Does fingering hurt and what does the girl do during it?

I'm 14 and there's this guy that I really like and he really likes me too and we are basically going out. And so he said that he wanted to finger me and I have no problem with that, I actually want him to so ya.. but like a few questions:: Does it hurt...

when you get fingered?? What does the girl do when he's fingering you?? And if he pops my cherry (he said he really wanted to) I know that I might bleed but what does the guy do when I do bleed? Just take out his finger for a bit and then put it back in??

Well ... I can tell you are really confussed about this whole thing and so was I. My boyfriend fingered me for the first time last weekend (Friday). It depends ...if he has fingered a girl before you he should know what he is doing...but if he is like my boyfriend and its his first time too... it different...it didnt hurt me but I told him to start slow and not that deep...he was sweet ad asked if he was going to fast or to slow or deep or not deep enough... so it can hurt if he does it to fast or goes to deep for your first time.

Now about what your supposed to do ...my boyfriend and I kiss well he was doing it ...it helped me and him both relax.

See I always thought I would bleed but I didnt it he only uses one finger which you probably only want him to for starters...your shouldnt bleed cause its not going to be rough but then again you may still have an intact cherry ...so before he does it let him know that you might bleed...talk to him before he does it1

I hope this helped you
at leasta little bit

ThisGirl

If he is gently it does not hurt, and meantime you may deal with his d.ck.

well when me and my boyfriend have sex and he always dose that to get me turned on ok well when he first did that he already new how to do it any ways yeah it didnt hurt me it really felt good and what I did was just lay down and really injoy it its a good feeling it actully makes you moan and you get really turnd on!!

Well first off, make sure his hands are clean! You really don't want an infection from a dirty boys hands! Girl! you are 14! wow, I didn't start til I was 15, but then again I did go all the way. Make sure your %100 ready. As well as responsible.

As far as bleeding goes. I dont think thats a factor. Unless hes going with more then 1 finger.

Make sure you have some kind of lubricant. Don't take it dry.
Usually, people would make out. I would suggest you just take in the experience and really see if you like it. The whole fingering experience is for the females enjoyment! So go ahead and enjoy!

The whole point of fingering is to erouse the female and open her up before sex. Not just to finger her and stop. But once again, know exactly what you want out of it. If you feel at all uncomfortable,or it hurts, don't be affraid to say STOP!

Fingering does not hurt at all, its really relaxing and actually feels amazing.
my boyfriend fingered me for the first time last weekend, and I'm in love with it, and so is he. he says that he loves to do it..
while he's fingering you, you can do anything you feel comfortable with.. kissing, touching him.. I usually kiss my boyfriends neck, or he kisses mine.
your cherry usually doesnt pop while fingering unless he goes real hard and deep.. so I wouldnt worry.
if you have any questions, feel free to funmail me.
and remember, just have fun and relax!

Well when i was seeing dis lad i was only 12 when he fingered me for the first time but hey i reaslly didnt know what he was doing and i dont fink he did either it hurt me because he went really deep and i was bleeding for quite a while but now i luv it because it makes you realax and feel so good about yourself

honestly, getting fingered by my boyfriend was the best decision i have EVER made. i was really really self concious about it at first, but when i let him do it, it felt as if we were closer. and it's a great feeling to feel closer. and it's a great feeling to have his hands be down there ; ]

no, it doesnt hurt, its AMAZING. guys love it when you moan or say their name during it, trust me ;]

well it hus the first time but it feels good after awhile and about the bleeding yeah it will bleed but he doesnt have to take his hand out until he wants but blood will get all over you and it will bleed for like a day or two but not badly

aww lol just like when i first fingered my girlfriend... im 16...don't be nervous about it. my gf is very shy so i had to make sure she was calm and relaxed before starting and when i did start...well...what he should do is work his way to fingering you and actually penitrating you but should start by rubbing the area outside your vaginal opening... remember hes doing this to make you feel amazing...at least he should be...anyway just relax and enjoy it i know my gf did. :D

aw. i remember the first time my boyfriend fingered me. but no it won't hurt not at all. you just relax through it. you can kiss if you'd like or you could just sit back and enjoy it. you're the one that's in control. if it's your first time the boy you're with should take it very slow at first. he should just rub all over the area, and then go in with 1 finger. unless he could fit more in without hurting you.

during it guys also find it pleasurable for themselves if you moan or say there name.. or grab on to them tightly. your boyfriend my also grab your boobs or something else to give you more of a great feeling. and no you won't bleed. unless he really digs at it and goes deep.
just have a fun time and relax. it should be enjoyable for the both of you.

