Should i have checked with husband before i got my nipples pierced?

Hey, I just got my nipples pierced. My husband thinks I am supposed to ask if I get pierced or tattooed. I think that is way wrong! did'nt ask by the way. what do you think? Thanx

I think it probably should have been a talking point, esp the tattoo. Then again if you profile is correct you're a bit older than me. If you have been in the relationship that long it would be interesting to spice things up that way.

That being said my mother got her ears pierced a second time (so two holes in each ear on the lob part) and never asked my dad about it. My dad was also not very observant when it came to things my mom did. He worked a lot (always 60+ hours a week) so it's easy for things like that to slip by. Actually they might have talked about it and he said no. I love my mom, but she was pretty headstrong.

I think that since you two are married, that it would be best to run ideas by each other before acting on them. When you got married, you became two parts of a whole. If after you talk to him he still doesn't like it, well, it is till your body. At elast you made him aware of what was going on.
Sam

I agree with some of the other members posts. You should most certainly always communicate your wishes to your spouse.

However, should you have to ask for permission to modify to your body? What year is it there in New Mexico? Have you found yourself married to a troglodyte?

On the other hand, perhaps your husband is hurt because you didn't include him in making such a big (in his opinion) decision. You just can't spring new nipple rings on some kinds of people!

you don't have to ask his permission, but I do agree with the above that you should at least inform him that you have made the decision beforehand.

after all he is your husband and communication is one of the key things for a happy, healthy relationship.

 
I may be in disagreement with most responders because I do think you should have discussed it with your husband AND gotten his approval.

When the two of you married you entered into an agreement that you two would act as one for the benefit of the relationship.

How would you feel if your husband decided to have a sex change operation without consulting you?

I know that's extreme but the principle is the same -- changing one's physical characteristics without consulting the other partner.

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