What if my mom makes me feel very uncomfortable?

My mom makes me feel extremely uncomfortable...she tells me I'm cute (all the time) and tells me I'm growing up to fast and grabs my ass a lot......What do I do?....I feel like she's a-reach-and-a-grab away from going to far! She has done some pretty weird stuff in her past....PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE
Sad_kloud
(Yoshimaru)

Try to take the idea of 'confronting' her about this out of your head. Confrontations connote arguing and drama. Next time she grabs your ass, take it head on. Say, 'Mom, it makes me uncomfortably ill whenever you grab my ass. Stop doing that, please!' Your tone can be friendly and with somewhat of a sense of humor about it, it doesn't need to be a big confrontation or sit down talk. Don't make this any more uncomfortable than it already is, you know? Just tell her directly, off the cuff, next time she does it. That should open it up for you. She'll look at you all surprised and be like, 'what?' Then you can take a moment and reaffirm that it really makes you uncomfortable around her when she does that.

Your mother may be one of those moms who hasn't gotten it through her head that you are not a little boy anymore, that you are now a young man who needs his body and space respected. They still see you as a little boy sometimes.

Seriously--I just realized in the last year that my son is too old to sleep with me. Not that we did it a lot, but I wouldn't have a problem if he climbed in bed with me after a bad dream or if we snuggled under the covers sometimes. But now, he's 11 years old, eh...it would be weird and I realize he is no longer a little boy. No more laying in bed half naked with mom anymore. Some moms don't come to this realization on their own. So point it out to her. No need to make it dramatic, she'll probably be shocked when she realizes what she's been doing. She may just need that little nudge to point it out to her.

Woa! You need to immediately confront her about this. Tell her how uncomfortable you are when she does this. Don’t freak out the next time she does it though. Just tell her how you feel about it. If you don’t, she is going to continue! If you tell her, and she doesn’t stop then you need to tell someone who can fix the situation. Good luck! I really hope she stops and understands.

sometimes mums are just wierd like this. but maybe you should just tell her to stop it and because your growing up youre fed up with her doing stuff liek that to u! hope it helps xx

Dear sad_kloud,
The fact that you say she has done some weird stuff in the past is a big red flag and that she makes you feel uncomfortable is our inner voice saying something is going terribly wrong. So confronting her may not be the answer simply because if you do it in the wrong manner you may cause more problems then you have now. This is something you need to talk with a professional about. Your mother may be sick and need some help...all could stem from her childhood. What ever her reasons for this behaviour it's wrong and it's not going to go away just by telling her it's inappropriate. Until you see a counsellor avoid being alone with her.
Sue...good luck

EEEWWW!! that's gross TELL YOUR MOM TO LAY OFF!!!!!!!!! you JUST CANT DO STUFFLIKE THAT IT'S WRONG IN THE EYE'S OFTHE LORD,but I think you should eas into it.tellin her off might just set the wrong thing on fire.

Sounds like she is hitting on you, maybe you should have a friend over and then she what they think, then if it is hitting on you, get a number of an adult, then tell them!!!!

PLEASE LISTEN TO THIS:
Don't listen to those other people- they are very stupid- Find a responsible adult(a teacher, or a close friends parents) IMMEDIATELY! tell them about your situation and make it very clear that you are serious and this is no joke....
Do NOT wait until this escalates, because it will be too late!
Good luck!!!!!!!!

you'r mom just want's to show you that she love's you!.. NOT!! what you'r mom is doin is soo not right!! I dont wont to talk about you'r mom but she must be sick in the head or something tell her to cut it out and if you already did and she still dosent stop then you can call the copes on her!! but I could understand you not wonting to call the police on you'r own mom but somthing has got to happen!!