Can i get pregnant and have a baby at 13?

M 13 and very lonely I dont have a mom and my dad and sister's are mostly gone and when I see my friend taking care of her baby it makes me sad I know I want a baby but im afraid about sex cause im a virgin and about how whould my dad take it if I do...

become pregnant cause he always said if me or my older sister gets pregnant then he whould kick us out and I know I can take care of it cause ever since I was 7 i've been taking care of my baby sister plez respond I really need someone to talk 2

look you are to yong to have a baby its not a good idea just to get prenaget cause you are loney im sorry if im being harsh but you should wait till you are older and have a better reason to have one

It's more than just feeding it s*it. You're thirteen, you CAN'T get a JOB. Except babysitting, but you need to watch your child before you watch somebody elses. It's up half the night crying. You don't have anyone to help, as you said, you're dad sisters are usually gone. You're thirteen. Chill out wait. I know you're lonely, or so you say, but a BABY, ANOTHER LIFE IN YOUR HANDS, is not going to help that. Just talk to your family let them know you're feeling lonely. Dont try get pregnant, trust me. It's not worth it this young.

Sweetie, a baby needs a parent who is able to:
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~ teach from personal experience and guide along a wise path
~ afford the huge financial burden
~ provide a safe, warm and happy atmosphere
~ discern who best can babysit
~ love herself first before bringing another little life into this world.
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Please use this strong mothering desire in the context of minding others' kids. No, it won't be 'the same as your own', but it will help you see what an enormous responsibility the mother has.

Make a list of the things the child/ren's mother does:
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~ does she work? if so, at what? is SHE able to afford to be a mom?
~ how much time does the mother spend doing housework, or does she have a maid?
~ is school in the picture yet? Does Mom help with that?
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Are you thinking this through, or do you just think having a baby will fix your loneliness?
IF YOU DO THIS, YOU CAN NO LONGER BE FREE.

... one more thing: if you get pregnant, the father can be convicted of statutory RAPE, since you are under age. If he's under age too, think about what that will do to his life!

think it through...life is too precious.

I'm sorry you're feeling so lonely. Here's a hug ... (((you)))

Who are you going to get to father this baby? Have you seriously really thought this thing through? I honestly dont think you have the slightest clue about everything involved!

I can understand looking forward to the day you do and thinking about that day.. but truly desiring to get pregnant now... For one your body is not yet ready to have a child, so either it will hurt you very badly and/or you will have to have a cesarian which is major surgery and takes weeks of recovery. You cannot drive therefore you would have to depend on someone else to take you to your doctor's appts and someone to take you to your baby's doctor appointments. You don't have a job so you will not be able to afford these doctor's appointments, food for this baby, diapers, toys, bathing utensils and necessities, wipes, blankets, clothing, etc. No one will hire a 13 year old either.

What are you goign to do for the rest of your life?

Think about this... does a baby deserve to have physical problems because his/her mother was too young to actually carry them in her uterus for the full 9 months? And what will you do for those medical bills that build up during that time-- do you deserve to be in dept thousands of dollars? Does a baby deserve to starve, be cold, have no diapers, and no place to sleep because his/her mother wanted to have them without thinking of them (this baby)? Does this baby deserve to have a mother who is going to be so emotionally exhausted by the time he/she is 4-5 years old because of the mental strain this could cause to you? NO to all of those!

Whos going to watch the baby when you are in school 8 hrs/day 5 days/week?

I think you want someone to love you, accept you, and want you no matter what. And you think a baby can do that for you, but a baby is dependant on you 24 hours a day including 2 am feedings, 365 days a year, even when you want to go the mall with your friends! A baby is a huge responsibility, emotionally, physically, and financially! If you want someone to follow you, accept you, depend on you, and love you at the end of every day.. then get a puppy!

Don't wish your life away.. you only live it one time.

don't have a baby

I really think you shouldnt get pregnant. You're way too young. And if your dad kicks you out, then where are you going to go? Just make friends. Good friends who will give you good advice. Or if you want to talk more email me at Fun mail me.

I agree with everyone else. You should NOT be considering a baby. I feel bad that you're lonley so talk to your family about how you feel. If your family doesn't listen consider getting a pet. Pets are a great way to have fun and if you want one thats trained so you don't need to do any work, adopt an older one from a shelter. If pets are a no go have your friends over more often or go somewhere with them, but a baby, never! Wait till your older, much older for a desicion like that.