practice on urself

MY BOYFRIEND IS ALWAYS TALKING ABOUT OTHER GIRLS AROUND ME IT DRIVES ME CRAZY . ECSPEACILY WHEN HE COMES TO SCHOOL AND SAYS I HAVE COMPOTION WITH HIS EX jENNIFER SHE IS WAY OLDER AND SHE IS GORGEOUS BUT TO KEEP HIM I AM FORCING MY SELF TO LET HIM FEEL MY BOOBS AND ALL OF THAT IM NOT READY IM ONLY 13 AND I LOVE HIM BUT HOW DO I GET HIM TO KEEP INTREST IN M E. HE WANTS TO LOSE HIS VIRGINTY TO ME NEXT YEAR IN EIGHTH GRADE BUT IM SCARED . I HAVENT EVEN HAD MY FRIST KISS . HE THINKS I HAVE THOUGH AND HE THINKS THAT I HAVE LET A GUY FINGER ME BEFORE . BECAUSE I HAVE VERY BID BREAST AND A LARGE BUT HE CALLS ME SEXY AND THEN CALLS ME FAT I AM REALLY TALL AND BIG BONED . HE I S SHORT BUT SEXY . HE IS REALLY INTO FITNESS AND SO AM I . i THINK HE WILL DUMP ME IF I TELL HIM MY REAL WEIGHT I WEIGH 164 POUND HE THINKS I WEIGH 104 . I DONT EAT AT LUNCH ,WELL I EAT BUT JUST A BANANA . HE HAS DATED MY BFF AND NOW THEIR BEST FREINDS BUT I WANT TO BE INTHEIR SPAECIAL BOND ALSO . i WOULD RALLY APPRICIATE THE ADVICE .

damn. I'm as confused as this girl. anyone want to help?

guys love it when you moan or say their name during it This is true, but the first time I moaned my boyfriend's name, he stopped because he thought he did something wrong or something I didn't like, haha! Just an amusing side note...anyways, I digress.

Best thing to do is relax and enjoy, if you're tense, it'll hurt more. Make sure you're turned on and wet, get him to stick to the outside lips of your vagina and the clit for starters, in no time you'll be ready for it. When he does enter, get him to use one finger gently at first. If it hurts, don't even try two yet. You'll feel some pressure, for sure, but if it hurts, tell him right away, so he can try something else. It may hurt in certain areas, and may not in others.

While he's doing that, do what feels right. Kiss him and run your hands through his hair if you like that, or return the favour and put your hand down his pants, hmm? lol

Don't be afraid to tell him what feels good or what hurts. And don't be afraid to tell him exactly when to stop. It can get sore after a little while.

One finger might not 'pop your cherry', but if something happens and you begin to bleed, it might be so little that neither of you notice, or you might want to stop and try again in a couple days. It's completely up to you, and if you are uncomfortable continuing, tell him to stop.

If you are sore for a couple days after, that's normal and I wouldn't suggest trying again right away until the soreness disappears.

Have fun, be safe, and make sure his hands are clean for goodness sake!

Kissing is good because it makes you relax, and if he doesn't go to deep and your not to tight then it shouldn't hurt too much after your first time its better an du no how to react and stuff, or if your one of those people who is calmed by talking then jst talk but quietly and preferably about somethign relevant not absolute nonsense.

do what seems comfortable. I usually close my eyes and kiss him and I quite often end up opening my eyes suddenly because it fells really good so this lets him no, but jst do wotevea is natural for u.

Girl , if its your first time ask him to go slow and speed up the pace after a while- if he respects you he will do it.

Its some thing natural and just enjoy the moment, but dont lie there doing nothing because he might think that he isnt satisfying enough.Try moaning or breathing deeply and heavily or just start touching him.

jasmeinklio, you need some help
start eating more than a bannana at lunch, if he doenst like you for who you are its not worth it.
and I dont see why you need to disclose your weight to him. if it's private then you shouldnt feel the need to tell him!
if when he talks to other girls bothers you, talk to him about it and tell him you dont like that.
and do not let a guy finger you and feel your boobs just so he'll like you. youre too young and you shouldnt be worrying about your virginity, its natural and it will happen when the time is right.
Dont lie to make yourself feel better.
hope this helps ?

for me, it didnt hurt.
it felt amazing when my boyfriend did for the first time.
but it varies, some women have a thicker hymen than others, or some don't have one at all.

you can do pretty much anything.
you can kiss, makeout, or you can just sit there and enjoy.
my boyfriend kisses my neck when we do it.

hrmm, maybe im just a freak. I like sex, and oral but fingering... actually yes I find it a little painful. With some guys its been ok with others not so much, for any guys reading this Finger Nails HURT. make sure your guys hands arent to dry and his nails are clipped short as they can or yes it CAN hurt. I honestly cant stand it im really sensitive in my vag and fingers arent smooth and silky like a penis is. Everyones different its not for everyone.

At first, fingering hurts pretty badly. After a while though, it starts feeling amazing. A myth about cherry popping is that massive amounts of blood with pour out. Actually, the hymen tears over time. You may notice some spotting in your underwear, but usually that is the extent of it. As for what to do during it, I am usually on top when it happens. I squeeze his back really hard (but not on purpose LOL) and don't really have time to think about what to be doing.
To make this short, go for it. It gets really good.
(: