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Catching a cheating boyfriend

I feel lame bringing this up in a public forum, but anywho…I’m seeing this guy right, has been about a month now so still early days. I was talking to a friend on msn who goes on a dating site a fair bit which I make fun of her about. She one day tells me that she came across a picture of a guy on the site who looks a lot like my boyfriend…I was like WTF?? nooo, wouldn’t actually be him. But she showed me and yes it was him - a member on this dating site despite being in a relationship with me. I’m upset. I want to catch him out. So I made up a fake profile and started to flirt with him on this stupid site. YES that was really lame of me - but I caught him out big time. He was suggesting to meet up with this ‘fake girl’ the next day, when he was meant to be seeing me! Meanwhile I was also on msn talking to him as myself and he was being his usual sweet self. I was sooo furious and hurt that he was really flirting back so I ended the conversation by giving him my number - my real number not a fake one. He suddenly wised up that it was actually his girlfriend, and he went off at me. Apparently I’m in the wrong for catching him out - not him for flirting with girls and suggesting to meet for sex behind my back??? What do you guys think, did I go too far?? Or was I justified in doing what I did?? How would you have dealt with it?

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Answer #1

I haven’t broken up with him yet, we are having time apart. He has gone from being angry at me to being really sorry and has said I deserve better but he wants me to forgive him. I don’t think I’ll forgive him, but I’m just stringing him along for a bit so he hurts as much as I did. Giving him false hope is mean but so is what he did to me! Thanks guys…

Answer #2

Awww intense, so sorry to hear your having some problems with your new man :(

Damn, its harsh what he did to you..He is dating you why does the boofhead need to have his dating account still activated? … His action indirectly screams out, I’m dating you but I’m also waiting for someone better to come along or he’s so sexual he needs more than your loving to satified the stick down there. :(

Good on you for doing what you did to suss him out, lol and he had the nerves to be mad at you, your boyfriend should be crawling on his knees begging for YOUR forgiven!!

I’m going to honest with you, you didnt mention in your Question to us, whether to dump him or not, but you asked whether your spying was wrong or right??? Geez you caught him organising a meet up, how can you be certain he hasn’t done the deed with other losers on the dating sites.

Answer #3

I think what you did was the right thing! You where not wrong, HE was. As for me I would have went as far as checking his phone when I meet up with him or asking for the pasword to his myspace or facebook. Lol it a problem I have but once you had a boyfriend cheat on you, you never really fully trust anyone .

Answer #4

HELL NO! YOU DID NOT GO TO FAR! He is on a public website, second its not like you were looking for it, your friend came across it! A GIRL HAS EVERY RIGHT (IF SUSPICION) TO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO SEE IF SHE IS GETTING PLAYED OR CHEATED ON. HE IS JUST SAYING THAT BECAUSE HE IS MAD HE GOT CAUGHT! YOU DID THE RIGHT THING GIRL, NEVER THINK YOU DIDNT!

Answer #5

You aren’t wrong… he’s an idiot, he’s disrespecful, and he got caught cheating on you, BY you, WITH you. And of course he’ll try and make YOU out to be the bad person… THAT’S WHAT CHEATERS DO.

Dump him… move on… end of story.

Answer #6

I think you did the right thing. If he wasnt ready for a relationship then he shouldnt have gotten in out with you. Good thing you found out or else he would have been playing with you

Answer #7

I think he deserved it. WAY TO GO GIRL!

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