Why cant he make me orgasm like I make myself?

I can have these amazing ones that make me want to just rape my hubby but when we have sex he tries and ill even give him pointers and put his hand or tongue or whatever he is using to where it feels good but I still cant get off hardly. and telling him would crush him. he really tries hard.and he has an amazing d!ck. its the perfect size.I mean sometimes its a bit much (8in.). I just want us to have a healthy sex life. im scared im always gonna hve to take care of myself. please tell me what you think will help.THANKS SO MUCH!

Answer #1

maybe your missus dont mind but 99% of men dont want it :p

Answer #2

I disagree with clawjaw that the last thing we men want to hear is that we are bad in bad. The last thing I want to hear was that I was doing something wrong in bed and my mate did not feel comfortable enough with me to tell me about it.

I do agree with clawjaw that there is no such thing as a perfect penis size. Everyone is different and responds to different things, so the perfect size for one will not be the perfect size for another.

I’m not going to try and guess what it is that your husband is doing wrong, but I will try and clear up two misconceptions you seem to be operating under.

First, the majority of women do not orgasm from vaginal intercourse. The vast majority. If you get off by yourself easily, it’s likely because you’re working in lots of clitoral stimulation as well, which is usually key for most women and usually absent from sex. If you end up only O’ing from self-pleasure, that does not mean anything is wrong with you or him. It’s perfectly normal, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t a lot of other things you can enjoy about sex.

Second, men WANT you tell them what they’re doing wrong, because that allows them to start doing things right, which allows them to rock your world, which allows them to feel like Greek gods even if they work at a gas station.

Lastly – and most critically – if you’re having trouble talking about your sex life with your husband, something is seriously fractured in your relationship. A healthy sex life is not just a bonus addition in a marriage; it is an essential component that affects every intimate facet of how you interact, as integral as trust, humor, respect, intimacy, understanding, and compromise. Don’t brush aside the fact that you’re having trouble opening up to him.

Answer #3

It’s sound to me doesn’t problems in the length or width. So you can rule that out. Stamina is not an issue. you just can’t get off hard… is that it. Well there are certain techniques you can use to give yourself a stronger O. But there are a few things you need to do first. #1 stop pleasing yourself. It is a known fact that pleasuring yourself desensitizes your O’s. No Toys no masturbation. I know it is frustrating but you can’t do it. #2 you have to be tough. Do not cuddle him… He needs to know guys who dont. dont change. Get pissed. and tell him. I have the same problem with my wife. I feel like a horse that needs to run, she is dont and screaming after the first 5 minutes. And like your husband I am gifted believe it or not If he is hung like I am you are luck. But if it doesn’t do the job you will cheat… you will say to yourself that that will never happen but you will. It is frustrating… and last. #3 try bring a copy of the kama sutra home. This is the bible of sex there is a lot of positions in there gaurenteed to do a lot more then you think. If that doesnt work let me know. I get some closet techniques that will blow your socks off… just not for the public… believe me my dosent complain. hope this helps.

Answer #4

well you cant really can a 8 inch dick the perfect size as the g-spot is inside less than 2 inches.. its not quantity, its quality and what you can do with it.. as you so well know now :o

hes ultimately inexperienced and you have to tell him..

yes the last thing we (as men) want to hear is that we’re crap in bed but your gonna have to if you want your sex life to become enjoyable..

remember marrage is about being honest with each other and sharing so if you cant tell him anything sexual then erm I dont like saying it and mean no disrespect… but whats the point of being married :)

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