Communicating with my son's mother

ok,I recently stopped drinking I was a heavy drinker,I lost my job,and and havnt seen my 4 year old son in three months,I do not have any child support for him and im sure his mother is going crazy wondering where I am,but im now 2months sober and...

looking for a new job,but since I've stopped drinking I've kind of been real down and stressed,and I miss my son a lot,and I want to see him,or at least speak to him,but im not sure what to say to his mother when I call,she just going to think im full of bulls;;t,but the thing is im really trying,and we havnt went to childsupport court yet so shes not obligated to let me see him,so I havent payed childsupport for a couple of months,and havent spoken to her,so how should I go about,speaking to her?

You could show her you're being responsible by setting up a court date for support - being sober and with a job - that would go a long way...I wish you the best !!

AWW IM SRY your GOING THRU THIS MAYBE YOU CAN CALL AND EXPLAIN EVRYTHNG YOU JUST SAID AND ASK HER IF SHE CAN AT LEAST LET YOU HERE HIS VOICE...

Seems to me that you should put your child before your stress and feeling down and find a job, any job, for now. Then call her and show her that you are trying to get straightened out. Right now, all you have to tell her is that you have stopped drinking, but until she sees something, she may not believe you.
Then, after you get a job, you should get caught up on your support and just keep doing that. She shouldn't have any problem with you seeing your son then.

amblessed,you know that crossed my mind,I think I might do that..

Do you have a sponser in AA? They can usually fill in the blanks when you have questions on the right way to go about things such as that. Life must feel really strange right now. The longer you stay sober, the more situations you will know intuitively how to handle, but until that happens... call your sponsor. If I were in your ex's shoes, I would want to see obscene amounts of back child support, effort to improve your own life, and sober time before I let you near the kiddo.

It seems you've had it rough with the drinking, yet there is always hope.

First of all moms will always look for the best interest of the child. If you claim sobriety, I as a mom would like to see proof.

You lost a lot so now it's time to regain what you have lost. Work on yourself first clean up your act, get the job, go for the child support situation. Make the call to your childs mom and talk.

Explain if you wish, most likely she kind of knows but deal with the facts.
The child is the most important thing now and kids deserve the best we brought them into this world.
Try to start a good relationship with both mother and child even if seperate but it's for the well-being of the child.
Children need both parents even if not together.
Stay sober for you and for your child.
Good luck on your recovery and your life.

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