He keeps leaving and coming back, what do i do?

So, I've dated the same guy for...well a little bit of forever really. He recently tried to break up with me, and took it back saying he had listened to his friends and he's sorry. He, the very next month, drove to my house and tried to leave once...

again...only to sit in my floor and cry and complain that it was the biggest mistake of his life. So...he just over a month later (this month) sent me a txt message that said he loves me with all of his heart and he's sorry that he just feels he's very young for a serious relationship and that he regrets having to hurt me but that he just can't do this right now. He swore it wasn't a change of heart and that he loves me and he's sorry and really cares about me still and wants to be my friends. I can't help but to think his friend may once again be behind this. I am completely miserable..and I keep praying that he will come back...I don't know what to do. If anyone that reads this and prays would not mind helping, I would appreciate it. Any advice or prayers would be gladly accepted. Also, what is the possibility that someone may have cursed me or something? That could happen right..and how am I to resolve that? HELP ..I'm so depressed...

I am going thru the same thing right now. My boyfriend of over a year broke up with me just about every 3 months while we were together. Everytime that he would come to me and say that he was just not happy and didn't know what he wanted I would tell him that although I was sad and I loved him I wanted him to be happy so just to leave. Most times he did leave and called me all day long and after a week he would be right back. The second time I told him to just leave he fell on the floor, put his head in my lap and cried. I just held him and told him everything was going to be ok. We were back together within days. After a little over a year of this, 2 months ago, he finally broke up with me. I didn't do much to fight it but believe me I have missed him and suffered beyond belief since. The other day I found out that he is dating another girl who he met exactly 1 month after we broke up. He even managed to tell me how happy he is now and he's not depressed anymore because I used to make him feel like he was tied down. It's amazing what men will say and do to justify their behavior. He was always free to leave and always returned on his own accord. When I pointed that out to him he was put in his spot and admitted to me that yes that was true. ALthough I called and text messaged him for awhile I finally gave that up and now he holds on to any chance he can get to communicate with me. Although I want to talk to him and miss him and I know what he feels even if he doesn't he doesn't do what need tobe done to be a good man to me. He has to know that he loves me to. I guess what I'm trying to say to you is this, You can love him and respect him and want him in your life so bad it hurts (literally) but he's going to do what he feels in his head is what he needs at that moment. I wish so badly that I had stood up for myself along time ago so that I wouldn't be in the despair that I am in now. I wish that I had said to him when he was going back and forth, my god I treat you with more love and I care for you better and more than you will ever realize and you still feel the need to leave, my god just leave me alone. After everything I put up with, all the understanding I had for his situation and his feelings in the end was worth him finding someone else after 1 month. Everyone says that if a man truly loves you he would go oevr hell and highwater to be with you. Although I believe that's true I also think that the man has to be emotionally, mentally and physically able to do it. He can love you until the end of time but if he doesn't believe in himself enough to love you and stand up for that now time WITH you won't change him at all. What you want is for him to grow as person and a man and if in the end it was meant to be he will come back with the ability to deal with anything with you. Otherwise just imagine how hard a life with him would be. The real suffering you would have to go thru everyday of your life with this man. You can love him and miss and feel desperate without him but (and since I'm still here this is very hard to say but) let him go and do what he needs to do for himself (and painfull I have to say that may be with another girl, please don't go psycho. Keep your dignity) and if he comes back a changed and better man who's ready to treat you like a lady who loves him than wonderful. Otherwise please save your self and your love for someone who can't live without you in his life.

From one broken heart to another,
Take care.

Why sould he listen to his friend if he knows how he feels for you. I think he is selfish why should he hurt your feelings doesnt he care. Its good that you take him back every time he apologize but for once think about yourself you also have a life. Being with a guy for so long does not mean you will be with him forever just be wise and do the right thing.

If he would come back I would tell him I have to think about it. I would make him realize that he can't just drop in and out of my life when he wants to. I know being with him a long time doesn't mean forever, but we planned on getting married and stuff. He says he's sorry he keeps hurting me.and that he loves me..but...he's not showing it very well...I just really don't want to lose him..and...I don't know what I'm supposed to do..I would do the right thing..if I had any options..but I don't..and I feel like such a fool for believing anything he ever told me.

You want to marry this guy who keeps leaving every month?
He is selfish and immature and obviously doesnt know what he wants...
I know you love him, but why put yourself through this over a guy who obviously doesn't care about you as much as you care about him?

No one cursed you, this is entirely his fault not some cosmic curse...

I guess it will just take time...I just don't know how to get over him... I'm not ready to move on..and I just moved to this town so I don't really have anyone to hang out with yet... UGH!!! why did this have to happen to me?! I was perfectly happy... = I didn't even know I could be this miserable..I didn't know it was possible for emotions to physically hurt so much... _

..why did my title change...that's not the title I posted this with and that's not the title I want...that's not my question

What's your question... funmail me or post a comment (I might forget to check this)
make sure it's a question...
And yeah it will take a while, especially if you're lonely... but better now than later on when you're even more involved with him...