Am i a slut for having sex at 14?

Would people think im a sl*t if I told them I had s*x when I was 14?

slut might be too strong of a word, I think a better word would be STUPID!!! come on, you are fourteen, if you want to have s-x, at least keep you clothes on, because being pregnant at fouteen would suck. I wouldn't know for sure, because I'm a thirteen year old girl and never had s-x. seriously, I agree with angelfire, all these post saying no big deal, and everyone having s-x at an early age, it's like, what the hell!! seriously *shakes head in disgust*

Hi..This is what I think..If you had s+x with a 60 year old then you have been abused,if you had s+x with a 10 year old then you are abusing ,..but if you and a like minded lad of similar age do it, then.. Don't worry!! Its normal ! and we have all been there! So Peace and Love always Good Luck

if you're a sl*t for doing that then im also a slut
nobody should ever be called a sl*t or even a pimp for having s*x
its natural, enjoy yourself, those who call you a sl*t are jelious of you lol

you are SO not a slut.
do you sleep around with a lot of guys?
if not, then you are not a slut
you're human.

Look, im also 14
Im a virgin though but
im fixing to loose that.
but I promise you, You are
NOT A SL*t!! Unless you are
sleeping with like more than
one guy.. but just CHILL..
your fine..
if you need to talk, im here..
We probly have a lot in common..

Why would it matter what other people think?

You have to realize that people are very different. We have different opinions about things. Some people would call you a slut for that, and some people would not.

Personally, I don't care about age as much, but I do think people have to know a lot about s*x before they can have it responsibly. Some 14 year olds do know enough, but the vast majority do not.

No! You did it when you were ready, and when it felt right to you. Do you think that's slutty? Of course not! Besides, it's none of anyone else's business about your personal life.

since when did age matter the most..? i mean i know ppl that lost it when they were 12 and one that was 10 so..i guess they are probably mad that they cant get none..or if its boys..that u didnt do it with them but if they were that age and lost it then..they are just jealous. screw them.its ur life not theirs.

hay your not a slut s3x is natural and as long as you make mature decissions like using extra percotions any kind of pertection then your fine and even thats a mature step for your age if you use protection..you would be surprized how many really young people dont.

I lost my virginity at age 11.. I'm a male tho, but nah, long as you don't do a lot of guys youre not.

I cant believe all these posts talking about 14 yr olds having sex like its nothing!
Heres something I dug up. These are actual quotes from teens!

How do girls feel the day after the first time they have sex with their boyfriends?

She said:
I felt as if I was rushed into it - but I was in love. Yet I felt guilty.
Cammy, 17
I felt cheap because I thought about what I did and I realized I wasn't ready for it.
Carla, 16
I felt strange and, in a sense, used. It was like we were both caring for the same person - him. I felt left out of it.
Elizabeth, 15
I felt angry, I had promised myself I would wait until I was married, but I did it anyway. Now it was too late. I had lost my virginity.
Alice, 15
I knew I had made the biggest mistake of my life. I felt stupid. I said I would never do it again, and I didn't.
Chandra, 14
I felt as if I had done something wrong. But aside from that, I felt stupid - ridiculous. I certainly didn't get any thrill out of it. It was embarrassing to say the least.
Eilene, 16
I worried, is he going to leave me? Did he go with me just to get what he wanted?
Anne, 19
I had mixed feelings. In a way, I thought I did it out of love, but then I was afraid I would get pregnant.
Kay, 16
I felt like God wasn't going to forgive me. I asked myself again and again, Why on earth did you do it?
Nancy, 17

I asked guys if they had ever dropped a girlfriend shortly after having sex with her, and if so, why.

