Cell phone drama with my daughter, what do you think?

Hey anyone, I just bought my daughter who is 12 a cell phone. My husband is extremely upset with me. He told her that anytime she uses the phone, she is using against his will! what do you think I should do? I feel it is necessary for communication purposes.

Talk with your husband and daughter together and explain that it is to be turned off unless it is an emergency. There are ways to track calls online so that your daughter understands it's only to be used in an emergency, or when she deserves a reward. Remind her that good grades are necessary to use it for friend calls. Make sure you and your husband talk though. Hard feelings are never good.

there are cell phones for kids you can program numbers into so she cant give or take numbers that you dont trust or have no knowledge about and you should ask yourself if she actually needed it does she stay away from home a lot or get lost easily and did you buy it for saftey reasons or to be the cool mom

well? my mom and dad wont let me have a cell phone until I am 16 and I am 14. and but I would say it is good that you got her one just in case she plays sports and needs a ride home or something like that is good for the cell phone use so talk to your husband and tell him that he should just let her use it b/c of her school activites and things but think about the useful things for a cell phone?

I sayit is good and bad at the same time...well first you should take of her text messages because they love to text during scholl and not pay attention in class.. and co to your campany and do parental control plan on her number that mean no calls after 9 monday through friday and weekend make it till 11... but jux in case she stays talking till late you should tell her to give you her phone every night and you give it to her in the morning.. and you have to check he phone when she comes and goes to and from school and always have it on at night in case she gets little boy friend messages... and tell her that is her grade drop her phone drops to not being her no more so she can focus more on school that is what I did to my 14 year old daughter.. and I bet your husband wil not be mad at you no more after you let him read my message

I got my first cell phone when I was 11, my Mom got me one when I was going away to camp and she wanted to be able to phone me + check I was okay etc.
I don't think it's bad at all, I think your right and that she needs one so you can keep in touch when she's out an arange where to pick her up from places etc.

xx

OMG !!!

Am 12 aswell, your husband upset because he don't want his little girl growin up .

talk to your husband and try to get him to let you still have the cell phone without feeling bad.

my cell phone saved my life when I was 12. remind him that if something were to happen to her and the only way she could call 911 was with her cell, and that was how she was saved, your husband would think cell phones were the greatest. just tell him that who knows, maybe one day it could save her life if she was kidnapped or something.

yeah im 13 and uh no offense to your husband but that was pretty harsh about what he said about ``using it against his will`` ouch poor girl that must make her feel just awfull!!! I mean you are supposed to enjoy life yeah I understand that not everything is purfect and goes your way at times but I mean getting a new phone is supposed to be enjoyable I hardly think that anybody can enjoy their first phone knowing that your own father hates the idea, and do you think that its possible that he just doesnt want his little girl to grow up?

yeah im 13 and uh no offense to your husband but that was pretty harsh about what he said about ``using it against his will`` ouch poor girl that must make her feel just awfull!!! I mean you are supposed to enjoy life yeah I understand that not everything is purfect and goes your way at times but I mean getting a new phone is supposed to be enjoyable I hardly think that anybody can enjoy their first phone knowing that your own father hates the idea, and do you think that its possible that he just doesnt want his little girl to grow up?

OUCH POOR GIRL!!! I feel sooo bad for her I got my first one when I was 12 also and it was the highlight of my 12 yr old experience, and I bet that your husband just doesnt want her to grow up but still I think that maybe you should calmly talk to your husband about it and after he calms down and thinks that its a good idea like what the other peoplezez said then ask him to tell your daughter that its a good idea to have a phone it might make her feel better about having it if she feels down about what her dad said about it <3

My daughter is 8, and I just bought her her first cellphone.

I added her to my family plan via Sprint and while the phone was costly (I bought her the pink Sprint Katana) ... it allowed my husband and I to block outgoing and incoming calls.

She has unlimited text messaging so long as she keeps her grades B and above.

We blocked all internet access, etc etc and I control who she can call, and who can call her. It works great for her as she's in Poms, afterschool programs, she spends the night with my parents... and she knows she can always get ahold of myself or my husband.

I think this day in age cellphones are a vital link for our children, and actually you can even get them with GPS navigation, which works to the parents benefit as well.

I would explain the benefits and why you feel it is necessary that she have a phone to your husband.

I know its the best thing I ever did for my daughter, and she's only 8.