just different.

Well, just to follow up my question a bit, my boyfriend and I had sex twice yesterday and ... no bleeding occured then either. The first time he went in it felt a little tight, but other than that it didn't hurt all that much. It hurt when he went all the way to the back, but besides that ... nothing.

I don't think that him going deep enough is really a worry, but maybe it is.

He's a large when it comes to condom size if that helps answer any questions? How far back is the hymen anyways? And .... so its possible that he didn't go deep enough to actually reach the hymen?

If you could answer any or all of those questions ... anyone ... it would be greatly appreciated.

I had a question, my boyfriend and I have had intercourse several times and the first time I didnt bleed either so he doesnt believe me that he was my first. what can I do to prove to him that he is and just because I didnt bleed doesnt mean that I wasnt a virgin when we first had intercourse?im not sure why I havent bled, we've had intercourse several times, but maybe it because we havent had intercourse on a bed or something.. rather standing up? im not quite sure..

okay you obv dont seem to understand popping your cherry is the exact same thing as losing your virginity

and just because you popped your cherry dosnt mean your going to bleed out everywhere
you could have bled but didnt notice as it is usually a small amout

well it could be that you popped it already because girls that wear tampons ride bikes and play other sports have popped it before their first time and it could also be that you just didnt bleed not all girls bleed when they have their first time

Hey don't worry about the fact that you didn't bleed. I didn't bleed at all my first time. Some girls just don't bleed. Its going to hurt the first time mine did too. darthornx pretty much summed it all up. I couldn't put any better myself.

Why are you worried 'because you didnt bleed? I think it would have been more uncomfortable if you had bleed. I didnt bleed either, actually it didnt hurt and that was 'because my boy was so gentle all the time, he contained himself 'til I was wet enough.
And it helped that we had tons of oral sex before (so for the 1rst time we already knew what we both enjoyed and the best places to touch) and that we talk 'bout EVERYTHING, even only-girl-stuff.
And now I'm clueless why American girls get worried 'bout getting popped their cherry so much, I think the big deal is HOW and with WHO do you get it popped!!!

try to make it last a long time. you might be scared at first, but it doesn't last. use as many sex positions as possible. one website has tons of sex positions. try http://www.sexual-health-resource.org/sex_positions.htm#positions

I had my first time a couple of weeks ago and the same thing happened to me. I was in a lot of pain but I didn't bleed. I wouldn't worry about it, it's perfectly normal if you didn't bleed, some girls do, some girls don't (:

I don't wanna sound like a loser or whatever, but if people are worried abut bleeding and not bleeding and having sex for the first timebeing scared then one word should really help you: abstinence. I'm a Christian and I grew up being taughtbelieving in waiting till Marriage. Some people don't believe in Jesus Christ, and I totally understand... but I am waiting until marriage to have sex, with someone who will understand me and all the reasons why I have waited and maybe he can answer the questions I'm curious about. Hope I couldv'e helped(:

im a guy but my moms a paramedic and she sed if you go horse back riding that can strech it out and rip it...im no girl so I dont realy no...hope I've helped

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ok when you pop a cheery you probibly didnt bleed because you may have done it when inserting a tampon. 1st time sex does hurt some people see it as it feels good at the same time. When you have sex make sure your always protected. I have had the problem while having intercourse at the beging to have pain, what I do is have the guy finger me 1st then we start intercourse and it helps a lot!

after I have sex for the first time I bleed a lot. for almost 3hours excessive blood goes out from me. and you know what I wish that I will bleed a little for it really got me scared. I feel so weak and pale and almost passed out. theres even some blood clot comes out thru me. I stayed in the bath tub for that three hours for using some pad is useless it even overflow on my three pants that I wear. you will feel the gushing and flowing of all the blood when I stand up. anyway whether you bleed or not you should be prepared of what the actions you will make. you might get pregnant, you might have STD, infection or maybe not so meaningfull first time sexual experience.
to avoid the pain try to have a foreplay first like kissing, cuddling necking, fingering and tell him to take it easy on you. which will make you wet where he can easily enters his penis or use a lubricant.
and check up with your moms ob/gyn.(sometimes a cyst or blockage causes that)

Ok no complicated long answers. If your guy made it all the way back you broke your hymen and not a virgin anymore. simple and clean.

I was a virgin and having sex for the first time did hurt and then started to bleed which I assumed was normal, but then after a couple of days we had sex again and I bled, which makes me think there might be something wrong, is it normal to always bleed during and after sex?

I've'e told enough bout myself if your lucky I'll tell you

Well I didn't bleed my first time; it wasn't until the 5th time that I actually bled, and it was only a little. Its completely normal, every womens body is different!!!