He said:
You get bored. It's like a kid with a toy. When he first gets it, he spends all day with it. Then after he breaks it in, it's not fun anymore, so he finds another toy.
Reggie, 16
It's just like in the meat market. You just want to go out there and get some fresh meat.
Jim, 19
Sometimes that's the way love goes when sex comes into it. The sex is good, but only for that day. After that, you're finished.
Lewis, 16
After I have sex with a girl, I don't care if I see her anymore.
Jed, 15
After the first time we had sex, we stopped talking. She never called me and I never called her. I thought she was an easy catch because she gave me sex too quickly.
Winston, 15
At first I really liked her, but after I had sex with her, I saw she wasn't all I thought she was.
Antonio, 17
I fooled around with this girl after I knew her for only a few weeks, in the summer. I didn't feel a closeness to her so I just dropped her.
John, 16
After we had sex, she turned bitter and our relationship was poisoned.
Ivan, 18
I stopped seeing her because after that, she thought she owned me, and I couldn't endure it.
Lyron, 18
After I had sex with my girl of four months, she started acting strange - kind of stupid, so I dropped her.
Sean, 16
It always happens too fast. I never waited a long time for sex. Sometimes I wish a girl would say no and keep saying no. If we took it slow, we'd probably still be together.
Dean, 17

I asked girls whose boyfriends had dropped them shortly after sex with them to share their feelings with you.

She said:
My boyfriend broke up with me three months after we had sex. I guess it was because there was no more suspense, nothing to think about, no more what-ifs. I felt horrible.
Fran, 16
I went out with a guy for a month and then had sex with him. After that he never called me again. I felt like a fool.
Sunny, 16
My boyfriend and I were alone in this place. We made love for the first time that day. It was really good. Three weeks later, he ended the relationship because he had another girl. I felt depressed about the fact that what we had that night didn't mean anything to him.
Marva, 18
My boyfriend and I had broken up, but he called and that night we made love for the first time. After that he said he needed time to be alone. He was supposed to get back to me, but he never did. I felt used and betrayed. He had been my boyfriend for eleven months, and supposedly he loved me.
Rochelle, 15
Two days after I had sex with this guy he broke up with me. He said I was looking for a commitment and he wasn't. I wanted to kill him.
Donna, 16
A few days after I had sex with this guy he dropped me. I felt used.
Connie, 16
I went out with a guy for one week and had sex with him. After that, he wanted nothing to do with me. He dumped me. I guess he thought I was too [easy]. He didn't even think of me as a person. I was very disappointed because I thought sex was what he wanted from me - but it turned out not to be enough.
Rosa, 17
It was the second time I'd seen him since we met. The mood was there. He wanted to so I did it. But he didn't want to after that. I felt real easy and cheap, even though I'm really not. I just needed to be loved.
Coco, 17+

How does sex change a relationship?
Guys' Point of View

He said:
The relationship immediately became more serious. We started acting more like parents towards each other. I found it harder to let her down when I wanted to break up.
Nicky, 18
She became attached to me and wanted to see me every night and got hurt and upset when I didn't want to, so we broke up. There were bad feelings on her part. I was glad to get out of it.
Dwayne, 18
The girl falls too deeply in love with you and you don't want to see her anymore.
Carmine, 16
Everything got very serious after sex. No more fun.
Cory, 17
She acted as if I should worship her just because she was having sex with me. I got disgusted with her.
Lucien, 19
We felt more committed to each other and we started to argue a lot more.
Fred, 15
After we had sex I thought I could do anything I wanted, and she would just be there for me, I was wrong.
Lionel, 17
Sex either makes a relationship grow stronger or die - but usually the relationship dies because you're not ready for that much of a commitment.
Paul, 17

Girls share more thoughts on pre-marital sex . . .