-Jessica

sorry to say it to ya but that's a bad idea, my mom had all her 7 kid's cus she was lonely and you should'nt have kid's becus of that, it's too much to deal with TRUST ME,

sweetheart...dont have a baby at 13 that is way to young..you are still a baby too. you may have been babysitting since you were 7 but you didnt have to buy all the things that your sister needed. When you have a baby you have to buy everything. Take this adive please. I am 16 and im 5 months pregnant. Im not ready to become a mom, but the father is with me through it all. We are not sure how we are going to handle a baby boy. Also if you are afraid to have sex...then you are not ready for a baby. 13 is just way to young, live your life and then when you are older like in your 20s please...then you can have a baby. You need a really good job to support your child. Well I hope you will listen to this. Make the right choice.
Kelly

I think you should really think about it! If your having doubts its prolly not a good idea but I think that if you do decide tooo then here is what I think There are places to go to if you get pregnet they help with shelter food clothes formula diapers and help get on medicaide!
call 1-800-448-3000... They will talk to you and give you more options and then with the pregnancy go to http://www.carenet.org umm look up clinics in your local phone book! You will be able to get help if you need it My sister in law was 15 and now she is a mom of 4 and is sooo happy. How old is your friend?

i would suggest not getting pregnant. it will make your life alot harder. i kinda want a baby too but i am not gonna go have s*x. I am going to wait for the right time and i think you should too. it would be really hard to care for your child on the street if you get kicked out.

oh my goodness. if you are lonely sweetie talk to someone but dont have a baby.
i know you would love it and it would give you something to cherish but u could never take care of it
taking care of your own baby is nothing like taking care of your baby sister. especially if you get kicked out. where would u live, how would u buy him/her everything it needs! A baby requires lots of money, and time, and you need to have knowledge of life, please, this will not stop u from being lonely sweetie,

you dont have a kid to love you.. you must want to have one to love the baby.. ur 13, thats insane.. dont waste ur precious youth talking care of a child

OH, Princess, I really feel sorry for you. What you don't understand is that you are the baby. What you really need is someone to love and take care of you. What you need is two parents with you in a proper home setting. Two parents who really take an interest in you. I wish I could solve that one for you but I can't unless you want me to adopt you. Think about it..what you are proposing to do is to create a situation for another child that is even worse than the one you are in. That would be a very mean and selfish thing to do. There are already far too many lonely unloved children in the world even in the rich country that you live in. Ok, I have an idea. It has been said that if you are lonely the best cure is to find someone else who is lonely and be their friend. Lets take it to the max, why don't you find a young girl like your self who has a baby and be a friend to her. I'm sure she will be glad to share it with you and she needs a break anyway. I guarantee you won't be lonely anymore and you will learn a lot from her experience. Please try it and let us know how it works out. A very caring Colt.

Well, if you WANT to get kicked out of your house and try to take care of a baby with no money and no place to live, than yes, I guess you could technically get pregnant. I'm not saying that it's a good idea, cus it's not. Pregnancy is an expensive thing. It costs about $30,000 to raise a child until the age of 18 now days. I doubt you're even close to that amount.

--Tyler

My best advice would be don't get pregnant evan if yoou think your ready phsically and emotionally your not. So i'd wait till your at least 17. I know i sound crazy but its most likely the best thing you could do.

I respect you for being a virgin. I am your age too and am one also.
I am going to wait till I am married because the Bible said so

Your mind should be on totally other things than what its on. You should be outside playing with your friends, going to the park, playing softball, and even playing house (no, NOT that kind of house). You are way too young to be thinking this way. Please talk to someone face to face soon.

YOU CAN HAVE A BABY AT 13 JUST MAKE SURE YOU HAVE WITH THE PERSON YOU LOVE AND LOSE YOUR VIRGINITY WITH THE GUY YOU THINK IS THE LUCKY ONE TO TAKE IT AWAY

they're all right don't have a baby your WAY to young. i'm really really sorry your lonely but you can have a boyfriend and have fun with out having s*x. best way to avoid pressure is just stick with friends and they'll help you through it. luv ya