Can best friends really fall in love?

ok im 17 with a b/f but I've also ben best friends w/ Todd for 10 years we grew up together and he has helped me w/ everything we have always been so close hes been spending the night w/ me since I cant even remember when we've always flirted but in a different way I mean we got "married" when we were 8 and I kicked a guy in 4th grade for him lol we have little nicknames for eachother and every where we go people think we are a couple I live in TN and he recently moved to Cali I've never had such a hard time I cried more when todd left than when my mother died he has been my entire family since I was 7 I have all these feelings for him we tried dating for a little while and it was the fastest most romantic relationship I had ever been in but I got really scared that if we were together too long and broke up I wouldnt ever get my best friend back my b/f is gr8 and I care about him so much but Todd well hes my todd I cant even begin to explain my feelings for him he calls me at least once everyday and we can talk about everything what do I do hes coming back for college but im only a junior so I wont be @ MTSU for a year and 7 mnths but hell be about an hour away this coming fall please help I think im in love w/ my best friend?

I thought the goal was to marrie your best friend. Call me crazy but it sounds like you are a perfect match.

well some best friends do fall in love and if you think you love this person and you want to be with him then I think you shoukd go for it

Good Luck!!!

...your lover should be your best friend. My advice for you would be to really have a heart to heart with Todd, and tell him exactly what you wrote here. Well, it seems to me that the best relationships … the ones that last – are frequently rooted in friendship. You know, one day you look at the person and you see something more than you did the night before. Like a switch has been flicked somewhere. And the person who was just a friend is suddenly the only person you can ever imagine yourself with.The only thing that hurts more than having a crush is having a crush on your best friend, because I no your going to be scared about what happens 'if' the realtionship doesnt work out.I think thats a chance you HAVE TO take. You and todd are more then friends, because friends dont care about each other the way you and todd care about each other. So go for it girl! Oh..and about your boyfriend... I would tell him to hit the road. You have some serious business to work out here, and I wish you the best of luck! Just remember....' your lover should be your best friend'

lax20 is right, tell him how you feel. But when I told my best friend how I felt, she said that she 'likes' me but doesn't 'fancy' me. We're still best friends though...

Well I have nothing to say other then I know how you feel. Im going through that right now. This girl has a boy friend, but she is more closer to me though..she talks to me more, we do everything together. we recently got 'married' (like you guys). Well I hope everythings has worked out for you. But I would realy appricieate if you can leave me some advice, I kinda asked the same question. Thanks!!

Oh my Im going through the same thing but im 15 and we are seen as a couple, his family says we'll end up marrying eachother but are other best friend has a history with him and she can't get over him for the life of her even though I know there officially over. Shes a great firend and I don't want to hurt her and I can't choose whos relationship is more important. What happened with you and Todd, I'd like to know and if you would give me some advice I would really appriciate it Thanks.

wow. same thing happened to me. I am also 15 and I told her about a week ago and she said that I was like a brother to her and she couldnt see herself going to with a brother, but she also said that it sucked cause she knew I would be a amazing boufriend. I really really love her and I need some advice on how to get her to like me. we know everything of each other and we are really close. please help me.

yes you can fall in love with your best friend! they say to be friends first! you guys gotta talk again and see whut is the best thing to do! I mean why not go ahead! I think if you guys do decide to go and get into a relationship and it dont work ask if you guys will continue to be friends all in all! that is the main thing! you no things do go wrong but can you guys remaine friends after that!