She said:
Once you've lost your virginity, you can never get it back.
Tara, 15
Wait. If he says he likes you so much, yet he just wants to get his own way, no matter how you feel, that stinks. But it happens all the time.
Andrea, 18
It may be unrealistic, but if you have sex in relationships when you're not married you're taking the risk of having a very painful breakup because of the sexual ties.
Martha, 16
It sounds tacky, but I say wait until you're married. I know guys have more respect for virgins.
Sally, 17
Wait until you're married. Then when you have sex, it will mean something - that you're in love with your husband and want him to be the first.
Raquel, 17
There are a lot of guys who only want one thing, and after that, you're history.
Jennifer, 17
Guys are users and abusers. They just want to feed their pleasures and desires. They aren't concerned with your feelings at all.
Shannon, 17
Some boys say If you love me, you'll have sex with me, and some girls believe that if they do it, they will keep him. But having sex with a guy doesn't make him stay, because when he's ready to take off, believe me, he'll take off anyway.
Judy, 14
If I had it to do over again, I would save my virginity until I was married.
Valerie, 18

Guys' advice - to Girls - On when to start having sex . . .

He said:
Wait until you're married. Young men today are looking for young women who have not been used, abused, and accused.
Robert, 18
I know girls won't listen to this unless they're dedicated, but I advise them to wait until they're married...
Joey, 17
Wait until you're married. Most guys out there are users and you'll end up getting hurt, having a bad reputation, and more than likely, in the long run, being alone. Don't do it to make your boyfriend happy.
Hamilton, 18

I agree its your own opinion, but whats wrong with trying to be a kid, instead of trying to grow up so fast! We have our whole lives to be an adult than we do being a kid. ENJOY YOUR YOUTH, because it goes by soo quickly!!

not saying ure a slut or anything. but if ure having sex at 14 you are way too young do you want to get pregnant? if you dont slow down the next time you ask a question it will be how do I know if im pregnant or, im pregnant how do I tell my parents? dont listen too other 14 year olds they are babies and they will poison you. you are much smarter by asking. it means you are a step ahead of them. be wise. its not even all that by the way. my mom always said if ure already having sex you should be already ready to have a kid get it? my because used a condom every single time and she still got pregnant. when ure 14 you should be the hot girl all the guys dream of but can never get. once they get u. whats so special abt u? big deal. be wise.

I'd say... as long as you trust him - you have every right to have s+x! bin der done that! lol x

hey im 15 and im with the love of my life.
no pressure to have sex. our relationship
is built purely on love and friendship.
tommys my best friend and I love him to
death. no sex.. but I know what you are
going through.. people make bad decisions.
I think having sex at 14 is a bad decision but
you arent a slut unless you think you are..

so basically what im trying to say is --

YES -- you made a bad decision
NO -- you arent a slut or a wh0re or a b*tch.

ONETHINGYOUSHOULDKNOW:

you should know in your heart that you
arent going to let anybody hurt you
or walk all over you. you are a young
beautiful girl with the rest of your life.
you shouldnt feel pressured to find
your soulmate.

WHATYOUSHOULDDO:

you should meet new people and build
true friendships and experience new things.. MINUS SEX
and find what you want and learn new lessons..

OVERALL:

love is pain.

and you have to be hurt a few times to really experience true love.

no just dont get pregnant

no you are definatly not a slut ! I noe what your going through I lost mine just befor I turned 14 and for those people that say you were to young, it only depends age is just a number when you know what your doing and you are aware of the consequenses and you are sure you want to give it up to that guy you are not to young !I had s.e.x and I have had NO REGRETS at all ! it depends where you did it, who you did it with and the sircumstances that make you regret it ! so have fun with it, be careful and just think everytime you do it with a different person make sure your making the right decision !

hoped this helped =) and have funn

thanx everyone! but i just wanted to let you guys no that i am 15 now going on 16 soon

your a pretty girl and i dont think that anybody should be having s*x at 14 but its your body and you can do what you want with it but i dont think your a slut:D

is you want 2 have s+x then go have it but if she has a baby then its a diff story ok

sorry but yes if they ind out!!! BUT i others are doing it than i guess its ok!!! but do it with someone you love TRUELY not just some guy in ur grade!!!

im 15.
and in my opinion its too young.
you should have waited and nto lost it right on the spot.
now you have waisted that special moment for when you were 14.
Not to sound harsh, but thats what I think.