How can i be with him without feeling used?

hahah, mannnnnn...This is a difficult for me...When I went to go visit my friends in Germany this summer to train for cycling.. where I met a boy, Markus who also bikes on the team. Got along real well and hung out a few times..he really attracted me.....

love his hair, he smells good :-P he's freaking talllllll (64) he's funny...man all around.

I went back to Germany again during Winter break, we spent a lot of time together and that's when I lost it to him..I don't regret it..everything was fine after and he promised me we'd keep in touch when I leave, but when I got back to the U.S he wasn't talking much to me..

I noticed after a month he got a girlfriend and he IM'd me saying are we going to be friends? and I'm like thinking.. is he trying to make sure that he doesn't lose me, just in case my god......because I'm actually moving back to Germany anyway in the summer to pursue my cycling career, and train with my team and coaches,

but when I go back to Germany it's like I want to be with him because I know when we are around eachmother it's perfect, but I don't wanna seem like oh you can have me whenever you want it's so hard for me what should I do?

Show him that I have control now and keep our friendship on the DL or work things out?..I don't wanna feel used hmmmmmm give me some good advice on this one!

Girl he used you plain and simple thats what most guys want and face it dont hide it a fact is a fact. If a guy likes you or loves you he will wait for you but in this case you went nuts for him so it was your fault next time dont give it up that easy. That is my opinion but take which ever benefits you girl.

It sounds to me the guy only wanted one thing from you. He probably thinks that if you two remain friends then he could get it anytime you come out there. The best thing to do is to talk to him. See what kind of friends he wants to be, whether its friends with benefits or just plain friends. Let him know what you want to and not just what he wants. If he wants to be friends with benefits and you don't then tell him that and tell him that you don't want to be friends on the DL cause if you are just friends why do you have to hide it.

I agree, sounds like he only wanted a booty call, and continues to want a booty call wen eva you go back to Germany, bottom line.......he has a gf now, so you can only be his friend. Dont take it any further and treat him like any other friend.