Am i ready for children? help!! any opinion is appreciated!!

I am 26 years old and have been with my husband for nine years and married for almost three. He is ready for children and really wants one soon, he's going to be 31 on Sunday. He doesn't pressure me or get nasty about it but when the subject comes up...

we can't help to notice that we are on entirely different pages and sometimes even fight about it. I feel that I definitely know for sure that I want kids someday, I couldn't imagine never having any, but when I think about all the things that could go wrong with the pregnancy itself, all the things that could be wrong with the baby, all the added responsibilities and how it will forever effect my life, I freak out. I just can't picture myself as a mother. Is this normal or will all of my doubts and fears suddenly disappear when I am really ready to have children? Is anyone ever really ready? Should I just get over it and give my husband children because he wants them and I love him and want him to be happy?

I felt the same why you do before my daughter was born. All the doubts and worries dissappered when she was brought in to this world. I can't see me or my husband without her. She has brought us closer together and I am glad I choose to have childern.

You said yourself that you want children, so think about this - the older you get, the more risks you run of something going wrong.

There is no perfect time to have a child, but when you're in a stable relationship and you're financially and emotionally ready to care for a child, then what's stopping you?

You'll never get over your doubts - they're natural...the only way to get past it is to jump in with both feet and take that first step.

Just remember one thing...having a child with someone you love is a step to growing closer and strengthening the bond you two already share.

What your feeling is completely normal and what every other pregnant woman in the world worries about. It's normal to worry about things going wrong, about the responsibility, about money, etc. What you should not let that do - is stop you from having a family.

You and your husband should sit down and talk about your fears. Talk about the things that are worrying you, with him. Tell him how you feel about everything and see what input he has for you. You might be suprised at how much better it will make you feel.

I swear that every woman thinks like this - yet they still have children, they survive, and they love them with all their hearts.

You are focusing on the negatives...not the JOY...they will by FAR outweigh - your ages are just right - I would prayerfully approach the issue...Take care !!

I think you should give him children nine years is enough and anyway you wont regrett iit
your worry urself 4 no reason mayb this child will bring sumfing you av neva had. and your a wife nw so you kinda of sometime have to satisfied your husband. A marriage ia about giving and taking. you shuld consider his feelings 2

Picture this your in your home holding your new baby with your husband by your side.The perfect little face.Ten toes ten fingers.A beautiful bouncing baby. Yes there will always be obsticles in life but we over come them when we are parents.Haveing kids dont really change much except the fact that youll have to grow up. Youll have expensis no matter what you do. There is always complications with every day life. Every day you take risks just getting out of bed daily is a risk.Question is are you mature enough to take they risks? If you say yes then there is your answer. if you say no then you have made that choice.Good luck to you.