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How to deal with my ex and father of my children?

Okay So I broke up with my ex fiance 5 in half months ago..and we still talk since we have children together, he thinks I ran away from the relationship and hates me for it but yet he says he still loves me. but can be a total as* on the phone…I dont know what to do, I dont want him to love me anymore but I also dont want him to hate me as our relationship also turned into a friendship…it just makes things akward like I havent even seen him since, he actually picks the girls up from my moms…I just hate the akwardness. any advice?

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Answer #1

Well most relationships go through a phase where you do hate the person you love because let’s face it, it sucks to be hurting! I’m not saying it’s your fault or his fault, it’s nobodies fault. It didn’t work out that’s all but going from being your boyfriend to friend is really hard (even for you!). I think you got to give him some space and some time. He wants you to suffer because he is suffering. Will he ever get over it? Well, eventually he will meet other people and move on but it may be a while yet and he might never be able to let go of the hurt he has inside. the important thing is that you guys can be functional for the kids which mens no fighting or using them against one another. He’ll always love you in a way and he just has to learn to live with that and move on. Try avoiding phone conversations as much as possible and do eventually face up to him by being the one who hands over the kids. After all, you guys are going to have to make it work one way or another. It just takes some practice and some time.

Answer #2

He treats you like crap because you allow him to. You have to interact with each other on some level, so he needs to learn to treat you with respect, no matter how bad he is hurting. If he says something to you on the phone that is disrespectful, tell him without any emotion in your voice that you refuse to be talked to that way and hang up. Continue to hang up on him every time he says something disrespectful. He will eventually call back, because he has to.

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